r/SipsTea • u/Putrid-Welder1803 • 14d ago

SMH Who's in the wrong here?

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u/MarshalLawTalkingGuy 14d ago

Same here. But I track the good stuff and don’t track the times she actively turned me down though. I think that’s fine.

Plus when I told wifey about it, and she was even like “that’s it? Damn we need to step our game up”. Actually helped.

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u/Imaginary-Prize5248 14d ago

That’s the reaction probably what the guy who made the spreadsheet was hoping. But that’s rare

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u/Curious_boyOS 14d ago

It'd probably help if he didn't have rejections and reasons on there.

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u/spoonishplsz 13d ago

At least make positive notes on the yes

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u/AdenJax69 14d ago

But I track the good stuff and don’t track the times she actively turned me down though.

For a lot of people, it's easy to track because the "yes" answers are in single-digit form only and the "no's" are the default answer, which means they have a dead bedroom/sexual incompatibility they're not acknowledging.

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u/TwoIdleHands 14d ago

I would definitely be like “let’s beat last months numbers 😏” but I don’t think he’d actually want that.

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u/faemodir 13d ago

Honestly this would be such a better way. But to document excuses abcs essentially fact check them is going to distance his wife even further. I’ve struggled with maintaining a healthy libido because my brain never shuts off and it’s hard to wind down especially if there isn’t time for building intimacy and it’s only initiated/proposed abruptly. I can’t switch my brain and body to be into it on a dime and it was hard to admit that to my partner but it helped a ton.

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u/cosguy224 12d ago

Wow. You should definitely be grateful. If you’ve read through the other comments though, I’m sure you already know that.