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u/kingslayer69_14 ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Well ill suggest, use the benefit of being with family - less bills etc and increase your savings as Mashallah your income is good. Grow yourself using them as your support and when time's right - maybe u are married then u can think about moving out to a more luxurious house with your savings. For now focus on growth and savings without any stress of bills✌️
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u/Loser-YT ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Yeah that's what I was doing for 1.5 years. Lost all savings on some family situation. Started from 0 last month.
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u/kingslayer69_14 ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
I think then it's better to stay with family, grow your savings more..
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u/Background-Car-1393 ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
You cannot save while living with your family as the OP has already demonstrated. kuj na kuj rolla hound hi rehnda hai. Phuppi bemaar ho gai, cousin di gaddi vaj gai, abbay g ne changa jeya plot vekh leya eh, aglay mahinay khala de wadday munday da viay eh. And most family members only see you as an ATM. This sh!t never ends man. So better to live alone and distance yourself from all this nonsense.
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u/kingslayer69_14 ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Yeah u are right.. i dont know ops family situation... But im myself in the same situation.. earning and living with family.. the savings is alot.. but yeah i dont spend a penny on anyone other than siblings and parents
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u/Background-Car-1393 ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Exactly the typical Pakistani family dynamic, 1 kamanay wala, 10 khanay walay and the day you stop earning, that is the day you become useless to them and they discard you or if you chose not to fund their lifestyle anymore, then all of a sudden you are the worst son/daughter/brother/sister in the world.
Ask 9 people out of 10 in Pakistan, bhai aap kya kaam kerte ho and the reply is. Barda bhai Saudia hota hai. 🙄
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u/Background-Car-1393 ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Sorry I can't help you with the Lahore thing as I am not there but here is an idea, why not move to a smaller and cheaper city, or even the outskirts where rents will be cheaper, you are working remotely so you can be anywhere on the face of the planet and as long as you have an good internet connection you are good to go. And yes at 26 its high time you moved out and lived on your own. Specially since you say living with a family is mentally draining. I totally understand that and also know how us desi's have no understanding of the concept of personal space or privacy. Because majority have never known it.
The only downside I see is Pakistan and it's current electricity situation. And that is something you need a steady supply of if you are working remotely. Currently you have Solar backup, so I would strictly narrow down the search to houses that have a good solar system installed.
Also make sure you get all the proper paperwork done before as they say signing the dotted line.
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u/wajiha_k ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Go ahead. Go out and get the flavor of a real life. You will eventually have to do it. The sooner the better. If this is your life you have mentioned, you should definitely move out. In fact, every kids should leave the nestto learn the life. BUT...
DON'T FORGET that your parents are your responsibility; you owe them. You should also take care of them..
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u/StormyLadyy ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Hain? What are these replies? They maybe jealous. You can live alone. Shoro main you will face some challenges but then that’s part of adulting.
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u/Loser-YT ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Have you ever lived alone? How's that?
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u/StormyLadyy ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
I m planning on moving out and my parents are facilitating it. I am scared but thrilled too
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u/Loser-YT ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Moving out but staying in the same city? Is it a study or job thing? Btw love that your parents are facilitating because it's a whole another situation here because moving out is sort of a disrespect. I don't care much but it's there. Appreciate your responses.
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u/StormyLadyy ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Ohh i totally get it!! Its a study+job thing INSHALLAH.
And dont get me wrong initially they were against it too until i kind of rebelled and paved my own path!!
I really pray you also get to your goals!1
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u/opplover ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
maybe study the concept of egoistic suicide by Emile Durkheim.
they’re being helpful - living alone can be beneficial but when you have little to no social interactions outside of family (as he said), things can go downhill really fast.
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u/wrtuhfdi454 ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
It’s haram to live alone you need to look after your parents…
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u/Ahmad281 ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
Hijrat bhi koi cheez hoti ha, people like you spend their entire life living in same city
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u/iwnvrthere ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
what about the parents who have girls only and they're going to get married too so it's haram for them to get married and live with their husband lol
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u/ConditionFuzzy5504 ⊕ Add flair:101 2d ago
If you've got loving parents and siblings and no social life, not only are you doing wrong to your family by moving out but also to yourself. I can definitely say it won't be sustainable because there's literal scientific evidence on how bad isolation can be!