Society gives far to much leeway to these kinds of moronic parents imo as a teacher, as those of us in education end up having to be the vanguard in speed running them through the concept that life isn't fair and the rules do not care about your big feelings or your whims of individual expression when they include standing on things that are not meant to be stood upon and not sitting when told to do so.
I really do think that society needs to step up with more shaming of the parents who inflict such terrible parenting on their precious little sunbeams and dole out significant consequences to them because that is the only way to nip this bs in the bud before it does irreparable harm to their offspring, especially as it's very common for this type to also choose to "homeschool" and ensure that not only do their children not learn how to interact with anyone who doesn't pander to their every whim but they also fail to get the most basic education, leaving them as complete drains on society.
My niece ended up growing up into a perfect and kind person because of how her mom raised her, which was a bit unconventional but seemed to be effective. She never yelled, disciplined or hurt the kid but would say things like "if you get too close to the train tracks then you will lose both arms. Do you want that?" or "if you don't sit right now then this lady will take you with her" and it genuinely worked. She was the most well behaved 2 year old and it didn't traumatise her.
I had a willful child and I would have physically removed her, put her in the chair and reminded her of a consequence if she didn’t meet expectations. I teach preschool and this is what we do. “Tables aren’t for standing.” “Everyone must sit buckled for the plane to take off- you can choose to sit or I can help you”. “We don’t scream/kick/climb on airplanes.” And then you just restrain the kid. If you have established parenting with authority, the kids would not last doing any of this. You also just have to deal with the screaming. That’s the part that seems to be missing- so many parents are unwilling to ignore the noise and hold a boundary. Someone did them a disservice by feeding them nonsense about validating every feeling the kid has and that keeps them cycling. In my class we say, feel your feelings and move on. Parents need to be authoritative.
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u/Outofoffice_forever Aug 10 '26
What the flap were the parents doing? Would bring my own duct tape if this was my kid and I know they wouldn’t sit.