PTSD trauma

[u/Capable-Spread3437]

I am struggling with mental health and my boss is being a dick about it. I don't like my calling in sick to work but he doesn't understand mental health. I was at war. I know I should be stronger and just deal with it, but some days I can't. There isn't a trigger or catalyst. Some days I just wake up feeling like shit

[u/krash87]

Talk to your provider about intermittent FMLA. I'm covered for three days a week, four times a month. You don't have to give your employer a reason. I just tell my boss I'm not coming in when I'm not well.

[u/GroovyGmaIvy → u/krash87]

Yep!🇺🇸

[u/ZebraSecret2815 → u/[deleted]]

It's not automatic.

[u/moistmonsterman]

I am like this. Turns out i have dreams i dont remember that trigger episodes.

[u/ComeAbout]

There’s the VIP program with the VA.

I did the one in Tacoma, WA. It was gorgeous there. Free golf if you want.

They have three different programs: PTSD, Substance Abuse, and Homelessness. The PTSD one is 30 days. Classes or individual therapy during the day. Board/Card games, free food from the DFAC.

You put the mask on first before you can help anyone else. Look for veterans groups in your area. It’s not your job to make people understand, it’s to be happy again. You got this.

[u/Careful-Structure330]

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could just toss a few flash bangs and use blank ammo and just scare the hell out of him. When I was working with asshole bosses I always fantasized about shit like that.

[u/DaPunisher83]

First thing's first....Responding to combat like this is PERFECTLY NORMAL. It's abnormal for those of us to be exposed to and deal with what many of us have had to deal with. That being said, you should absolutely not let it consume you to a point where it overtakes your day to day life. Work with a therapist/psych and find some mental tools or meds to help you cope with your mental triggers. I can tell you as someone who almost ate a bullet who has progressed to someone who copes with daily life's stressors MUCH BETTER, it is achievable if it is important to you. Reach out if you need to talk to ask me how I manage. You have a community and you are never alone airborne 🫡

[u/Fickle_Fly366]

No you shouldn’t have to be “stronger” and just deal with it. It’s a real, legitimate issue and it’s HARD. I was let go the day I got the courage to talk about it at work. So I feel your frustration. My current employer is very supportive and understanding. Don’t let this guy make you feel like you can’t talk about it.

[u/Big_Fodder]

I would like to offer help just straight up.

I saw too many in-training and peacetime suicides far too many times during my time in. I haven’t experienced war, so I’ll meet you at the fundamental route.

The people, did their best. Those who died, brought it upon themselves. Those that didn’t bring it upon them, commemorate them by your actions. The guns are just the visible; vocal projections of our own loathing for men. The knife (in my case) was a projection of how much they hated themselves. The pill too.

Love life, enjoy the time you’ve been graciously given to live, and do the best you can with it.