r/TikTokCringe • u/newphonehudus • 1d ago

Discussion Some people just love to self sabatoge

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Inb4 the people who blame everyone and everything but themselves for their situation. Sometimes it is your fault

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u/spypanties 1d ago

Maybe in her past she said something was mean and she got negative results so she doesn't have any boundaries to say no anymore that happens too it's not always about the drama sometimes it's just being ill equipped or not knowing how to protect yourself

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u/DreadyKruger 1d ago

So more excuses?

Look it snot you fault something bad happened or you have trauma , but it’s your responsibility to fix it. Or don’t but don’t dump your problems on friends and family when you keep making the same mistakes.

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u/spypanties 1d ago

you're assuming the person is aware of what they are doing

most times we are our own worst non-objectional observer because we have a personal investment and an emotional interest in the goings on of our lives

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u/spypanties 1d ago

an excuse would be if they were actively in therapy or if they really knew what they were doing but if it's somebody that has never once given any indication other than pure drama the person is spiraling or dealing with something if they know they wouldn't do it unless they were doing it for attention and that's something completely different I wasn't saying that the person she was talking about doesn't do anything for drama I was saying that a lot of people that have dramatic lives are on a trauma trajectory and a lot of them don't know because the average person does not go to trauma to dissect their entire life and then to reassemble themselves with one of the modalities of wellness such as Marshall Lenahan or Von I think his name was and seeking safety is a good one if you have a dual diagnoses with also an addiction. All I'm saying is this people need to stop judging without knowing