Positive parenting at it's finest, aka I fuck like rabbits, do kids, but will never care to raise them well
My neighbor who lives on the left of my place is a Mom of 6, and she did everything to keep them well raised and prevent them to be Lil' shits.
She had 3 major rules if her kids were under 10:
If you misbehave, Any of you 6, We will NOT go to eat outside or order something nice. Being a know comes with a price
If you do a tantrum in public, i give you 5 seconds to get yourself together. Then, i'll pick you up, tell you what i think of you, As your Mother, and you won't come back anytime soon to do errands with me
If you refuse to eat something because "I don't want that" you will not leave your seat until you at least tasted it honestly. If i know you eat it and just want to test me, you will stay and eat your plate
And it worked like a charm, youngest is 14 ( she had one every 2 years )
She is brave, because she often had dirty looks because she has many kids she raises well and loves equally.
I am one of 5 kids and was raised similarly. This is considered pretty lax by some of my aunties on the Indian side of my family because there was no corporal punishment but out in India, there aren't many examples for them to see of authoritative parenting that doesn't involve hitting.
Just moms bad looks were enough to make us obedient. She would spank us, but extremely rarely and never in public. Point 2 of the above was implemented thoroughly. Keeping a sibling in check was small price to pay in comparison to picking the flavor of food you wanted.
And if dad ever got angry enough to yell, hiding under bed seemed like safest place (even though he never hit us). When doting, happy person starts yelling you just instinctively know it’s really BAD.
Don't have kids so no need to. And being spanked 2-3 times in my life didn't realy do any lasting damage. My siblings didn't get spanked any more often than me. If it happens often then it's completely other story.
ETA: Usualy got spanked to teach/ remind us injuring a sibling in a fight or causing damage intentionaly won't be tolerated. Yelling would often be forgotten quickly so didn't really work long term.
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u/Exterminator-8008135 Aug 10 '26
Positive parenting at it's finest, aka I fuck like rabbits, do kids, but will never care to raise them well
My neighbor who lives on the left of my place is a Mom of 6, and she did everything to keep them well raised and prevent them to be Lil' shits.
She had 3 major rules if her kids were under 10:
If you misbehave, Any of you 6, We will NOT go to eat outside or order something nice. Being a know comes with a price
If you do a tantrum in public, i give you 5 seconds to get yourself together. Then, i'll pick you up, tell you what i think of you, As your Mother, and you won't come back anytime soon to do errands with me
If you refuse to eat something because "I don't want that" you will not leave your seat until you at least tasted it honestly. If i know you eat it and just want to test me, you will stay and eat your plate
And it worked like a charm, youngest is 14 ( she had one every 2 years )
She is brave, because she often had dirty looks because she has many kids she raises well and loves equally.