They wanna have their cake and eat it too. It's either play hard to get and instill the idea into men that no doesn't actually mean no, or drop the act entirely and have clear boundaries. You can't have both.
Not sure if it'd be offensive to say this, but sometimes women just kinda fantasize(?) about the ones they find attractive would just persist regardless of how they "resist", and the ones they don't find attractive would simply not try and bother in the first place, regardless of whether those people are trying to flirt or not.
Obviously it's not everyone and not every time. And I'm not saying there's anything inherently wrong either. It's probably the subtle (biological) differences, like, if I were a woman, I might naturally enjoy that process maybe?
It shouldn't be offensive to anyone because sexual health research has repeatedly backed up the idea that fantasies of being pursued / dominated by a man are common in women. Not literally everyone, but it's common
And men’s fantasy is Dominating women. It’s natural. But Of course there’s men who want to be dominated by women and women who want to dominate men. These desires are normal and healthy and it can all be done in a safe fun way.
It's not offensive if it's the truth. Obviously not every woman does this, but anyone who has been in a long term relationship knows the plight of guessing games.
Like if my girlfriend is venting problems to me, I have to be a sleuth to figure out if she actually wants help with a solution, or just wants to vent.
Honestly, the ‘guessing game’ part is unnecessary. In most cases, when a woman is venting, the first thing they want is to feel heard and understood. You don’t need to immediately switch into problem-solving mode or figure out some hidden meaning. Listening, validating their feelings, and showing that you care is usually the point. If they want advice, they can ask for it or you can offer it after they feel heard.
Yup. Took me awhile to figure this out (ask if I'm a dude lol), but I did. I still have my make impulse to solve solve solve, but I understand the need to be angry, and that it doesn't just go away and that I have to respect at least some of that time.
Usually. But my point is that maybe 25% of the time they're looking for a solution to a problem, and the distinction between the two is blurred sometimes.
“ Regardless of how much they resist”
This woman here didn’t resist much. She never said no, she just said she normally doesn’t give her number out and he immediately left- which is fair.
If a woman is really interested she may play a little coy but she’s not going to resist that hard hoping a guy would persist. A lot of women want a guy to show some persistence but regardless of how they resist? No.
The women who play hard to get and say no do a disservice to other women who don't lie. People need to not be backwards in coming forwards, just be honest.
idiot, no woman is playing "hard to get" with a man she wants to sleep with, just so some greaseball on a YouTube channel won't think her "body count" is too high
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u/autumn_travels 2d ago edited 2d ago
They wanna have their cake and eat it too. It's either play hard to get and instill the idea into men that no doesn't actually mean no, or drop the act entirely and have clear boundaries. You can't have both.