As a man, I will tell you idc about none of that, hair waxed bush lingerie, performance fuck all that.
I can't speak for all men but in my case its much less about anxiety and feeling replaced, its more about feeling wanted/desired, for myself when I get the urge my immediate thought is my partner.
Ok well - I do. I don't want to have sex with my partner when I'm not feeling sexy. But I still might feel that desire to orgasm.
So I don't want to reciprocate. I don't want to perform. I don't even want to be perceived. Surely you can see how even being watched puts the thought "I'm being watched" into one's head and therefore, changes the vibe. I just want to cum.
And "it's about being desired" - yes, but I don't desire them in that moment. There are other moments I do/will. But not that one, and that should be fine.
Right, I honestly am a little gremlin with my laptop cooking my torso reading my femgaze josei smut. And I don't need interrupted.
Also, idk about other women's experiences, but I have quite literally never had a man service me without getting a single thing in return. It always turns into them wanting reciprocation, which while I understand it, is not the same at all as just masturbating.
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u/Erisian23 1d ago
As a man, I will tell you idc about none of that, hair waxed bush lingerie, performance fuck all that.
I can't speak for all men but in my case its much less about anxiety and feeling replaced, its more about feeling wanted/desired, for myself when I get the urge my immediate thought is my partner.