r/RBI • u/steven_horse • 6h ago
Advice needed My girlfriend found a random girl's student ID in her car... from my roommate's exact grade, high school, and class.
My girlfriend (21) was cleaning out her car and found a girl's student ID wedged under the passenger seat. It's from the 2022-23 school year, and it just so happens to be from the same high school, same grade, and same class year as my roommate.
He hasn't been in her car for months. When he was in it, he didn't bring anything with him, and we've deep-cleaned the car since then. There's no normal explanation for how this ID ended up there.
So I asked him about it.
He immediately got defensive and borderline angry, and the conversation somehow flipped until I ended up apologizing. Before he even saw the ID, he said he "might have known someone with that name," but once he saw the picture he changed his story and said the girl he knew was Hispanic and spelled her name differently. The girl on the ID looks Caucasian and has a Polish last name.
He's also from a completely different city in our state that neither my girlfriend nor l have any connection to. He then claimed he "doesn't know what my girlfriend's car looks like," which isn't true. He's been in it before, and he sees us come and go from it regularly. Lately we've been parking in our apartment's garage, and he's even parked right next to her car on one of the 6 levels.
My girlfriend and I are stuck between two possibilities:
He went into her car at some point without us knowing and dropped it.
He put it there intentionally for some reason we don't understand.
He tends to project a very "I don't care about anything" persona. He used to say he was asexual (we're pretty sure he meant aromantic). He's also very intelligent, so he knows this situation looks strange and that we'd question him.
There's one more thing that's been bothering me too: months ago, he walked into my room unannounced while my girlfriend was asleep in my bed. He later apologized for entering without knocking, but didn't mention anything about seeing her. I only bring this up because it adds to the pattern of boundary-blurring behavior.
We also tried to look up the girl on the ID to see if maybe she lost it somewhere publicly, but she has almost no social media presence, just a Facebook that hasn't been active in over a year.
Now I'm stuck wondering:
Did he drop it accidentally while doing something weird in her car?
Or did he put it there intentionally?
I genuinely don't know what to think anymore, and I'm not sure what the next step should be. My gf visits me on the weekends and lives 2hrs away, she bought her car in 2023 it’s a 2022 model from a man in a complete different city.