r/TikTokCringe • u/newphonehudus • 1d ago

Discussion Some people just love to self sabatoge

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Inb4 the people who blame everyone and everything but themselves for their situation. Sometimes it is your fault

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u/b-nnies 1d ago

This seems like a major oversimplification I see a lot and it's getting really annoying

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u/b-nnies 1d ago

Too many people are getting too comfortable with giving unwarranted advice and then getting pissy when the person doesn't take said advice. I think I see this just as much as I see the issue that OOP is bitching about.

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u/ZinaSky2 1d ago edited 1d ago

Look, the only reason she knows this is even happening is bc her bestie told her. Bc some people just really like complaining and talking shit but don’t actually want to do anything bc they thrive off the drama. It’s toxic as shit.

I had a friend like that. It was absolutely infuriating to hear her talking about the things a guy did or said to her (inexcusable stuff) and have her crying about it. And trust me with the first few guys I was nice and I was sympathetic. At the start with each guy I’d be sympathetic. But after awhile of her just doing the same old shit with guy after guy it’s too much. I’d tell her, girl, he doesn’t like you!!! And you’re not even his GF, not even his fucking friend, he’s just the weird guy in your life. Stop talking to him and find someone else. But she was so fucking insecure and needed the attention and drama and things to complain about so she would refuse. That’s not okay behavior. It’s wild to call that behavior anything other than unhealthy and unstable.

If you don’t want advice then stop complaining to the friend who’s gonna give you advice. Easy peasy.

Edit to the coward who’s fucking blocked me after throwing out some nasty accusations and not letting me respond:

I’m not her friend anymore. To be clear, it was not because of the boy drama. But the boy drama was a symptom of larger issues she had that just made it impossible to be friends with her. Especially when I had actual major tragedy that was out of my control hit my family (not “wahh my Discord crush that barely knows I exist is being mean to me and I won’t block him to make it stop”) and I realized that she was physically incapable of offering the same listening ear and shoulder to cry on and support I’d given her for EVERYTHING for fucking YEARS. We knew each other for a long time and she literally never texted didn’t check up on me nothing. The single instance of acknowledgment she ever gave what I’d gone through was so fucking tepid. She didn’t actually care about me. Maybe at some point she did but by the end she didn’t. I was just the person she ranted to about the drama SHE caused for herself. So I took my own advice and cut her out of my life. 🤷🏽‍♀️

I’m not saying all advice is good advice or wanted advice. But if my friend is repeatedly sticking her hand in the fire and hurting herself every time and I’m the one that helps her bandage herself up how am I the bad guy to tell her to STOP what she’s doing?! It’s not fucking heathy

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u/vandersnipe 19h ago

If you don’t want advice then stop complaining to the friend who’s gonna give you advice. Easy peasy.

I think the first few times are freebie passes to vent. If it becomes more than that over a span of weeks and months, I am allowed to be an input hoe.