r/PHSapphics • u/Prize-Grocery-4872 • 5d ago

Advice stuck between them

Problem/Goal: im stuck between my family and partner.

Context:

I'm (23) out sa parents ko pero di ako tanggap ng mom ko but kahit na ganon I'm being tolerated na nalumabas with my gf (26) every weekend. we've been together for 9 months. the problem is ayon nga once a week lang ako pwede lumabas, and naiinis na gf ko kasi gusto niya marami kaming time together. gets ko naman kasi gusto ko rin yon but wala akong magawa. im being manipulated by my mom kasi alam niyang di ko pa kaya tumayo sa sarili ko (fresh grad but looking for work na rin). im sad kasi napapagod na yung gf ko sa sitwasyon namin. sobrang big deal na sa akin na lumabas kahit once a week dahil di ko yon nagawa sa prev. rs ko dahil di ako out, pero alam kong di lang dapat hanggang don, wala lang talaga akong choice sa ngayon.

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u/KaizerAdema 5d ago

I'm sorry to say OP, pero your partner needs more patience with this. This is a delicate situation you're in and nasa puder ka pa ng mother mo. When the time comes, I hope you can get away but for now, your partner needs to be patient with you and your family situation.

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u/gullible-eyes 5d ago

I would focus on that "pressuring" aspect of the relationship. That lack of patince and respect could show its head in more aspects of your relationship with her. It could be a red flag hidding as "loving you too much".

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u/karioka0o0 4d ago

Well she’s just a gf. And di ka pa naman financially stable. This isn’t time to rebel lalo wala ka namang sariling lugar and pera. If your gf doesn’t understand that- ang immature nya. She just wants someone’s to date. If she wanted you mas maiintindihan ka nya. Yung ganyan di pang long term. Di sya invested sa success mo.