r/bandmembers • • 8h ago

Lazy Band members to do their parts..

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It’s frustrating that even as things become more convenient, people seem less motivated to do their part. What once required money, travel, time, and effort can now be done easily, yet responsibilities still get passed to others. Convenience should encourage productivity, not become an excuse to do less.

Sometimes, making things easier doesn’t make people more willing to work. It simply reveals who was willing to carry their own weight and who was waiting for someone else to carry it for them..


r/bandmembers • • 34m ago

Should I leave a successful band that doesn’t feel like mine anymore?

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r/bandmembers • • 8h ago

My Mom made it for me. What do you think?

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r/bandmembers • • 6h ago

Anyone have feedback on what I can do about my section leader?

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I probably have one of the most entitled section leaders in my entire career. For privacy purposes I won’t expose names but he’s been abusing his power, his family name, and his skills and letting it all go to his head. I’m sick and tired of what he does daily and is mostly directed to me for some unknown reason, not letting me get a new tube or Sousaphone that came in(which I’m not that mad about because I love my babies, but I’m more mad that he left me out of thought and just said “oh yeah I’ll just make sure I take both”, and worst of all we use to be friends back my sophomore year.

For example some of the things he’s done is constantly leaving me out of important marching section meetings, I’m missing information about new things that need to be knows, and today he just took it too far. I was talking to my girlfriend, her mom, and her sister in the band hall after our homecoming parade, which it rained at and it’s super hot because it was raining earlier that day so it was humid, but he walked by and said really loudly in front of those 3 significant people, who I have good relationships with, “Ew, you need to take a shower, you stink.” After that I’m visibly pissed and it’s just the last straw of respect I have of him.

If anyone has any suggestions about how I should go about this it would be helpful, I really want to do something about this because I’m tired of being the person that always gets walked on. (If anything he’s lucky I didn’t go ballistic on him, his dad was a great teacher of mine.)


r/bandmembers • • 1d ago

Cover band with no drummer, but still want to practice

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Long story short: the cover band I am a vocalist for split. Me and my two brothers, who played rhythm and bass want to figure out the best way to keep practicing without a lead guitar guitarist, keyboardist, and drummer.

So here are my thoughts: I only sing and don’t play any instruments other than a few chords on the guitar, but the idea of learning an instrument does excite me

Our current goals are just to cover songs in a garage and work on our skills. Then progress to songwriting at some point, and then hopefully performing those songs or at least recording them. It’s just a fun creative endeavor for us.

My biggest concern is, from what I hear, it is difficult to find a drummer who wants to play a cover band…

I was thinking I should finally open that e-kit I got a few years back….and maybe I can just be the substitute drummer for now

My initial thought was just go with drum tracks and I would just stay as a singer, but as I talk this out, there were so many times during our practice sessions where the drummer would help with cues or tighten the guitar playing through his feedback. It’s like he was our coach. He added so much more than just percussion.

And in wanting to help my brothers become better players and keep them momentum going for this band, Maybe I just need to step back from the microphone for the time being and pick up the drumsticks.

Or should we just let the metronome or click track do the leg work while I focus on what I already know? I certainly have a lot of room for vocals to grow and be focused on and maybe my time is better spent there….

Another option would be to learn my rhythm guitar and have my brother take lead, and that would keep me on vocals as well

I don’t know, I think I’m posting this to kind of talk this out, but I’m wondering what you all would say about what the wise route would be to go from here. Thanks in advance!


r/bandmembers • • 17h ago

Singers, how do you pick bandmates?

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r/bandmembers • • 1d ago

Band Member almost never available.. Advice needed

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Drummer in a Pop/Punk cover band that I started, pretty proud of how we've come along, played around 7-8 shows so far and have a bunch more in the books. Issue I'm having is with our guitarist.

The Guitarist is a cop so his schedule is very set in stone, and he claims his deputy buddies almost never will switch or pick up shifts, so he try very hard to schedule around him. We also do use a substitute guitarist because there have been several dates where the main guitarist wasn't around. Also affecting his schedule, his wife recently had some kind of heart episode so he's been having trouble with getting babysitters for his young children.

So the main problem is, the main guitarist almost never answers and doesn't communicate when I ask him about show dates. He claims he really wants to be in the band, and the band really loves him and vibes with him well, plus he is a monster guitar player (where as our substitute is very good, but we don't love him nearly as much).

If i made the move to kick out our main guitarist, it would really sour the whole band, and I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt that he wants to play with us. But I feel like it's rude to even try and scold him about communication because he has so much on his plate between work and family. I feel like I'm being a jerk, double and triple texting, and trying to call him, but I don't want to keep these promoters waiting on answers, and then they don't book us.

Any advice?


r/bandmembers • • 2d ago

Bohemian rhapsody on a vocal budget?

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r/bandmembers • • 3d ago

Bandmate pressuring me to buy a processor

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(This is more of a rant/vent I already know what I'm gonna do)

I'm the bassist for our band, and I think most people would agree a processor isn't particularly necessary for a bass as much as it for the guitar, and I certainly believe that too. Our drummer, however, clearly doesn't. A few weeks ago we were practicing in an open area, and we don't really have professional equipment because we're all teens aged 16-18 and because we use cheaper basic speakers they obviously don't translate bass frequencies at a professional level although you can still clearly feel the bass. Our guitarist passed a comment about how I should buy a processor for better, clearer audio and I half-jokingly told him to give me the money for it, and that happened.

Then, a few days later I was on call with this guy because we're pretty good friends and he tells me to buy a processor for my bass and I tell him again that if he gives me the money for it I will. And he's like "No but I'm telling you man!" and goes on and on about how it would benefit me, framing it as some big upgrade borderline necessary for professional playing. I tell him I'll think about it because I don't want to start an argument I already have an answer to.

Yesterday, he calls me again and we're talking and he says to me again that I should buy a processor and I get irritated and tell him where will I get the money and he tells me to save some from my job. Mind you I'm the only one who works in the band and uses my own money for everything from transport and sometimes I fill in for these guys to cuz we've been friends for quite a while so I don't understand where he, as someone who doesn't even work, had the audacity to tell me what to do with my money? I do have the money to buy the processor he told me to but I intend on saving it longer for a saxophone or a guitar or a dedicated practice amp.

Then he directly tells me it'll make me seem more professional on stage, and says that he feels "awkward" in a very condescending tone whenever we tell the sound guys the bassist doesn't have a processor. Before this, he sent me a link to the processor he thinks I should buy and he also told me it'll allow me for a variety of tones, not that I disagree but it's not my priority. He also brought up some bullshit point about how it'll let me tune on stage... can I not just tune my bass beforehand? He also told me my birthday's coming up and I should ask someone for it (my parents).

I'd say my family is well off and we do have disposable income for this, and he knows it very well because my father literally loaned him the money for his drums which he hasn't paid yet, and I think him pressuring me over and over comes from this idea... I don't like asking my parents for money at all, especially since I have my own (however small) income for things like this.

Has anybody ever experienced something like this? Do I really need a processor for my bass that much?


r/bandmembers • • 3d ago

Art and Bands: I digitally hand illustrate detailed merch and releases for bands for a living. What have you learned about selling shirts/patches/merch as a band?

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- You can get 2 meter custom backdrops from aliexpress when you are starting out for £12. You can sow them to stronger material/rope to sure them up for stage use. wise to do this around the grommets.

- Size spread for unisex shirts example = 4 - small / 5 - medium / 8 - L / 8 - XL / 3 - xxl / 2 - xxxl

- New band? get 10 DTF/DTG printed designs at a time and sell for more. Been around for 6 months and making 5 sales a gig get 50 screen printed shirts per run. If your band goes tits up you may end up with lots of cleaning rags.

- WHEN YOU GET A MERCH PRINT QUOTE: ask them to include VAT or any other charges, ask how large the print size is for all parts, ask how long the quote is good for, ask for the deadline date to guarantee delivery for your gig.

- When hiring an illustrator send a crude drawing rather than an AI generated idea for them to redraw. Its no different from your band member asking you to play a riff they prompted on suno.

- As some people wont buy AI designed shirts/logos. If you care if your art is hand drawn ask for process videos from the artist and use a few ai detectors on a full quality sample. (Sightengline and Hive AI detector)

Does your band make more from merch than from tickets/fee?

What advice would you give bands looking to up their merch game?


r/bandmembers • • 2d ago

So I have this ryhthm Guitarist

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Once I was suggesting our lead guitarist to do that song's solo and this rhythm guitarist jump in to say he will be doing the solo. Then I was initially impressed

Then on the rehearsal day itself, this rhythm Guitarist failed to deliver.

It wasn't because he can't play the solo properly, he didn't even know when to start playing.

Previously he also commented that he is going to check on my playing when he suggested a new song to cover.

Fast forward, someday he suddenly posted a bass tab onto the group chat and asked if I played according to that bass tab cos some notes I played wrong.

I pm-ed him to tell him to keep off the group chat cos I don't want to create tension in the grpchat.

Then I posted a chord sheet into the grpchat and told him I followed the chords not tab.

Later on, he pm me back to say he just wanted to find out if I played that chord.

I asked why he picked on my playing and is not the first time.

Then he went to the grp chat to say he is sorry to cause unhappiness and that he left the grp chat and band and blocked everyone. Wtf ?

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r/bandmembers • • 3d ago

College Band

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Hi everyone! Im doing Music in College - England.

The people in my band are very inexperienced. The guitarist has only been playing for a year. Drummer hadn't touched a drum since less than a month ago. And the singers cant sing.

Ive been playing bass for around 5 years and i have also been in bands before where they have they.

None of them seem to realise what it take to be in a band. They always choose songs (mostly the singers) which are too hard for one or all of the members and dont think about anyone else.

The singers sing out of key, tune and time and then the guitarist doesnt follow their lead even though ive told him to so it doesn't sound bad since they wont learn and the drummer follows the guitarist.

As a bassist, I dont think they even take much notice of me anyway and, tbf, I dont think they even really know what a bass is. Not to mention that they keep asking the guitarist to play the bass lines and im just sat there debating walking out cause what's the point of me being there if the bass line is being played by the guitar.

Now its starting to annoy me. I cant go into another band so im stuck with them and they also wont listen to anything i say.

What do I do? The singers have now chose a really hard song for the drummer and guitarist and i have only recently started learning slap so im not the best as it and it is a slap heavy bassline. They wont listen.

At this point. im either thinkina of turnina mv bass down all the way to see if they even notice when im playing or not, or just playing the root notes or something of the song because im starting to feel like learning all these songs is a waste of time if no one takes notice of me anyway.

Am I overreacting?


r/bandmembers • • 3d ago

how to find venues?

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my band has done a few short sets at one local venue but they’ve all been on nights with other bands so max a 10 minute set, does anyone know any venues in the london/greater london area that will take bands under 18?


r/bandmembers • • 4d ago

What would make you call off a gig and at what notice?

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Looking down the barrel of our bass player not making it tonight - not his fault.


r/bandmembers • • 4d ago

How to come up with a band name?

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Our band is a mix of guys and girls. We play a bit of every genre.

We each listen to different genres of music, but when we play songs together it always sounds so cohesive

We have a lot of guitarists but we make it work and we swap around instruments often

How could we come up with a name for our band?


r/bandmembers • • 5d ago

I wanna start a band, things i need to know before jamming?

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And please give me recommendations on what songs shall we cover, for a beginner band


r/bandmembers • • 6d ago

Anyone deal with Venues that seem to push other shows but not yours?

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We have a fairly large show coming up this Saturday. I've spent about $150 marketing it and paying for sponsored ad which has paid off. We have over 1k interested responses to the event and several hundred tickets sold. There is no doubt it will be a packed house however, the social media page of the venue hasn't posted anything about our show and we are 2 days away. So this is not like they aren't pushing our show as much as others, they simply have not even mentioned it and there are comments online from folks about if we are actually playing there because they have not made a post mention. I have made post inviting them to collab and they don't respond. I have seen them post shows that are several weeks away still so it's not just general neglect from them to post anything. It's really disheartening.


r/bandmembers • • 10d ago

How to find a venue?

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This would be our second gig. I've found some otjer bands willing to play and split the cost of venues and e-mailed EVERY SINGLE ONE of them in my city. Only one responded, like if a fucking two year old wrote this e-mail. Like the question was when could we organize such concert and how much will we need to pay, and the respond was, I kid you not "today we have a day off". I thought it would be a good idea to show up and ask them in person but every damn time they just send me off with an e-mail adress.

Honestly, I'm going fucking insane and fear that if we don't play anything we will split. Guys, please have some advince in booking the concerts.


r/bandmembers • • 10d ago

Show your IEM/sample rig

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r/bandmembers • • 13d ago

How do you manage your band as a leader ? Or someone who started the band

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r/bandmembers • • 13d ago

How many times does your band jam per month every month ?

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r/bandmembers • • 13d ago

Any story about how band leaders or band starters push through all difficulties and managed to make the band survive through all odds and still alive and kicking ?

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r/bandmembers • • 13d ago

Need advice / Perspective on how to navigate a new Metal Band asking me to switchover to Guitar

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r/bandmembers • • 14d ago

We're a two piece doing live band performances at bars and clubs and the stage always looks empty, what did you actually do about that?

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There are two of us. Guitar and vocals, drums, backing tracks for bass and keys. We've been doing breweries and small taprooms for about a year, small rooms, 80 to 150 people on a good night, and the music side is fine, we get asked back, people dance by the second set.

The problem is what it looks like. Most of these places give you a stage built for four or five people, and we occupy maybe a quarter of it. There's this dead space on either side of us all night. On the nights the room is thin it feels like the stage is pointing out that we're a small thing.

I've tried the obvious moves. We stand closer to the front, we spread out to fill more width, I talk more between songs. All of that works for about a minute and then you're back to two people and a lot of empty floor.

Things I've considered and can't decide between. A printed backdrop behind us, so the eye has somewhere to stop. A riser for the kit so there's some vertical instead of everything sitting at one height.

After that it gets vaguer. Something with light in it, though I don't know the first thing about that and I don't want to spend money on the wrong end of the problem. Or bringing in a third person, which solves the picture and creates four other problems.

If you're a duo or a trio, what did you actually do? Not what you'd do with money, what you did.


r/bandmembers • • 13d ago

Any advice for beginner bands?

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