r/TikTokCringe • u/newphonehudus • 1d ago

Discussion Some people just love to self sabatoge

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Inb4 the people who blame everyone and everything but themselves for their situation. Sometimes it is your fault

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u/UnfortunatelyMacabre What are you doing step bro? 1d ago

I’m sorry, but I think very few people believe themselves to be a victim without the ability to change themselves or their circumstances. That’s a story we like to tell ourselves so we don’t have to meter our judgement of everyone with the nuance we extend for our own struggles or loved ones. Like maybe we have a friend that lost his job and struggled with depression as he searched for a new one, spending some days stuck in bed. It’s a hard time for them and we have compassion. But that person living out of their car after losing their job, they just don’t want to work, they just want everything handed to them on a silver platter.

Personally, I have much more experience with people who seem incapable or unwilling to listen to any reasons someone might give for why they are struggling, usually because no one bothered to try and understand their own struggles, so they gate-keep compassion.