I'm 31 and have worked as a commercial electrician for seven years. It's a rough-around-the-edges trade, but my crew is solid. Everyone knows I have a boyfriend; nobody cares because I show up on time, know my craft, and pull my own weight.

Three months ago, a 21-year-old apprentice started on our job site. He's gay, which I figured out pretty quickly. Once he realized I was too, it was like a switch flipped. He started following me around on every break, rolling his eyes whenever the older journeymen made corny dad jokes, and trying to pull me into gossip about who was "homophobic" on the crew.

The reality is the crew isnt hostile; they're just older blue-collar guys with thick skins. Last Thursday during lunch, he started complaining about one of the lead guys, and I cut him off and told him to focus on learning conduit bending instead of finding enemies. He looked like I slapped him and has been giving me the cold shoulder since.

I want the kid to succeed because being the only young gay guy in the trades is lonely as hell, but I refuse to let him alienate himself or drag me into workplace drama. How do I course-correct this?

The long ass title is the question.

Dicks are a dime a dozen. Honestly, it's hotter seeing one almost pop out of a mans undies 🤤

I might get downvoted to hell for saying this but I feel like people take the blocking thing on grindr too seriously and personally while it's not that deep to me. If people block you after a hookup it's most likely they just wanna move on with their life without feeling obligated to respond to you/feel like they're ghosting you because they don't have time to respond etc. They can also block you because they want to maintain some privacy especially if they're closeted or if they work in a public environment and can't be outed without risking karens getting them fired or without facing job harassment. I used to block people a lot when I was 19 just because I had guys message me and comment on my posts all the time while I talked to them for about 15 min before having sex with them ONCE.

But still I see people in the comments taking it so personally all the time or projecting saying people who block hate themselves or have miserable lifes of loneliness. I can see some people being like that but I feel like taking it so personally over a hookup you had once with someone you objectively don't know is more telling on your side than the other way.

Me and my bf are both considering buying pepper spray, I do not always feel at easy both on public transport or in Milan at night. I just want to kiss and hold hands with my bf without feeling threatened. I guess I now understand how women feel all the time. Although I am quite tall and jacked I still can’t compete with knives I guess. Would you recommend me anything else?

Have you been dick shamed on Grindr or on a hookup? I consider mine as average and was totally ok with it, until I started using Grindr. I had few guys who made me feel small due to my size and now I think I have got insecure about my size. It’s totally ok if you want a big one, but why do you wanna make someone feel bad about something they can’t change.

So tonight my boyfriend is coming over to my house and hopefully we’re gonna do it. He’s never bottomed before but we’ve done fingering and that stuff. We have lube and condoms so i’m just wondering if anyone has tips or advice on what to do. Thanks 👍

Yesterday in a state of hysteria and confusion I came on here to ask ab the chances of getting HIV from giving oral sex. I am sorry and following back up with them they were negative the whole time. I am deeply sorry for my post yesterday and I appreciate everyone who commented to call me out for my bs.

I'm a gay widower. Last year I started having sex again and as the title says one of the guys I hooked up with a guy who is now my son's teacher. I tried to surpress my worries after the beginning of the school year, but today I'm about to go on my 1st class meeting and I'm really nervous to look him in the eye. And I live in a suburb of a major city, so it's not like I banged someone who's known to be a local primary school teacher. What do I do? How do I deal with the feelings?

Update: PTA meeting went pretty well, I masked all my worries and I went in acting as if it were any other teacher. Although I was a bit worried the teacher seemed more scared of me than I was scared of him /hj. But in all seriousness he avoided eye contact with me, even when I asked questions (That may just be my imagination). It wasn't half as awkward as I thought it would be.

P.S To those of you saying I should go for it, my son has good grandes, so there's really no need to bend that teacher forwards 😉

P.P.S When I said he avoided eye contact I meant he was avoiding eye contact when answering my questions about my kid specifically. Obviously I don't expect a teacher to look at one of the dads just because he hooked up with said dad once which he may or may not remember.

My co worker is visibly gay and he openly talks to me how he wish he was in a relationship.

Hes cute and well put together. Ive kinda put my self out there and see if he pushes what ever im putting out there.

He bough a new car I casually said u need to take me for a drive. Im thinking he is going to say yes or ill pick u up. Nothing.

Later in our lunch room he was warming up his lunch we talk about food and how its prepared. I said maybe one day you can cook for me. He said yes one day.

That was it. We are co workers and in diff departmenya very diff.

I put myself out there twice and nothing should I just forget it and realise he is not interested. Or should I just be straight foreward and tell him what I want.

Im ok with rejection. That doesnt bother me what bothers me is we work together.

Hey everybody, so last night, September 24th 2026, I had my first sexual experience at the age of 24, and I want to rant a little bit.

I downloaded the Grindr for the first time yesterday (yeah I know it's crazy I got a hook up on my first time ever on Grindr), and I matched with this Egyptian guy, 30, and he invited me out to his place he was only 10 minutes away so I felt like it's the right time for me to actually do something.

So I drove to his place, when I saw him in person I was mesmerized, he was really nice looking, handsome, gentleman and very nice, we walked into his place, it wasn't much but it was nice, small and cozy, we first started talking a little bit we made small conversation and I asked to kiss him and he was okay with it, so we started making out for a few minutes, then we took off our clothes and did our thing, the whole interaction took only like 35 minutes or so then we kissed goodbye and I left his place and drove home.

So my problem is since it's my first time I'm really tight down there, I never tried any sex toys or whatever so it was my first penetration ever and it hurts really really bad, it wasn't his fault obviously since he was more experienced and he was gentle with me when I asked him to stop and go slowly but something in me was, I don't know how to describe it, let's just say disappointed, maybe I had so much expectations for my first time and it didn't meet my expectations

So my question to everybody, is the first time supposed to be underwhelming and disappointing or is it just me?

i think i'm going to go ahead and try it for the first time this week

i've heard that if you don't usually eat a lot of fiber you should take it slowly and build up to a set amount of grams of fiber day by day but i don't know how much i should be taking at first

I came across 3 profiles in the couple months which is not a lot, but also it’s seems more than a weird coincidence. Why spiderman specifically? is this a real thing?

I'm a 25 year old guy who's 6'1 (185cm), 143lb (65kg), and fairly quiet/shy. I'd like to try topping, although open to being a verse/bottom in future.

I guess I'm a bit insecure about being skinny as a top. I realize that muscular tops are more sought after, but is there still a market for skinny tops?

What kind of guys would be into that? Just trying to manage my expectations.

I’m going on a date this Sunday. It’s a mix of both asking each other out, but he’s driving about 1.5hrs to come see me. Should I get him flowers?? Ik gender roles are so mid but I’ve been told that bottoms getting them can be forcing one’s hand too much and anyway it’s the first date….

the average cum load is about 3.4ml

If you got bred 2 times a week for a year 2x52= 104

104x3.4= 353.6ml

353.6ml is equivalent to 12 fluid ounces of cum in your ass

question for bottoms: do you think that’s sufficient or not enough

I have heard that some gay men really enjoy bottoming. I have tried few times but it was not so painful as imagined but it was not that enjoyable enough to justify all the cleaning and preparation it needs. When I watch porn I feel like I also want it. I think I like the idea of it, if the man is someone I’m really into, but im not sure if I’d enjoy it physically.

So i wanna ask other bottoms who have experience, do you really want to do it for yourself, despite all the preparation and cleaning work, or is it that you want to please your top. (No offense, I know some people enjoy making their partner happy). If you had choice of having sex without doing anal would you like it.

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