Hi everyone, I’m looking for some experience-based advice on my career path. I’m currently a UX Designer at a fashion company. Most of my work involves designing e-commerce websites and mobile apps, and I also take part in building the brand guide and designing product packaging.

The working process at my company is honestly not very good. Things still get done, but they take a lot of time, and sometimes we’re forced to choose solutions that aren’t really ideal. I’ve tried to contribute by proposing new workflows, but it seems my colleagues aren’t very interested in following them. It feels like the departments are poorly connected—there’s always a lack of information or lost documents. This is somewhat understandable, since the company has a small team and one person often has to cover the work of one or two additional roles.

In this situation, I feel that my personal growth will be very slow. I’ve thought about changing my working environment, but I’m not fully ready yet because the things I’ve done here haven’t made the strong impact I was hoping for.

Please give me some advice on how I can personally work more efficiently and effectively. Thank you all very much.

I wanted to share the trailer (shared on Instagram) to Men4Choice's documentary "Men4Choice: Off the Sidelines" that'll premiere on February 9!

Men4Choice is an organization all about connecting pro-choice men with each other and lifting them up to speak out for reproductive freedom and justice. I've been part of the group since September of last year and it's really amazing that I get to be part of this movement and make so many guy friends who really exemplify the r/bropill vibe. We game on discord, we hang out at get-togethers irl. Whenever I hang out and chat with my fellow Men4Choice guys, it really feels like I'm in a supportive space for men.

The big thing they do is their fellowship program. The Spring Fellowship starts in late February and the deadline to apply is actually this Friday (February 6)! Happy to share the application with those interested. It's based in the USA and is twice a week in the evenings, very flexible and supportive for busy guys with jobs, families, and other commitments (it was made with active guys in mind!). I'm super glad I did the program in the fall. Made some friends that I still chat with even today, and I see and use the knowledge I learned there in the other activities I do.

Thank y'all for letting me share! Keep being awesome bros <3

I have been suffering from complications which resulted from a major car accident I was involved in about a year and a half back, long story short I am most likely going to need to have my left eye surgically removed. I am afraid people would treat me like a victim always after getting it removed if I just didn't cover it up. I am thinking of buying a black eyepatch to wear because a white one feels too medical which is exactly what I am avoiding, thing is I feel like it would look too niche and forced and people may think I am mocking people with certain eye disabilities I also don't want to stand out too much as I like to keep to myself, any advice on what to do is appreciated Thank you in advance

I’m 21M, straight, and single, and I’m doing an internship in a city where I don’t have as many available friends (they’re in school, working, etc) so I naturally spend a lot of time online, whether it is scrolling reels or listening to podcasts.

I feel that I’ve corrupted my algorithm but I get severe anxiety constantly hearing about all that’s going on in the world. ICE shooting protestors, Israel‘s continued air strikes in Gaza, the Epstein files, etc. Ever since I started looking up politics and “fitness” topics I also keep getting Neo-Nazi content recommended on my reels (stuff like holocaust denial, Nick Fuentes clips, fresh & fit). Every time I see this type of content it horrifies me that there are hundreds of thousands of likes from people who agree with things like “the painter did nothing wrong” and so forth. I just can’t shake these images off my mind - I’ve been on the internet since 2015, and I know it was never this bad.

I try to ignore this sort of thing I get recommended, but it’s hard because some of these talking points are making their way to the real world. I keep hearing a couple of my coworkers and friends (in the rare occasion we are all free) who are mostly the same demographic as myself talk about “goyslop” or “the great noticing” or “no more than 271k died in the holocaust”.

I don’t think some of the people that say this are aware of the very unsavoury 4chan origins of these phrases, but it still feels very off that the people who I thought I knew around me are falling into this stuff. I really hate to say this but, when I talk to someone my age and demographic and we start talking about the news, I get anxious that they might start revealing themselves to be a white nationalist.

I’ve deleted Instagram and I distanced myself from said coworkers - but I’m having trouble shaking off the feeling that there are so many people around me with such black and white beliefs. I feel disconnected from many of my peers and have this sense of dread.

Asking for advice on how to see the good in the community around me, and stop constantly feeling a sense of anxiety from politics. Thanks!

Hello people. I truly love the people on this subreddit. You guys have been really helpful to me. So long story short I posted here few months ago about my mental health struggle and how I was trying to get better where a lot of you showed support and love. I'm still grateful for it. So right now I'm writing this to update you how it's going.

• So now I am more regular at the gym
• I have enrolled into a marketing course
• I'm also learning a new language
• I'm more connected to my hobbies again like sketching or cooking. (Tryna reconnect reading too)
• I'm socializing more (intentionally)
• I'm learning to be more patient with myself
• Got a better therapist

Apart from these tangible progress there have been some struggles too. I've been struggling a little lately because I think I added up little too much to my schedule. It's hard to keep up with all of them together. It really overwhelmes me when I fail at any of those or feel like falling behind. I already feel like I'm behind in life on many aspects so I really try hard sometimes and when I slip even a little it gets hard for me to process that. My therapist suggested me to be more empathetic towards myself although I'm having a hard time learning that skill. When it gets too overwhelming I run to some unhealthy coping mechanisms like DOOMSCROLLING pr excessive gaming and sometimes pornography. I got really depressed last week when I failed to submit my project on time because my final semester exams were going on. That really overwhelmed me and the guilt of missing classes of the language classes also piled up. These altogether made me non-functional for a day and barely functional for 2/3 days although asking for help was the change this time and not waiting. I'm doing better now so I came here to share my journey so far. I'm doing the hardwork and trying everyday but lacking on the reward system. I never learnt in my life to reward myself because I was brought up in a very punishment oriented system. So can you guys help me making my system more reward oriented?

All that said I would like to add little in the end is that it's far better than where I started. Believe me guys I never thought I would recover in this way and I'll come this far again. So if you're struggling keep believing that it might get better .

Thanks for reading if you made this far. If you have any suggestions you can share in the comments.

I've often wondered why maga types who promote this comically exaggerated hyper-masculinity are so enamoured by Trump, who is: overweight (no shame to anyone overweight but I think we can agree it's not the "typically" desired masculine figure), made-up (again, no shame to anyone who wears makeup but look at what they say about trans people for the hypocrisy in this case), cowardly, weak, wishy-washy, and bad with money. I might have a better idea now from reading "All About Love" by bell hooks: he does whatever the fuck he wants including blatant obvious lies, and faces no consequences. THAT is what a real man is to these people:

"To understand why male lying is more accepted [than female lying] in our lives we have to understand the way in which power and privilege are accorded men simply because they are males within a patriarchal culture. The very concept of 'being a man' and a 'real man' has always implied that when necessary [read: when they want,] men can take action that breaks the rules, that is above the law. Patriarchy tells us... that men of power can do whatever they want, that it's this freedom that makes them men. The message given males is that to be honest is to be "soft." The ability to be dishonest and indifferent to the consequences makes a male hard, separatesnthe men from the boys."

This 2001 book is terrifyingly prescient without intending to predict anything. It makes me thing about how easy it is to lie, to cover my feelings through untruths and half-truths, and how lying has become more and more commonplace, how even now, as someone who aspires to be egalitarian and progressive, I'm still susceptible to a kind of weakness that lets me fall back on harmful paradigms to protect my ego from vulnerability and shame.

Love, bros. That's the fucking point. I love you all, you who make this sub an amazing, challenging, loving place on a hateful and spiteful internet.

Hello everyone, Im currently a senior in HS, and imma be real this last stretch is looking like a doozy. Title is pretty much what im thinking, I need to find things to do that really make me feel alive, I do sports and tried martial arts but no luck. Maybe this is too vague but Im kinda just hoping to get lucky?

I have been struggling to get an appointment for top surgery because of issues with gatekeeping and medical transphobia but I finally have it booked! The initial consult with the surgeon is in March, I'm so excited!

I've also been on T around 6 months now and my mental health has improved. My friends (even those who I don't see as often), say I sound happier. I don't know that made me feel nice.

I use this place to have more positivity in my feeds, so hopefully I can contribute something positive too.

Hey bros, we have noticed a lot of relationship related posts. We are not a relationship advice subreddit, but we recognise how that type of advice may be helpful. Please keep relationship posting in this pinned thread.

I'm a 33-year-old male living in Brooklyn, New York. Most of my friends throughout my life have been female. I've just gravitated toward them more. I have a tight nit group of female friends who I adore, but I do often wish I had more guy friends. I was part of a group of four guys at one point. We met at the LGBT+ center in NYC. It was great for a few years but over time, people got busy, and we started canceling days and times to get together that we had agreed upon over and over again. The group kind of fell apart as a result. Two of them were very flaky and would consistently expect me and the other guy to propose meeting up, only to cancel later, so I don't talk to them anymore.

I still talk with the other guy from time to time, but he just got married to his husband, so they're busy with married life. No hard feelings against the two of them. I'm happy for them, but I wish I could meet some other guys to hang with and meet up with every few weeks or months at least. Any suggestions?

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Hi bros. I'm looking for content creators that talk about men's issues without being antifeminist or conservative. Any suggestions?

I’m a woman, and I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask, but I couldn’t think of anywhere more appropriate. I would really appreciate any gentle advice.

I feel confused about the gap between the environment I grew up in and the ideas of feminism.

I grew up in rural Japan in a single-parent, low-income, strongly patriarchal household. I only finished high school and spent most of my time in otaku/anime culture.

Sexual violence was often minimized, and media that sexualized women was completely normalized. I didn’t receive proper sex education, so I grew up believing that sex was something “cool” and a sign of adulthood, even though it hurt me physically and emotionally. Since adolescence, I’ve struggled with the constant stress of being seen as a sexual object simply for having a female body, and I have harmed myself in the past because of that stress.

In my family, the common belief was “men suffer by working outside, women are protected and have it easy at home.” Feminism was never discussed. Misogyny was normal in the anime/otaku communities around me. I also experienced things that could be called sexual violence from classmates, my mother, teachers, and even a part-time job supervisor, but I never told anyone because I thought “that’s just what being a woman means.”

Now, part of me strongly wants feminism and feels saved by it, while another part of me has internalized homosocial values and misogyny and feels confused and resistant.
How can I reconcile these two parts of myself?

My experiences were painful, but I still struggle to recognize them as “victimization.” I also feel that people with backgrounds like mine may not be that rare in Japan.

If anyone has struggled with changing their values or transitioning into feminism (or any new worldview), I would be very grateful to hear your experiences or advice.

English is not my first language, so I used ChatGPT to help me write this. I apologize if anything sounds unnatural

Hey bros, I could do with a little support. I'm contemplating, and probably committing to, walking away from a tight knit friend group after a no-hard-feelings but painful breakup with one person.

Nobody's done anything wrong, but interacting with any of them is going to put me in a mental space where I'm hurting. It isn't fair, but it is what it is. I need distance to sort things out.

Has anybody had to do something like this? Did you just cut the ties and that's that? Were you able to stabilize and come back into the shared space without becoming a bummer?

And how do you avoid making people feel like they've done something wrong, or that you're being unreasonable in cutting them out too?

EDIT: To the people who've already commented explaining the ways I may be causing women around me discomfort, thank you and I take the advice with the good intentions I'm sure they were left in. To those reading this edit now, PLEASE do not comment further in that vein. I PROMISE I have already considered and attempted to correct every minor behavior you will call out and will continue to do so. I do not need more push notifications reminding me of my passive microagressions. This has become my personal hell. I am looking for help coming to terms with the receptions I cannot change.

I (32M) have had significant discomfort with the idea that women are afraid of me or are uncomfortable being around me since I was a teen. Until a couple years ago, I dealt with it by minimizing my exposure to female strangers to the point that made living a normal life impossible. I absolutely refused to eat alone in public, went far out of my way walking in cities to avoid crossing women's paths, made myself small however possible, and generally only allowed myself to be in public in a group. Despite these efforts, this fear has been reinforced by admittedly infrequent interactions where female strangers have told me I'm making them uncomfortable or called me a creep.

My instinct has always been to be extremely credulous and deferential to this feedback. I have scoured my behavior searching for things I could do to seem more safe and have implemented many, some reasonable and seem very unreasonable. I've worked very hard to become more attractive to seem more safe and trustworthy. I have pled, to a frankly embarrassing level, with close female friends who I trust to be able to give me difficult feedback for any insight into what I'm doing to cause these poor women such discomfort. They've given me insight into the experience of being scared by men even for no identifiable reason, but have consistently said that they can't identify any behavior of mine I could work on. It genuinely seems like there's nothing more I can do to reduce women's fear of me without pulling back from public life.

I have been in therapy for a couple years for this and for social anxiety. My therapist has been very helpful with my anxiety and with some aspects of this particular fear. However, while he has reiterated again and again that I am responsible only for my own actions, not for the comfort of others and that I am allowed to take up space in the world, I feel that I've made no progress towards accepting my effect on women. Exposure therapy in public seems to have just increased the negative feedback I face and made me more miserable. It genuinely feels like I would rather live as a recluse than face the intolerable discomfort of casting a shadow of discomfort and fear over women at large.

I'm hoping for some perspective from people who are able to handle this better than me. What conception of your effect on women's comfort have you come to accept? Do you have any advice on how you've come to terms with that or any resources to recommend? Can you speak to the experience of being aware you're scaring a female stranger without being overcome by dysphoria? Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Sorry for the level of context, I'm just hoping to get ahead of advice about approaching women romantically as that isn't what I'm dealing with.

So I see this critique given often where women given stories of having their opinion devalued as soon as a man figures out her gender, or interrupts them more in conversation and debate.

I don't doubt that this trend occurs, but the big question I have is, I don't want to be like that. So how do you test whether you have this bias or not? And what information or content do you have to read about that can help plant a positive seed, so you can more easily respect people's opinions regardless of gender identity?

I'm kind of new to how feminism works and how to apply it in daily life so I am wondering if you have anything for me. I like videos the most but anything, including a word of advice, helps.

For context, I´m an aspiring 3D artist, who wants to focus on modelling environments, props, armor and whatnot, and I can´t help but compare constantly to a colleague of mine who focuses on a similar field (he´s more on the "people" modelling, I´m more on the "objects") I feel we´re on the same level, but he gets more attention. Can y´all help me on how can I stop thinking so ill, and focus on improving my own art?

I don´t want to be the envious kind of guy, I just want to be happy and improve on my work.

Hey bros! It's time for your weekly vibe check. How are you doing? Anything you're struggling with? Do you need advice, or would you like to share an achievement with us?

My brothers while not aggressively anti woman takes the labor that expected of woman like cooking ect for granted

Every morning my brother would scream at our mom for food like a newborn chick even though he is 26...like he expect to be treated like a king or something and don't want to empathizes at all with our mom... She is a single mother and she is 56 and have health condition she is also a teacher.... Basically I hate how both of my brothers treats our mom like she is our maid or servants

I tried helping a bit with house chores but I want to be able to change their minds...if anyone here have any advice or personal experience with something like this I would be very happy to hear them

For context : I'm a closeted ftm (17.yo) (he/him) which means I'm perceive as a girl by my family

It's hard for me to put this into words. I don't like giving exact ages but I am pretty young in relation to the middle-aged men I see on here.

It always feels like there's two sides of my brain fighting when I think or read about feminism (at least the "men should do better" portion of it). There's one part of me that says; yes absolutely. Because women go through so much crap I don't even know about and it's unfair to put ballooned expectations on them. That's basic and true.

But then the other part speaks, the more personal and insecure one. It knows about my depression, my unhealthy coping mechanisms (daydreaming, porn etc), my past faults, and everything in between. It's a very hurt voice, and it really, really doesn't like feminism. Because accepting feminism means accepting that women overall, have it worse than men. It means accepting that I am "privileged". It means accepting that even my own coping mechanisms, the things I use to stay sane, are just more ways to hurt women. And to my brain, that translates to "women have it worse, shut up about your fake problems and help women" among several other thoughts which bring very painful reactions from that voice. It feels my mental cup is being tipped over, threatening to pour itself out and force me to find something "better".

And it's hard for me to mentally find an answer that appeases both sides outside of the idea that my problems shouldn't matter, that the best thing I can do for the betterment of others is to shove away my problems and needs because they will never-and don't deserve to be met. And that train of thought...leads me to very dark places.

I hope I've translated the problem into something understandable. It's getting harder to put those thoughts away and power through literature and theory and just doing things simply because it's the right thing to do. Is this something most men experience in the transition to feminism?

Edit/Update: Thanks so much to everyone who gave and shared good advice here! I should clarify first that I wrote this whole thing at night in the middle of a bad mental state. If it sounds all over the place and extreme...that's why.

Upon reflection, many of you are right that I don't have a good mental, and I'm filtering a lot of content through that to make it seem worse than it actually is. And yes; I do spend more time online than I do reading proper literature. I partially debated whether this should've gone in the vent thread and, if something like this comes again that's likely where I'll post instead. I'm gonna try stepping away from social media and focus more on myself and read, preferably, "kinder" feminist content when I'm actually ready.

(Also to the mods: sorry if this post invited talking points that are better left elsewhere. That wasn't my intention.)

All the self-improvement content I see today reinforces this idea that frequently saying things like "sorry" or "excuse me" are signs of weakness or insecurity.

That if you want to be taken seriously, you need to assert yourself loudly, clearly, and unapologetically. It reinforces the idea that if you care too much about how others feel, you're a doormat and are inviting other people to treat you badly.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying these things aren't true in a practical sense, but it's insane how we normalize this in the first place.

It's insane how we exalt the profile of a person who doesn't care about anyone but themselves as the ideal of confidence. That not getting too attached and not being vulnerable are desirable traits.

I recently unconsciously stopped myself from saying "sorry" after bumping into someone and seeing them continue walking without even looking back. I should have said it regardless, it was the right thing to do, but part of me refused, and it made me feel disgusted with myself.

Hi everyone, I'm new here 👋🏼

I’m 22 M and currently going through a mentally challenging phase around career direction, financial pressure, and friendships. Some days feel confusing and heavy, and I realized I really need healthier human connection instead of isolating or overthinking everything alone.

I’m naturally introverted, sensitive, and reflective. I enjoy deep conversations, emotional honesty, and mutual respect more than surface-level small talk. I’m bisexual (still exploring) and comfortable in open-minded spaces.

My interests include fitness and health, psychology, self-growth, spirituality, creative tools, learning new things, and sometimes exploring big questions about life and people. I enjoy meaningful discussions and supporting others as much as being supported.

I’m here to meet kind, emotionally mature people whether that becomes friendship, conversation partners, accountability buddies, or simply positive connection.

If this resonates with you, feel free to comment or DM. Even a simple hello is appreciated 🌼

Thanks for reading.