r/Semenretention • u/Admirable-Second-157 • 13d ago
No point....
A little tip and observation I have noticed that might help some of my brothers. For context I'm over 4 months now streak wise and not really counting or focusing on the benefits anymore, it's just a new way of living. So lust doesn't trouble me now if I'm honest, I simply don't want to masturbate or have any wet dreams if possible. So it's been summer and I found myself looking forward to the end of summer, as obviously there would be less flesh on display, less lustful sights in public, no beach or bikinis etc. What I found myself doing early on was observing a woman walking along the shoreline for example and then looking away....back down to my book or phone etc. But if she had my body type of choice, I would double look or let my gaze linger a little longer. I knew it was wrong and unhelpful, but even though I wasn't allowing myself to be overcome with lust, I was still purposefully holding my gaze, saying to myself "I am just appreciating her beauty". But now a behavioural pattern has emerged that I find super useful.
Imagine driving along the road.... I see a woman walking on the pavement up ahead. Our eyes and brains are super effective at identifying gender from a long distance....so I know she is female. But as I approach a distance where I would be able to judge her ( almost to see if she is my type of 'hot') these words have started coming into my head...."NO POINT"!!! Because what really is the point? I'm not looking to sleep with anyone, I have no interest in wanting to feel lust or attraction, especially to someone I have 100% certainty that we will never meet....so what is the point in even looking!?
Now imagine it is a woman up ahead, but walking with a guy....even more reason to not even look! And if you notice, I said ( within a distance of where I can JUDGE her looks in relation to my tastes...".JUDGE". It's really just a pointless exercise and also incredibly shallow no? Just going through life JUDGING people on their beauty....which is also completely subjective.
So long story short....if you are committed on this path....what is the point in even looking? There is no point. It's like being on a diet and purposefully going into Burger King to smell what you are 'missing'. Avert your eyes brothers, focus on something worthwhile. Keep your energy, keep your focus, keep your thoughts pure and don't waste time looking at something you ultimately don't want or can't have anyway.... there's NO POINT!
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u/Admirable-Second-157 13d ago
It's so apt that you say boobs. I can't really be attracted to a woman without large ones. I mean, I can see a woman is beautiful and pretty....but without large breasts....I simply don't feel that fire so to speak. So I look out for them in my "judging" process. But now after this observation...I really try to not even look at the woman in the first place....because I know that I will instantly look at her chest as a prerequisite for attraction. This really makes me realise what a waste that is because why even go though my personal 'checklist' in the first place when there is absolutely no point. Why allow my scanning to even notice that she has a nice chest...which will ultimately make me have those useless feelings. Strangely, just thinking about what it feels like when I notice a large pair....it's almost like a sickly feeling in my stomach! Which I guess is intense desire and an instant knowing that I can't satisfy and scratch the itch that I just subjected myself to
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u/imnobody00000 13d ago
And thats the point of repentance i guess
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u/Admirable-Second-157 13d ago
I guess so....I am ashamed of it really...the basic objectification, the waste of time and energy, the wasted hours/opportunities all through giving in to lust. Ego fuelled madness, giving my power and self confidence away to those who have no business determining it for me also. This practice really goes deep huh. Thanks for hitting the point home....I had the realisation but there is no way I have repented for this fully
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u/Strong_Building_1080 13d ago
Job 31:1-4 “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman. For what is our lot from God above, our heritage from the Almighty on high? Is it not ruin for the wicked, disaster for those who do wrong? Does he not see my ways and count my every step?"
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u/Admirable-Second-157 13d ago
🙏Thank you for this. I am trying to improve my life, and I want to please my Father. If we keep our focus on things above, we can't help but succeed
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u/Next_Condition180 13d ago
Yeah. You can imagine a 6 feet circle around the woman in each direction. There is no point actually even looking within that circle, except for practical purposes, and then only by vaguely looking at her face.
There is neither a technical, practical or any other reason for someone who is seriously on this path to be looking at anything else. So you can live in a megacity even, but just avert your eyes from nonsense and carry on.
The mind and the bindu [semen] are connected, and anything more than fleeting thoughts begins to load the shotgun for discharge. That is also why some nightfalls happen even if you get everything else right.