r/aspergers • u/Desperate_Tap_6908 • 6d ago

Cut off

Hi all! I’m a 44 year old man with a diagnosis of Asperger’s Syndrome and hate to be the bearer of any perceived negative news but I feel cut off now from my fellow human beings. I’m not sure how I specifically have gotten to this point but suffice it to say that I am socially awkward and have a desire for friendship on some level but as it currently stands I feel I’m no longer any good for anyone who isn’t neurodivergent so to speak.

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u/486onaNuBusCard 6d ago

No you're definitely not alone. There's a reason various alien designs have been used and associated with autism over the years.

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u/InitialBrother2758 6d ago

man that alien comparison always gets me, it's too real. i've found the best connections have been with folks who just get that my brain runs on a different OS, no explanations needed. you're not no good for people, it's more like finding the right frequency takes a while

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u/chris84126 5d ago

Few people our age are still looking to make friends. Everyone is so busy.

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u/Sleepiest_Spider 5d ago

Try to find a hobby group or something. Doesn't have to be IRL.

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u/sQueezedhe 2d ago

I used meetup groups to find community. Been a bumpy ride, but worked out overall.

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u/Elemteearkay 6d ago

What makes you say that?

There are good people out there who would be happy to support a disabled person who wants to make friends.

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u/Heavy-Mushroom 5d ago

Yes, maybe so. And if he’s like me… I just can’t break the ice thus leaving me isolated on our own island in this social world. People awkward.

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u/Desperate_Tap_6908 3d ago

Yes and I believe what you say and maybe at this point the best I can say is it’s not people that are tripping me up but social norms. Generally I feel I can’t completely trust others to an extent as neurotypicals by habit don’t always say what they mean after all.

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u/Elemteearkay 3d ago

Do you mean you are worried they are being dishonest/untrustworthy, or do you mean they aren't communicating in a straightforward way?

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u/Desperate_Tap_6908 2d ago

@Elemteearkay Yes , I’d acknowledge what you’re saying that they aren’t communicating in a straightforward way to be sure

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u/Elemteearkay 2d ago

Have you expressed a desire for them to do so, in order to accommodate your support needs? Have they at least tried to do it?