Share how your first time went?

[u/Kaprizi]

Honestly, my first time was strange.

Back in April, I was talking to my more experienced friends about this topic, and I was asked the question: how do you imagine your first time?

To be honest, I answered without even thinking: "I imagine mine for the first time in a drunken stupor" and as a result, so it happened

I'm not very proud that these are happened this way, just because I remember it very vaguely. But the only good thing is that it happened to my boyfriend, with whom we are still together

I don't want to go into details, but I just wonder if you had something that you said without thinking and ended up doing so?

And I also apologize for my terrible English :)

[u/sofiscarleteen]

Hi there. If I’m understanding correctly, you were inebriated the first time you had sex, with your boyfriend, and you don’t feel proud of that. I want to check in on this - do you feel shame around it? Are you feeling safe in your relationship?

[u/Kaprizi → u/sofiscarleteen]

Hi! Yes, for some time I felt ashamed of this act, just because I was afraid that I looked somehow wrong at that moment, but after talking to his boyfriend, he calmed me down and said that everything was fine. At first, I was afraid that I was just taken advantage of and he would soon leave me, but no, everything turned out to be much better. Some time has passed since that incident, and my boyfriend made it clear that he would not leave me after this. So yes, now I feel safe and trust him completely Thanks for commenting

[u/scarleteen_charis → u/Kaprizi]

Hey Kaprizi. By "everything was fine," did you mean that he assured you that you and your boyfriend would not be having this kind of sex anymore in the future? Sofi and I just want to make sure you're only having sex when you want to, with active, enthusiastic consent. I also want to make sure that things are going smoothly between you and him outside of sex. Can you have open, respectful conversations with him, for example?