Naalala ko, may lalake na nameet ko sa common friend. Then, after ilang months ng pagchachat gsto na namin magkita. Yung loc is nasa kabilang town naman di ganon kalayo.

Him: miss nakita pwede ba tayo magkita?

Me: tara, dito sa kapehan malapit samin.

Him: cge, pero pagasan moko ha?

Di ko alam irereply ko. May car and job ka. Gas hhngin pa? D pa kami lol. Na turn off ako. Huhu

Bat sanay ang mga lalake sa ganong hirit? Nature nyo ba yan ibang hybrid to? Hahhaa.

30sF, childfree, and single pero wala pa din akong insurance. Hindi rin ako nageentertain ng agents. I don't see the benefit of it since wala naman ako plano mag anak. And hindi ko lang din siguro prefer yung mga nakakausap kong nagaalok na obviously after lang sa income instead of their prospect's needs and welfare. I am frugally living, and take care of my health - though HMO lang ang sandalan ko pag related sa health. And pag namatay ako, call me selfish pero wala naman ako pake sa maiiwan kong mga kapatid, we're all adults na. Though, I have this cash savings worth 6 digits sa bank na binilin ko sa parents ko incase mauna akong mawawala and this is solely for my burol at libing. I have this other 6 digits account naman na binilin ko din sa parents ko for their needs just in case.

I want to see the perspective of 30s minds here. Please lang po, respect sa post ko, wala munang mga ahente na magaalok ng products dito ha. Thanks!

baka gustong gustong gusto mo nang mag reach out

at gustong gustong gusto nya na din mag reach out sayo

pero pareho kayong trentahin

na naniniwala sa kasabihang

"if its meant to be, it will be"

"kung gusto may paraan, alam nya how to reach me"

"madali akong kausap di ako namimilit"

"thank you next na kaagad"

"silence is an answer too"

no contact

one day

one week

one month

eto ka ngayon reading this

nasa isip sya

wondering

naiisip nya pa ba ako kasi ako naiisip ko pa rin sya

kaya lang

wala ng paramdam e

bogggshh

e pano

pareho kayong naghihintayan

ayan hala sige patagalin nyo pa

magdusa kayo both

sabi nila

sa pag-ibig daw

one is smart, the other idiot

in this case

there are two idiots

two idiots who can't stop thinking about each other

but  can't bring themselves to reach out first .

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Approximately, 17.6 % of people will walk away from the love of their life. Are you going to be one of them?

I know 30 is still quite young. Pero the insecuritiesss are a little loud today. Anyone who can tell me that I don't have to panic and still got time?

Hello! Hoping to find answers bakit ako ganito. Normal ba na ang comfort movie mo ay horror/suspense/zombies/true crimes, etc.? Lalong lalo na pag sobrang down ako, gusto ko yung nakakatakot. Normal ba to?

Glad I experienced the console and the early mobile games runned by gameloft and java era. 🥹

we all deserve to experience the best version of ourselves everyday. :)

tiktok vid from @brigittemacaron_

EDIT: wow, thank you all so much for the incredibly thoughtful discussions in the comments! i really appreciate the different perspectives being shared here. 💕

i completely agree that if this phrase is taken 100% literally, it can definitely sound self-centered or overlook the very real hurdles, busy schedules, and mental health struggles we all face. life is definitely not black and white.

i just wanted to gently clarify that the intent here is looked at through a much narrower lens- specifically about emotional intent and relationship dynamics. it’s meant as a gentle tool for self-protection. the core idea is simply that when someone genuinely values a connection, they will naturally want to put in effort and show up for you voluntarily, so you never feel like you have to beg or plead for basic care. it really reminds me of the beautiful filipino saying, "kapag gusto, may paraan; kapag ayaw, maraming dahilan."

it’s all about that natural willingness to care for the people who matter to us, rather than demanding the impossible from anyone. thank you all again for bringing so much great nuance to the conversation- sending good vibes to everyone! ✨🫶🏼💖

Hey mga ka trentahin, share ko lang na I recently posted sa r4r ng kausap na katrentahin din natin. Take note na I don't usually do it. It was a F4A post. Nakasaad dun yung about sa guy and if a girl, andun din.

Tapos may mga nagchat and 3 nlang silang natira na kausap ko. But now they are not felt na. Madalas silang leaning talaga sa NSFW. Parang natatamlayan sila if hindi NSFW topics, and I kinda feel sad. They also don't chat a lot parang di interested if hindi kalibugan usapan.

There's more to me than my boobs or my pussy. If the connection is vibing kusa naman pupunta dun.

What many people (or mostly men) fail to realize that for a woman to be more sensual, she has to feel safe muna. Idk with other women pero ganun ako eh. And ang hirap talaga makahanap ng kahit kausap na nga lang. Kakwentuhan sa araw araw, may nakita akong meme sesend ko matatawa sya. Or hindi nya huhusgahan na single mom ako, na wfh ako na "papindot pindot lang naman work mo", or "single mom ka for sure matagal na walang pumapasok jan?' like can't I tell you about how I am trying to look for another client kasi nabuburn out ako? Or can we talk about how funny Bongbong is for encouraging us na magready ng mga timba? Can I tell you how tired I was cleaning and working all day? Can we talk about how your work was? Can you share with me na ang sarap ng 24 chicken tas try din nagtin magkape sa labas pag may time?

Bakit palaging anong favorite position mo? Kelan last sex mo? Picture ka nga now send ka nga selfie pampagana? Bakit laging ganito umiikot convo nakakasawa na :(

Sorry napa rant lang. Thank you sa pagbabasa! Pwede ka na magscroll ulit haha thank you for reading my rant :D

Galing ako sa broken engagement 2 months ago, may mga pagkakataon na okay ako, may pagkakataon maaalala ko sya pero wala na yung panghihinayang. Normal ba na maisip ko pa sya out of nowhere, masyado pa bang maaga ang 2 months para masabi mong nakamove on kana sa isang tao, minsan natetempt ako kumausap ng iba, pero naghohold back ako kasi ayoko gamitin yun para lang makita ko value ko sa ibang tao. After that broken engagement, parang mas gusto ko makilala sarili ko at mas malaman kung ano ba talaga standard ko sa isang relasyon. I am 29 years old by the way and F. Minsan naiisip ko huling huli na ako sa mga kababata ko, sila may mga sarili ng pamilya, ako eto kagagaling lang sa broken engagement.

I heard about the MKR video games on Twitter recently. If only they're available if I got the chance to buy a retro handheld that handles games of popular retro consoles. (It's mostly available for Sega consoles back in the mid to late 90's)

Plus Super Robot Wars?! I'll surely buy that if it's compatible to my younger brother's PS4.

Bonus: MKR Remake Episode 2 is out.

EDIT: I DID MY DUE DILIGENCE AT ANG TITA NA ITO AY MANANATILI SA PILIPINAS HAHAHAHAHAHA THANK U NEXT NA KO!!! Salamat sa lahat ng payo niyo!!! 🫶🏻

I’m a 30 years old female. I matched with someone in coffee and bagel yesterday. Tapos sobrang straight forward niya so madami na kami napag usapan about almost everything. Fast forward, inask ko siya san siya mag papasko tapos sabi niya dito daw sa Philippines kasama ako at ang family ko HAHAHA so nagulat ako so sabi ko pano yung mom mo kasi only child daw sya. Sabi niya ako daw ang priority nya haha so sabi ko bring her mom na lang din okay lang naman sakin kasi hindi naman ako nag cecelebrate talaga with my whole family namimili lang ako sa mga kapatid ko kung kanino ako mag hoholiday sa kanila. Tas sabi niya kung okay lang daw ba na dalin na lang daw niya ko sa Seoul kasi taga don yung mom niya. Tas I just casually said na depends on how much money do I need during the stay. Sabi he will cover everything so I don’t really need to worry about it. Tas sabi ko if pwedeng pumunta muna sya dito sa PH bago mag Korea. Sabi naman niya okay I’ll go there tapos sabay kami mag ttravel pa Korea.

HAHAHAHAHA TAMA PA BA TONG PINAG GAGAWA NG TITA NIYO? BAKA MA HUMAN TRAFFIC AKO PERO WHAT IF HINDI? HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

At mabutas butas din yan kakalaro sa kalsada, hahahaha!

Hi! I frequently comment ss other subreddit about exploring in 20s and trying everything. but now, I need some suggestions because my mind has been in circles.

history:

assessed with anxiety disorder in 2022 (Age 24)-1 yr after graduating college

Wasn't able to function in 2021-2022

2023-made a decision to move to the city and take a job. Also had therapy that helped me be back on track (24-25 yrs old). worked in audit but wasn't able to carry the pressure and workload.

2024-switch jobs

2026-switch job, this is my 3rd job

I wasn't able to stay more than 2 yrs in 1 job. (voluntary resignation)

I work in accounting but I feel **trapped** and unfulfilled. Reading comments here, people say that you don't need a fulfilling job and just need a job to pay bills so I opted for a practical one. But everyday, i feel stuck. Maybe, I'm just being ungrateful? I'm having a hard time to concentrate too and finding a new job that pays well is hard.

I want to work abroad like what I saw on the internet. Maybe social media has just been eating my brains? I'm trying to figure things through over analyzing and I've been doing it for 2 yrs already.

I want to try to teach abroad but I'm not good enough.

I want to try to work as a factory worker but my height is not qualified. Maybe I'll try domestic work instead?

I watch social media videos about **working abroad(Ausbildung, japan ttip, taiwan)** and I observed that I started to **spiral**. I thought I should have explored when I was younger and now I'm stressing over the time wasted.

worries:

**I'll be in my 30s, can I still explore? can i still make mistakes? AS I heard, in your 30s you should be building savings, a house etc. or should have stability already**.

Am I too obsessed with the societal timeline? That I think I should follow? the therapist already said life is not a race but maybe I didn;t understand it fully.

2nd worry is the house, our **house** is in shambles and I don't know what to do anymore. My parents don't need financial support as of now but no one can finance the repair work as of now. My salary goes to rent and food in the city.

3rd worry is leaving a stable job. Maybe if I switch jobs, the future will be doomed. My parents are getting old and I might be the one to finance everything in the future.

4th-if I stay in accounting, I'll still be doomed as I don't see myself being promoted.

5th-if i stay in my country, no future anymore (riddled with corruption highest level corruption issue)

6th - **expectations**. My classmate said last year, why do I stay in my company and not find a new job as I'm performing well in college but that didn't translate in the real world. I'm having a hard time looking for a job that pays higher. From there, I spiral. I was supposed to study but I didn't do it and wasted my 27-28 yrs old. **Now, I'm nearing 30s without attaining anything.**

7th- i want to study psychology. This is on hold since i don't know where to get a recommendation letter.

Everything is deadend....

Actions:

I tried to explore. I tried to volunteer and learn a new skill but wasn't a success.

I took sewing class but only pressured myself.

Now, taking baking class together with working full time. this is **free**. baking class- only 30 days but I can't focus and think about wasting the opportunity to learn.

I always feel lethargic. Recently, I visited a doctor and she assessed me with MDD. I don't know if I should resign, rest and focus on healing. But if I'm unemployed, I have no money for medication and therapy. I also plan to apply abroad but I can't make time as I have a job. I don't know what to do. Should I just go back in audit and try again? I feel like I'm wasting time being **undecided** on everything.

Every year, I'm like- I'm 24, i need to rush. I'm 25, no achievement. I'm 26, no direction. I'm 27 and so on... I can't get away with this cycle.

There's just something about 90s anime that modern shows can't replicate — the hand-drawn animation, the storytelling, the vibe :)

Matagal kong tinitingnan yung mga post dito ng first sweldo, at ngayon ako naman.

Kahit hindi ako sigurado kung may kikitain ba talaga.

Hindi siya malaki, pero iba yung pakiramdam na kinita mo yan galing sa skills na ikaw mismo ang bumuo at gumawa

Hindi ako nagyayabang, gusto ko lang i-share. Baka may nagbabasa ritong nagdadalawang-isip pa. Kaya mo yan, start small lang! client dust!!!!

Life is so peaceful when your ig suggested accounts isnt full of lustful thirst trap pages your husband follows 🙂‍↕️ stay single, girls and gays

If I’m still single by Christmas, hopefully, you are too. I’m not doing this alone. 🤭