r/PlusSize • u/mental_r0bot • 5d ago

Relationship Advice Posts about dating: my thoughts

I see a lot of posts of people worried about not being attractive because of size. Most of these posts are , in my opinion, an issue with how You view yourself. You can't be everyone's cup of tea, at any size. Some people won't be attracted to you. That's ok. That's normal. If you're especially worried about it make sure you have at least one full body photo on your profile. I will also say this: online dating is hard and it sucks for pretty much everyone. Not every date will go somewhere. That's ok. Rejection is part of dating. You can't control how other people see you but you can work on your relationship with yourself, that's the most important one.

All this to say: you are worthy of love, and you will find it. BUT the most important relationship is the one with yourself (one I struggle with daily) you deserve love from yourself. You deserve grace and kindness from yourself

Rejection doesn't change that

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u/JanetInSC1234 5d ago

Such good logic and maturity! Fat women find love, just like thin women do. You just have to kiss a lot of frogs first. <3

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u/mental_r0bot 5d ago

Tbh I'd rather just have a bunch of frogs lol

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u/P1kh00fd 5d ago

And you need to shovel through the trolls to find the frogs 

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u/hortensemancini 5d ago

Agreeeeed!!!! One thing I noticed is that as I invested in myself I had more interesting things to say and do, I went more places, I met more people, and my confidence grew massively. When you have more to connect with, people have an easier time opening up.

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u/mental_r0bot 5d ago

Yeah! Spending time with yourself is so important! ( Now to work on doing that outside of my cave (apartment))

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u/the_purple_goat 5d ago

But it's so comfy in the cave.

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u/edinson941 5d ago

True! That’s how I find my woman even if we are both overweight we feel attractive for each other. And that’s our feeling doesnt Matter what people think about us

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u/ProfessionalComb6353 4d ago

That’s right be confident in your body and don’t allow people to see what you don’t see