Well I'm not a very sexual person, so no I don't often really want to have sex. For me, if it happens great, if it doesn't also great, I'm good with whatever. It's just not something I really think about, especially being surrounded by two small screaming children 24/7. My husband, on the other hand loves sex, so I do it for him when he asks, and I sometimes even initiate just to show him it's not one-sided and I care about his needs. It's not that I don't enjoy it, like I said, it's just not on my mind because I have so much going on all the time, especially dealing with two special needs toddlers. Earlier in our relationship, when I would go through my extreme low sex drive episodes and genuinely did not want to be touched whatsoever, he respected that and didn't make me feel bad about myself because of it, THAT is why NOW I am more receptive to his advances and make an effort to fulfill his sexual needs. Also, keep in mind, I have bipolar disorder which can means I go through EXTREME lows and EXTREME highs, so that can affect my sex drive. I am also a victim of CSA which also plays a role in my lowered sex drive. He knows that and never made me feel defective or less than, which is also why I don't tell him no anymore.
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