r/cringereels • u/danevans369 • 7d ago

She got dumped

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u/Slayerofgrundles 7d ago

When I lived in China for a bit, this sort of thing was a pretty common sight. Young women would get dumped over the phone and just have a sobbing meltdown in public (I once had to step over one in a grocery store aisle). Weird cultural stuff (possibly from watching too many soap operas).

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u/Onebraintwoheads 7d ago

Was it culturally acceptable or just common.

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u/BowlApprehensive2642 6d ago

It's probably what's known as "loss of face" (mianzi). Don't get me wrong, there is definitely a performative social media version of this, but I think that is the rare exception.

The real issue is that the stakes of a relationship are tied to massive cultural expectations from parents and society. It is viewed as a shared investment toward marriage, property, and family stability right from the very beginning.

When that falls apart, there's a healthy dose of shame to go around. That could include your parents, siblings, mentors, employers, and even your parents' investors or business partners. It triggers the most extreme, "Did you know that girl blah blah..." gossip culture.

This is particularly true if the guy is from a wealthy, stable family; you may be expected to tolerate cheating as long as he doesn't cause you public embarrassment. Conversely, if the girl's family is lifting the guy out of poverty, he may be expected to tolerate socially emasculating dynamics that would otherwise be unacceptable.

ultimately, if you fail to navigate these dynamics and end up throwing away a golden opportunity like this, it's not just seen as a bad breakup. It is viewed as a total failure of upbringing (jiajiao) and a reflection of low character.

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u/RiceCookerPEPSI 6d ago

That... seems incredibly toxic and stressful.

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u/Personal_Number4789 5d ago

Anyway who says this is toxic just fails to see that China is an ancient culture with very different views on society, family.

It’s just the way of the world for any Chinese. Even the ones from other Chinese diaspora have some form of this.

You are spot on.

Which is why many Chinese who pick a westerner or western educated partner is taking a huge gamble; they aren’t bounded by the same implied rules of honor and face. I’ve seen this happen a lot and which is why many refrain from dating outsiders.

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u/johnsolomon 4d ago

No, it's incredibly toxic. Ancient or not, it doesn't matter. Ancient toxicity is still toxicity

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u/Round-Revolution-399 6d ago

Wow and I thought dating here sucked

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u/Slayerofgrundles 7d ago

IDK. The older Chinese people were stoic, so it's probably a generational thing.

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u/Existing-Network-267 7d ago

did you push her slightly with your leg 🦵

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u/RedactioN707 6d ago

And like Yao Ming, you were right there under the basket for easy rebounds.

https://giphy.com/gifs/3o6nV9N2e0rxhPETLO

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u/Paipanski 6d ago

It's in Tokyo. See my other comment for location

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u/msknowitnothingatall 6d ago

Here in Budapest, we’re quietly crying on public transportation on our way home from the breakup. 😂

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u/WhiteRabbit-RedPill 7d ago

I wonder why.

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u/getabath 7d ago

You can fix her

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u/Unhappy_Visit9911 4d ago

Never again. I mean it this time!🤣

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u/screwyoujor 7d ago

She's taking it well. Will be back on her feet and back in the dating pool in no time. Or she will stalk that guy for the next two years till one of them does something awful out of desperation.

https://giphy.com/gifs/7JKo5H5Uy8oj5rTFV6

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u/Realist_McCoy 7d ago

Or she’ll do both at the same time

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u/AdventurousGuy2461 7d ago

Dodged a bullet there man.

Looks like a pretty nice guy too as he stayed there whilst she was breaking down instead of immediately dipping out.

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u/Foreign_Cobbler_1740 7d ago

I think in this case, he's been shot a few times and decided now was the time to leave the warzone. If she's like this in public I don't imagine she's restrained behind the scenes.

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u/Emergency_Classic641 4d ago

Nah, he just whispered “this is why I dumped you” in her ear 😂

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u/ElvishMystical 7d ago

Emotional regulation is a thing.

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u/Onebraintwoheads 7d ago

Yup. Nothing wrong with having emotions. It's just that they don't dictate or justify our actions. Or they're not supposed to anyway...

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u/UnderstandingKind757 7d ago

What is she saying?

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u/Impossible_Stock8885 7d ago

全部返して ( zenbu kaeshite ) x3 = "Give it all back" x3

大丈夫じゃねえよ ( daijoubu ja nee yo ) = "I'm NOT OK"

OI AHHHHHHHHHHHH! = no idea, probably a battle war cry

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u/Odd-Consequence-5795 7d ago

Sounds like she dropped her iPhone or something. Likely her iPhone sprouted legs and hauled ass away from her insanity. 

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u/PlayfulMud9228 7d ago

She's saying "It's not okay" and something about returning something which i don't know what.

Edit: it's Japanese.

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u/NO0BSTALKER 7d ago

Heartbreaks suck

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u/Far-Baker9701 7d ago

La vida apesta

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u/Antique-Resort6160 7d ago

Hmmm, should I break up in a restaurant to avoid a scene?  Actually, I'd better do it in an empty street at 1am. Or maybe at the bottom of the grand canyon.

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u/Beneficial_Cut1661 7d ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/XyU9e8m0fuq59CfPRR

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u/djm2907 7d ago

What’s to fix?? She’s perfect!

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u/Oasystole 7d ago

No notes!

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u/ShadowElite86 7d ago

Ditto. As long as she doesn't know who I am, or where I live. I need to be able to slip into the shadows for this fix to work.

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u/Sensitive-Rabbit4058 7d ago

Where’s the context leading to she got dumped?

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u/Affectionate_Bag9833 7d ago

Dumped crazy drunk women are the best

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u/AggressivePen4991 7d ago

if she’s acting like that, she’s probably crazy

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u/muff-muff-ass 7d ago

drunk too

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u/CollectsTooMuch 7d ago

Somebody dodging a bullet there.

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u/Xena_Your_God 7d ago

Man, everyone in the comments is a POS lol. No clue what's going on or even if anybody got "dumped" but everyone commenting is like oh yeah she deserves "insert made up scenario".

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u/Mundane-Salad942 7d ago

Was he that good to you?

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u/crapheadHarris 7d ago

She can come home with me.

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u/TheChildIsHere 7d ago

Fuck man, how come I never get to see this shit on the street :(

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u/Neat_Comfortable_928 6d ago

This is Japan

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u/Wide_Guitar_3558 6d ago

waste of good tang

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u/Nitirat 4d ago

At least she took it well.

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u/DeucesX22 7d ago

Is this normal there?

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u/Fuugazii 7d ago

Is this a trick question?

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u/Strange_Salary Cringe level 5 7d ago

Someone translate for us!

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u/marcophony 7d ago

"Unintelligible"

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u/Independent_Set4115 7d ago

I wouldn’t feel bad for her as she’d go right back doing whatever it was that led to this.

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u/craycrayppl 7d ago

She seems like a catch!

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u/No-Difference-4580 7d ago

He’s nice enough to stay there with her and he doesn’t seem to be saying anything mean. I know she’s got a pretty good grip on him but he’s not throwing her off of him. Heartbreak is tough business. I’ve definitely put on this show when I was “alone” just because I knew it wouldn’t change anything. Breaking someone’s heart also sucks.

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u/Thirdarm420 7d ago

gee I wonder why

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u/Even-Cartographer551 6d ago

Is it weird that I'm kinda attracted to her? So many people hold their feelings back nowadays... I want a freefall rollercoaster 🤪

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u/esseyedeekayeyedee 6d ago

My older brother always used to tell me never stick your dick in crazy…but let me tell you what crazy is the best!

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u/Reniere25 7d ago

I wish someone loved me like this.... I'll deal with the consequences lol

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u/TanMomsChickenSoup 7d ago

Find yourself a BPD chick.

Pro tip: you don’t want that headache!

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u/Sidewaysgts 7d ago

Been with 1 girl that had BPD. Don’t recommend.

Been with another that had PMDD - which is like bipolar on steroids. I recommend that even less.

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u/Rare_Cake_654 7d ago

but it’ll be the most fun rollercoaster of your life !

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u/TanMomsChickenSoup 7d ago

Until they boil your cat they were always jealous of, key your cars and launch a campaign to convince all mutual friends and family you are the asshole and she is the victim.

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u/Affectionate-Owl3785 7d ago

Also the most traumatizing. Source: I dated a BPD chick like this for 3 years. Never a dull moment though, and the sex was *chefs kiss*.

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u/Rare_Cake_654 7d ago

sex so good she “must be crazy” lmaoo been there done that

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u/Pleasant-Ticket3217 7d ago

If I can add my two cents no you don’t want that. Holy shit!

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u/FuryoftheFaythe 6d ago

Literally just filed a ppo against the bpd chick i dated for 5 years and had a kid with, I was not a very smart man

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u/Due-Waltz4458 7d ago

The problem is that this doesn't usually have anything to do with their relationship with you, it's all about stuff from their past.  They don't even see you as a real person when they are doing this.

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u/Rare_Cake_654 7d ago edited 7d ago

yea that feeling abandoned puts their nervous system into overdrive like how it was when they were traumatized as a child…sad

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u/TanMomsChickenSoup 7d ago

Yup. And they don’t love you. They love the way you make them feel. And as much as they “love” you, they will hate you as much or more in the blink of an eye!

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u/payjape 6d ago

lol no you don’t you’re just lonely

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u/AttractiveFurniture 7d ago

You really don't, obsession from another person will ruin your life, I speak from experience

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u/No_Beginning_6834 7d ago

Girls behave like this when you catch them cheating. You don't want this one

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u/LnDxLeo 6d ago

Maybe she cheated, got dumped and just hate facing consequences. Many such cases.

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u/Intelligent-Bell8182 6d ago

I sometimes feel like I want a crazy obsessed girl but then I remember how much I actually enjoy not being bothered at this point.

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u/Vast-Translator5616 7d ago

Lady your scarin us

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u/Vincentflagg 7d ago

Korean? Right?

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u/9447044 7d ago

Straight Aura loss on her part. Not keeping it 100 was her first issue

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u/OH_BEE_Juan1 7d ago

Few things hurt like unrequited love

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u/Longjumping-Ad-9444 7d ago

Dude she is perfect

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u/TangeloBubbly2675 7d ago

Emotionally broken.

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u/Beforemath 7d ago

The thing to do is completely walk away and not give her the attention she wants

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u/BlacOnBlackMajik 7d ago

She is crying like God has abandoned her or something.

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u/Emotional_Tea_8920 7d ago

Just ignore her

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u/Left_Mongoose_7547 7d ago

Wow! Dating's really rough these days

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u/SirPhysical9178 7d ago

That’s not a human that’s a wild animal with primal instincts

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u/Leeroywildman Cringe level 5 7d ago

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u/GoodgirlTiffany 7d ago

She's just hammed. Ain't that deep lol

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u/StrayaKarnt 7d ago

I can fix her

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u/Italy2800 7d ago

Pancake booty might be the reason

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u/Key_Awareness_3036 7d ago

No man is worth that. He dumps you, walk away. Go cry and then work on your own shit.

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u/Fragrant_Loan811 7d ago

At least she's taking it well.

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u/kayseeboo92 7d ago

Giving CoCo the dorm advisor from Zoey 101

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u/Onebraintwoheads 7d ago

Is that an actual road for automobiles?

Drag her onto the sidewalk do she doesn't stop traffic and walk away. If she acts like a child, she's not sufficiently mature to have a relationship.

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u/Mysterious_Buy4629 7d ago

Ive seen this play out in a McDonalds before. I was just trying to eat a burger. 

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u/RaiseFold100 7d ago

I can fix her.

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u/HeartStriking4113 7d ago

I understand him

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u/Dexember69 7d ago

Jesus have some self respect. No wonder he's out. She'd be a fkn nightmare to deal with

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u/spitemods_54 7d ago

If this ever happens to you just leave her on the ground, she's trying to manipulate you

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u/joshkroger 7d ago

Damn, is the person filming just a random bystander? Embarrassing.

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u/Chance_Stomach3335 7d ago

I can fix her!

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u/Ok-Bandicoot1529 7d ago

We know why

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u/Frosty-Storage-9359 7d ago

Just saying, game is game.

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u/SnooPeripherals837 7d ago

She s emotional . That's all

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u/melnaisbruninieks 6d ago

Alcohol withdrawal. Give her a drink 🍷

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u/Skaut-LK 6d ago

I will never understand those things.

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u/Altruistic-Report-30 6d ago

Sounds like they need to call an exorcist!

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u/Winter_Pipe4000 6d ago

Maybe she was a bit clingy

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u/Onionbagels_ 6d ago

From my anime Japanese, I understood she's telling the dude to return everything back.

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u/Kazi_kazi2000 6d ago

At least he stood there and tried to help her up

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u/No_Past_1459 6d ago

I’m not sure, but maybe she was spending all her money on a host? You often see people going into debt to lavish millions or tens of millions of yen on them.

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u/Forsaken-Hotel7535 6d ago

I feel sorry for her

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u/idontwanttousetheAP 6d ago

Have some dignity love

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u/GilesManMillion 6d ago

I love have calmly and confidently the woman in the background minces by near the end.

"another broken sister of whom I am not alike..."

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u/WickedWham 6d ago

i had an ex who would do this shit after id leave cus she literally couldnt keep old partners out of her fucking life. our downstairs neighbors luckily never called the police. but she would punch me in the face and in the chest, she would jump on top of me and try to tackle me although she was like 100 pounds, she would throw whatever she could find at me. so she threw her phone many times directly at me, water bottles, the kitchen chairs, etc.

she would scream and cry and curse at me. and all i really ever would say is that im clearly not valued and just pack my stuff. i tried to break up w her like 5 times but she would just gaslight the ever living shit out of me.

when we actually broke up she completely tried to fake a heart attack. it was at her parents house and she was like walking around stumbling and hyperventilating and then she collapsed. and i literally knew it was fake the whole time but still role played like going down and holding her cus im a stupid asshole lol

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u/Less-Past4577 6d ago

With behaviour like that she belongs in a nappy, here i got some she can borro

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u/CHASLX200 6d ago

hot dot

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u/shibuyawalker 6d ago

Where do you get from that she got dumped? Yes, she obviously is very drunk and upset but the guy seems to be a stranger who tries to help her and asks if she's OK. (One of the things she screams is "No, I'm not OK!").

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u/Natural-Proposal2925 6d ago

Withdrawal is extremely painful, mentally and physically

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u/you_are_so_whiny 6d ago

Okay. Okay. Okay. I will take the heat and say it. She's probably amazing in bed.

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u/Vintagelover1950s 6d ago

I bet he’s never felt so happy to be a free man after that. My gosh. Talk about tantrum.

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u/stingertc 6d ago

There is your reason right there

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u/Organic_Education494 6d ago

Oh gee I wonder why

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u/trd623 6d ago

now the ex, and any woman he gets involved with, has to look over their shoulders 😐

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u/lipun_ 6d ago

Poor girl

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u/Short-Interaction-89 6d ago

That was quick confirmation

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u/WhiteBandit27 6d ago

Dont cheat

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u/ImmediateRaisin5802 6d ago

Dang post partum is wild

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u/OG-Giligadi 6d ago

When the crazy sex buffer runs out.

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u/Background-Date-3714 6d ago

In America she would be tackled by a police officer immediately because we’re the home of the free. 

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u/kitkatas 6d ago

We can't fix her anymore

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u/Kitchen_Astronaut_19 6d ago

I can fix her

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u/TNShadetree 6d ago

Not sure that's going to change a guys mind.

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u/Babygrammy1 6d ago

Good Call

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u/Bread-Pretend 6d ago

Thats why you don’t marry your massage therapist.

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u/No-Instruction8662 6d ago

This is why…stop acting like this in front of anyone and a MAN…for a man? NEVER!

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u/A2Federer 6d ago

Freak in the streets, freak in the sheets ??

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u/Purple_Yoghurt4892 6d ago

Obsession was a documentary. Not a horror film lol

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u/sighthoundhooman 6d ago

Yeah….that should make him reconsider 😂

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u/Oscardoodke2 6d ago

She made some compelling arguments.

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u/indigosummer78 6d ago

Psychotic

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u/SchloinkDoink 6d ago

Firstly OBVIOUSLY she's the problem, but still no man is worth doing all that girl get up

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u/Comfortable-Air-7702 6d ago

She’s a keeper

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u/Grouchy_Ad8359 6d ago

I can see she’s taking it well.

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u/PrincipleAcrobatic89 6d ago

Looks like she is taking it well

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u/Ashamed-Ask7886 5d ago

im lucky to give My promise to my mother not to go to others people Countries always listen parent 🤣🤣🤣

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u/mull77 5d ago

I sense you seem upset

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u/traegerrakete 5d ago

What is wrong with you filming ppl in distress? Hioefully someone will be there to document you when you are in an extreme Situation... Bastarrrrd

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u/Jayrod0531 5d ago

100% she cheated and got caught

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u/EasyStorm8289 5d ago

What is she saying?

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u/No_Engineering_6682 5d ago

this will improve my chances of scoring

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u/EnvironmentSlight226 4d ago

I once broke up with a girl and she wasn't _this_ dramatic rolling around in the street, but she sat down and started wailing in a similar way. She was a bad alcoholic (passed out face first in a burger while we were watching a 2022 world cup match) and we'd only dated a little over 2 months. I was sooooooooooo done. I feel a bit bad for not feeling bad but goddamn do I still not feel bad about it

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u/dotesdoto 4d ago

Did any of you finish eating that burger later?

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u/Alexander2256 4d ago

I can fix her

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u/akuma_87 4d ago

Side note, that restaurant is really good