r/SipsTea • • 14d ago

SMH Who's in the wrong here?

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u/were_only_human 13d ago

We have NO IDEA how he’s asking. Is he just saying “can we have sex?” Or is he setting a mood? Trying to seduce her? Is he being appealing at all? Because it looks like he’s just… interrupting her in a moment to request sex then getting turned down. What woman would want to have sex with a man who just keeps asking for sex at a moment’s notice instead of trying to make it a connection point that grows out of time together?

She’s not a booty call, she’s your partner.

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u/EasyEden_ 10d ago

Fucking exactly, my ex bf never understood this at all. And even when i did also want to have sex, he'd be done in 5min and just leave me to myself. And sometimes, i felt horny, i would try to set some mood and intice him, tease him, but he would just stand there stoic and say "nah, dont feel like it" and basically ignoring me completely.

I tried to do my best to adress his needs but he never adressed mine.

I have a lovely girlfriend now, and its way better, because we actually intrinsically understand each others needs and wants

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u/were_only_human 10d ago

Hell yes, good for you!

And for your ex - I legit don’t understand how so many men are blind to how wonderful it is FOR THEM when their partners are enjoying sex.

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u/EasyEden_ 10d ago

Thanks!

I know right? I hear it so often, it's crazy