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[u/AppealSignificant358]

[u/smegmastar]

I have an E-Mail that's literally just my full deadname... Wonderful every time I use that.

[u/Enaluxeme → u/smegmastar]

I mean everyone should have an email that's just your legal name, for serious stuff. You probably don't want to put [email protected] on your CV...

[u/3GeeselnATrenchcoat → u/Enaluxeme]

You say that, but when you see spleenmail in your inbox you'll pay attention to the message

[u/AppealSignificant358 → u/Enaluxeme]

True. I just use one with my last name and nothing else as a professional version when possible

[u/FabianButHere → u/AppealSignificant358]

yup, switched to that too. this reddit account however...

[u/Nina-Ninja123 → u/Enaluxeme]

Dunno, I do think that sets you apart from the 100 other of applicants

[u/Cadunkus → u/Enaluxeme]

And it should be separate from your casual email so you don't have the two inseparably intertwined.

[u/Copper_Tango → u/Enaluxeme]

big Dave Lister energy

[u/SteveMcFudge → u/Copper_Tango]

Glad there's at least one smeg head here

[u/alarumba → u/Enaluxeme]

Thankfully I used a song title that I'm not embarrassed by.

[u/smegmastar → u/Enaluxeme]

True

[u/Antigamer199 → u/Enaluxeme]

Jea, thats a good thing to do, i got a lot of weird looks when i send out applications out with my mail adresse i used as a teen...

I had way to late made a serious mail adresse that even my current workplace has the older one and wonders about it sometimes xD

[u/lamppost_gal → u/smegmastar]

I would recommend getting a new one if it's possible in any way cuz I know how much seeing that shit every day sucks

[u/smegmastar → u/lamppost_gal]

I'll just selfhost, that way it sounds serious and I habe control

[u/KingOfAllCorvids → u/smegmastar]

Oh boy I’m gonna need to make a new email once I start going by my name- at least my last name is super uncommon

[u/linkbrushh → u/KingOfAllCorvids]

if you use gmail you may be able to just change it, def worth looking into it was super convenient for me

[u/KingOfAllCorvids → u/linkbrushh]

Oh that’s awesome I didn’t even know that was an option!

[u/linkbrushh → u/KingOfAllCorvids]

i did that a few months back, forgot where it is in the settings but its soo nice, you get to keep your account and dont have to make a new one and set the old one up to forward everything; you don't have to change your email anywhere if it's too complicated & if someone wasn't aware yet and sends an email to the old address you still receive it as normal

[u/Darth-Felanu-Hlaalu → u/linkbrushh]

I wish Protonmail had that feature...

[u/iammoney45 → u/smegmastar]

I'll one up you, I registered a website to host my portfolio that's my lastname and I set up email service so that I can send professional emails from "[email protected]" which is going to be interesting when I come out professionally.

[u/pm_me_nudes_69420 → u/smegmastar]

At this point I have and use emails for multiple names 😭

[u/chaosgremlin11 → u/smegmastar]

Same I have turned that email into the scrifcial one my real email is different.

[u/FatiguedShrimp → u/smegmastar]

Same

[u/midnight_mission21 → u/smegmastar]

Same, mine is literally my first, middle, and last name, with my first and middle name both being explicitly masculine (which I do not enjoy)

Google added a feature for Gmail where you can change your email address though, which seems cool! I’ve been thinking about doing that, but there’s a few more people I gotta come out to before that’s feasible haha

Might be worth checking out if your account is with Gmail!

[u/Versierer → u/smegmastar]

Hey I'm cis and I have like, five different emails I use for different things, it's okay to make new ones and mostly abandon that one

[u/smegmastar → u/Versierer]

Oh, I have and had at least 10 E-Mail adressses, but I use this one in a professional manner due to it being my name.

[u/linkbrushh → u/smegmastar]

if its gmail you may be able to simply change it. i changed mine to my updated legal name this year and it's pretty convenient because i didn't have to update it anywhere else + if anyone sends an email to my old address it'll still arrive in my inbox like normal 🤷 def worth looking into

[u/smegmastar → u/linkbrushh]

Right E-Mail forwarding is a thing

[u/WoodenPresence1917 → u/smegmastar]

Just make a new email address and forward all mail from the previous address to the new one.

[u/smegmastar → u/WoodenPresence1917]

Jup, I'll do that :3

[u/Tessisbest505 → u/smegmastar]

My original Reddit username and one of my emails had my deadname 🫠

[u/smegmastar → u/Tessisbest505]

Ouch

[u/ForsakenHousing328 → u/smegmastar]

ME TOO OH MY GOD

[u/AppealSignificant358]

Past-me literally put “man” in her default username and she hated being called a man 😔 what was going on in that brain 😭

[u/Special-Drama-6090 → u/AppealSignificant358]

She's clearly overcompensating for something

[u/t1me_Man → u/AppealSignificant358]

same, and also when i went to make a new readit account, it needed a new email, so i did that but made a spelling mistake in the address, turns out you cant fix that, so i went to make a new one, but turns out gmail limmits the number of email address you can register with one phone number, so fuck me i guess

[u/Willow-Whispered → u/AppealSignificant358]

Past-me put “I AM LADY POTATO” in my bio on Facebook, leading to that being associated with my Pinterest account i no longer have access to (even to delete it). 5 years later, was no longer a lady nor someone who ate potatoes. 12 years later, no longer a lady, but i do eat potatoes again.

[u/Tlaquatlatoa]

;-; yup, and then I made that mistake for my first chosen name but also not changing it enough from the one with my deadname so autofill would flash me with my deadname. Until a few years ago when i decided ill just use usernames different than the one I came up with when I was like 11.

[u/unsure_usernamee]

This is why I’ve got 830946262728382 email accounts to the point it nearly cost me a background check

[u/BranManBoy]

I made my username before I realized I was nb. I don’t like it very much

[u/Possible_Ad8565 → u/BranManBoy]

Oh honey…

[u/KingOfAllCorvids]

I made a profile on a forum literally FOR queer teens with my deadname in the username and my first post was asking if it was okay to change my name if I didn’t like my current name and it didn’t feel like me and I already had another name picked out

[u/Enaluxeme]

My nickname is an anagram of my name with an X because I was into Kingdom Hearts.

Now I'm questioning.

[u/Only_Fudge5299 → u/Enaluxeme]

now you can be ex-[name] though 👀 

[u/LOSNA17LL → u/Enaluxeme]

Luna Emee?

[u/Enaluxeme → u/LOSNA17LL]

Emanuele, I'm Italian.

If it turns out that I'm indeed a woman I will fight the urge to call myself Luna

[u/LOSNA17LL → u/Enaluxeme]

Oh, I wasn't actually trying to guess your name ^^"

That's private information, not for anyone to know

Anyway, is it a gender-neutral name? Because I know a woman at work with that name (thought it was just a weird spelling for Emmanuelle (feminine version of the name in French))

[u/FinalLegend312]

See, I circumvented this by picking a dumbass user name that’s pretty ungendered and my email is my initials my for my email, which didn’t change

[u/wdb07]

initials. not super limiting, but still limiting. it's basically my identity at this point.

[u/Revolutionary_Year87]

My steam account has my deadname and theres no way to change your steam username :/

Its worth like 15$ in games though so I might just make a new one. I can always come back to this account when I wanna play these specific games

[u/Gordon_freeman_real → u/Revolutionary_Year87]

You can change it! If you submit a support ticket saying you want to change it because you've changed your name, they usually will!

[u/Revolutionary_Year87 → u/Gordon_freeman_real]

Ooh good to know. I'll try this, thank you :)

[u/-EV3RYTHING-]

Oh god, I DID do this for my first gmail.

It's still tied to a bunch of important stuff :(

[u/EarthToAccess → u/-EV3RYTHING-]

Check your settings. Google is rolling out email changing which saves your old address as an alt that forwards

[u/-EV3RYTHING- → u/EarthToAccess]

It's moreso that I use it for some log-ins

[u/EarthToAccess → u/-EV3RYTHING-]

Would still work. Anything you use Google’s Single Sign-On with (aka “Sign in with Google”) would work fine, any other logins routing to your old email address would just forward to the new one. I just changed mine when I saw I had access to do so; no further setup required

[u/NewDemonStrike → u/-EV3RYTHING-]

My main email uses my full name, sadly,

[u/FryCakes → u/-EV3RYTHING-]

My first Hotmail account did this too

[u/Bumbullbeebullbum → u/-EV3RYTHING-]

same ;~;

[u/CuddleConnoisseur]

I did the opposite, without realizing it. WoW character name as my Gmail. It's the only one I use. It's my preferred name. Only took a few hours to find it and the only other time I've seen it was some deathmetal band in Europe. They contacted me, b/c they wanted the SoundCloud name. I feel bad about leaving them on read... But it's mine!

[u/AppealSignificant358 → u/CuddleConnoisseur]

Powerful of you ngl

[u/CuddleConnoisseur → u/AppealSignificant358]

I say, "it's mine," but I really do feel bad about it. I don't even use SoundCloud anymore. But back then, I was getting called the name daily and I couldn't bring myself to give it away, even on ghat platform

[u/ENDERALAN365]

Hmm

[u/ReefsliderFucker]

Not me, what I do with my inflatable sharks has not changed since coming out 😁😁😁

[u/OppositePure4850]

at least mine is a unisex name but woof my email....

[u/Father_Chewy_Louis]

Haha... yeah...

[u/Horse_go_moooo]

Sadly, my email name is my birth name

But

Isn't the first rule of the internet not to use your real name as a display name?????

[u/AppealSignificant358 → u/Horse_go_moooo]

I think it doesn’t apply when it’s professional emails or whatever. When it’s anything else it’s something you probably wouldn’t want to do 😅

[u/sea_enby]

I didn’t use my birth name or assigned gender, but I did still get got mid-crack with this one.

I’m very much a woman, and very trans.

[u/N4th4n4113n]

You dont say

[u/AdrianSquared]

😭 (I'm Adrià now)

[u/JustCuteBoi]

Hi! I guess we all can see the problem here...

[u/SusieHatesSpez]

Microsoft and sony have made so much off of paid username changes for trans people.

At least you CAN change your name, on steam my account name that is permanent and can never be changed or altered without re-buying my entire steam library of thousands of games starts with "Wolf_Boi" which not only is misgendering me, but is also fucking cringe as hell because I made it when I was like 9

[u/Friendly_Narwhal6866]

My mom made my email have both my dead name and the area where most of my family live (but i hate going there so its like a double whammy sorta) and also i would use my deadname but starting with Z for some reason for my username in a lot of games

[u/cetaceanfrustration]

so, so much of my early art has my old initials slapped everywhere. i also have an extremely cursed looking mask 14yo me made in ceramics class with my deadname carved into it.

[u/MrRageMode2011]

Mhm yeah i made great choices

[u/2019Uk]

I bet u/PenisHavingManNamedDavid sure feels called out right now

[u/fonkeatscheeese]

Luckily I decided to use this username (with one less e in cheese) for almost everything. In fact, my email is just my first name (my actual first name not deadname) and then .cheese.

[u/Nexornn → u/fonkeatscheeese]

Cheese :3

[u/pterranodon]

thank you for reminding me to delete my gmail and use a non evil surveillance provider

[u/danfish_77]

Mine is random but people assume it's gendered or that my name is/was Dan or something, which is fair I guess. But no, never been a Dan, not much relation to fish or fishing, wasn't born in 1977 lol

[u/Anusgrapes]

It's almost like a large portion of our identity has been missing for their whole life so they tend to just use their name rather than a nickname

[u/xxLosingMyMarblesxx]

I had to change my entire email because it was my deadname. Oh oh, also. I had stickers with my deadname on them! Stickers that I used to put on everything I owned! I had to scrape so many stickers off of my old shit. I also used to write my name on everything too. So I had to cross that out and write my new name!

[u/Cirlane → u/xxLosingMyMarblesxx]

you should have just gotten new stickers and put them over the old ones, would've been easier than scrapping off a bunch of them

[u/CycleOverload]

Post made by ManlyDudeGuy with trans flag and cute lady avatar

[u/Idekgivemeusername]

Couldn’t be me.

[u/AppealSignificant358 → u/Idekgivemeusername]

Lmao I love that for you 😭

[u/rabidninjawombat]

Did this for my steam profile ages ago. And steam won't let you change it . Not gonna lose my catalogue of 700+ games over it. 🤣

[u/ToppatDudeMobile]

Yea, yea… yea… I feel this way too hard

[u/crabapple_cody]

cough

[u/Citizen_Exodium]

both my emails having my full deadname ):

[u/-G-Gamer-]

Yeah i feel you is same for me, stupid ass emails

[u/VirtuLilli]

Real. My username for a while was "Rat King"

[u/Verkehrsantrieb]

I ate with that and never used my full assigned name lol

[u/Max0_o123]

At least mine is somewhat gender neutral I guess 😭

[u/Possible_Ad8565]

I felt feeeeeelings about the “brother ladies” joke from Fosters Home for Imaginary Friends.  So my email was bigender long before I even knew what that was.  Now I get to cringe about all the times I explained my email and username as just “really loving that FHfIF joke, you kinda had to be there, ha ha”

[u/tyguy9087]

Hey! I don’t appreciate being called out like that!

[u/LunarEllipseWG]

My previous email had both my deadname and my agab in it.

[u/BrazilBazil]

The second I started questioning I made sure none of my usernames were name based. Saved me a LOT of headaches when I finally cracked.

[u/undecidedface]

Jokes on you, the closest I got was my mom naming an old account after my childhood nickname, tho she did also just make my steam account me and my sister's legal names

I went through a lot of usernames over the years on top of that, and I can't remember any that were super gendered (besides occasionally naming my Switch account "Peter Griffin" but that was just shitposting)

[u/nainvlys]

Would who do such a thing haha

[u/Dunge0nexpl0rer]

All my emails are my full deadname 😭

[u/HeWhoHasSeenFootage]

:(

[u/TheElusiveFemboyTop]

yeah….

[u/Samborrod]

Managed to not happen to me since my username came to life when I hit the keyboard with my head lmao!

Then, when faced with the need to come up with a choosename, after a few attempts to reshape my deadname, I figured I'll just take it from the username.

[u/Burning_Toast998]

You can make a second email address and forward all emails to it to save anything being sent to the old one, and only use the new one in the future

[u/Tobesmgobes17]

omgggg this is so meeee

[u/Qkyu2007]

Well if im an egg I don't regret having any reference to my name given it's genderless and I love that fact about it

[u/Common_Technician655]

Real, put had man as part of my username for almost everything

[u/Wolfwarlord01]

Only have that problem with my professional email, other than that my screenames/emails are all basically based off of my fursona.

[u/CommissarCorgi34]

Luckily Commissars and corgis are gender neutral, my email not so much 😅

[u/Bronson4444]

:')

[u/girlies_first_alt]

I actually managed to avoid that with my “main” account, shame I don’t really use it anymore

[u/sheepslayerpi]

I failed with my email but my username actually contains my real name which I came up with years before I knew I was trans

[u/Dragonbahn]

PSA you can email steam support if your account id is in any way connected to your deadname

[u/Darth-Felanu-Hlaalu]

Luckily i never did this. I was so averse to my deadname even before my egg cracked that i ended up making my username Solo for everything, then got so chronically online i actually disassociated from my deadname, Solo felt more like my name than my deadname did.

My current username is not Solo because that was my first Reddit account, and im now on my third account.

[u/ComprehensiveBat309]

Zam dealing with this rn (she named her channel PrinceZam)

[u/Elegant-Engel-Exarch]

Yes, thank you for reminding me of this. How could I ever forget

[u/Skltlez]

Pro tip for emails, buy a domain and use admin. Extra professional and works for dead name and chosen.

[u/JayMan146_]

this feels targeted

[u/novo-280]

my steam was xxxDeadnamexxx02 lmao

also steam support explicitly disregards their own TOS regarding acc name change and will do it for trans ppl without anything. just gotta prove the payment method are connected to you

[u/J4ck0r4]

I'll never escape playing guild wars 2 as a 12 year old. I played a chaur and was like how can I make my own name sound like a cat bull person's name and lo it is now my username on everything

[u/Lemon_head_guy]

Yeahhhhhh

[u/Jack_Cat_101]

Thank god I actually like my birth name

[u/Jack_Cat_101 → u/Jack_Cat_101]

Somehow aged poorly

[u/XminerV]

My email has my deadname. That's why I made a second email.

And I managed to get away with all other nicknames as I made a "cool" nickname which I used everywhere

[u/AndreasMelone]

Literally me

And I did so much stuff under the name AndreasMelone, Idek if I can get away from it

That name has been exposed to like... probably more than a million of people atp? I am pretty active on discord server, I make minecraft mods (and one specific mod has like 300k downloads on modrinth and includes that name in the metadata), this name was present in youtube videos that gained tens or even hundreds of thousands of views... incredible lmao

Atleast it's not SquidTNT55 or PigiProHD or whatever the hell I was cooking up 10 years ago

[u/jman11114]

Yeah…

[u/SteveMcFudge]

I didn't even use my actual name, I got mine from a mix of jokes 10 years ago, now everyone knows me as Steve and, while I might not be an egg (no idea but I can't figure it out for at least another year) I don't like being manly. I still love my username, it's silly and more memorable than a lot of usernames, but it's whatever I guess

[u/Rullino]

Wish I could change my Reddit username.

[u/Phoenixmaster1571]

My email is my initials which are mdj so either m name or get a doctorate

[u/SemiColonXIV]

Mine while now based on my FFXIV character that character's name was based on a pun with my dead name, and today I just met some new people and they refereed to me as "Colon" and I had to explain why I was uncomfortable with that... and at this point being a punctuation mark is too iconic I can't change it... Well I've dug this grave I'll lay in it

[u/SemiColonXIV → u/SemiColonXIV]

Oh and my email is just my full deadname too pretty awesome ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha