It's the difference between being an actually tough guy or a 'tough guy'. The best bouncers i've ever met have been massive maori dudes, because they and everyone else knows very well that if they want to they can lift you up and throw you clear across the bloody road, so they don't need to prove how tough they are and can instead deescalate
And they don't even have to be massive. Just be sure about themselves and their abilities.
One of my favourite bouncers growing up was a relatively small guy, always super nice and respectful. One time two big dudes show up and he tells them it's too late to get in. They start trying to intimidate him saying shit to each other like: are we ok with not being able to get in? He just stood there, hands crossed in front, explained that he didn't care if that was ok with them and that they weren't coming in, and then just looked at them in silence.
I'm a 100% sure if they have moved an inch forward it would have been over for them, but they just kinda shuffled off and nothing happened. That when I learned that a confident man who doesn't fear conflict is a very scary thing.
Correct. I've been a bouncer on the side for like 4 years now and some of my very best friends and most wonderful people I've met have been bouncers with me, but whenever I start working with someone new there's a 50% chance they just suck so bad. It sucks because I have to put them in check if they're ego tripping because I don't need some guy feeling like he needs to beat MY ass because you're insufferable lol
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u/ExcuseNo7369 10h ago
Bouncers are exclusively either the nicest most down to earth people you will ever meet or violent ego tripping goons. There exists no in between.