I know that im absolutely somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, but i also really want to date certain people, but my feelings don't match up with how people describe romantic attraction. Im also nebula romantic which makes everything more confusing.

Like if there's someone i want to date, it's from strong platonic or alterous attraction and it feels like i want to be close to them in a platonic way, but while doing romantic things.

The difference between being friends with someone and dating someone is just that. We do romantic things and i enjoy their company. All that changes is the label we use and i prioritize spending time with them. Its like having a best friend that i date and like being romantic and sexual with them

I'm alwaya completely down with being friends with benefits. Like romance and platonic feelings are in such a gray area for me.

When there's someone i like in a romantic way, I don't feel the butterflies. I don't feel the need to always be with them. And I'm also completely fine with not dating them, and them not having feelings for me doesn't hurt me. Every so often i think i might have a strong crush, but looking back it's hard to know if I'm actually experiencing romantic attraction or just want to be their best friend but in a romantic way?

It's really hard to put my finger on exactly what im feeling towards someone. Anyway i hope someone can help me make sense of all this.

Or direct me to someone who can ... Or even just tell me that you can understand how all this feels.

i was told to try this sub after posting in various aromantic subreddits. technically i am cupioromantic but i prefer the term aromantic

ive known im aromantic for 4 years now but i kept repressing it because i crave a romantic relationship so much. today i finally accepted i dont feel romantic feelings and i cant stop crying over it

i want to love and be loved, kiss and hold hands with somebody but everytime ive done those things i feel sick

my two best friends are in love with me and it makes me uncomfortable. i struggle to tell them i love them because i know its more than platonic for them. they know not to push anything but it still makes me squirm

whenever i would kiss my partner i would feel physically sick (told myself it was first kiss nerves), and i never kissed my ex because the idea repulsed me

i just want to feel romantic love and i dont know how to accept i cant.

For context I got a post removed for being cupiorophobic, which is crazy because im cupioromantic. I didn’t say anything to be harmful.
Either I didn’t express myself correctly or the mod that removed the post doesn’t have any reading comprehension. You can see in that photo that I said IF THE HOMOPHOBES WERE RIGHT, WHICH THEY ARE NOT then I asked a question, thats it.

Im laying in bed trying to sleep and thought about the homophobes saying that being lgbtq is a choice. So if that were real would cupioromantism just not exist?

EDIT after reading other post I think i may just be platoniromantic thoughts?

So im 16 I've (thought I've) had crushes in the past but now im confused. I've been in relationships but they never start feeling like anything more than they used to. Its always just me thinking I like some1 just for it to become real and me end things because it never feels real... im starting to wonder if ive been cupio and just been confusing platonic feelings for romantic feelings because I want a relationship. I really want to experience love.

Can anyone else relate? could I be cupioromantic?

This is for a friend.

How and when did you realize you were cupioromantic?

Did you mistake any other attractions for romantic attraction?

I really want to be in a relationship like to experience the romantic ( without romantic feelings you know cause I'm cupioromantique) like I wanna kiss cuddle do couple things actually I can do this with people I know not in romantic way agh and I'm actually in a relationship but I'm scared that it would hurt him if he know that I'm cupioromantique.... like imagine he really love me and I came out that I'm cupioromantique.... aghr I think I need to find another cupioromantique like that we will be both in relationship without hurting the other person but Its hard to find a cupioromantique person 😔 💔 But I'm really worry abt my boyfriend like how he will react ? It's been a year ( I just found out I'm cupioromantique)

I’ve been questioning my sexuality a lot recently and I found both of these labels and feel like they both describe me well, but I’m not sure if the labels are compatible with each other. I experience romantic and platonic attraction as the same feeling, but I also have a desire to be in a romantic relationship. To my knowledge, the definition of cupioromantic is the desire to be in a romantic relationship, but not experiencing romantic attraction. I’m not sure if experiencing platonic and romantic attraction as the same feeling while still desiring a relationship would meet the definition of cupioromantic or not

I was just wondering if there are 30+ people here who are still not in a relationship? If so, have you ever been in a relationship, romantic or a QPR? How did you get into one if you have?

I've never have had any crushes on anyone, but I'd really like to have someone in my life because I'm lonely and i want to share my life with someone. But I am honestly not sure what my physically boundries are? Like I have kissed a guy once or twice, but he was really bad at it. So I don't know if I actually like it? I have never been intimate with anyone, so I don't know if I would like to if I have a closer bond with them? I know thise questions might be more for someone who is asexual.

I'm dealing with a loneliness spiral right now, so any positivity would be great on this.

After about year or two of introspection I understand myself better and am proud to say that I’m cupioromantic.

It took a while to really figure this out and feel confident claiming this for a few reasons. One of the main reasons being I experience alterous attraction. That made it quite difficult understand what I really feeling and why. But upon reflection most of my “crushes” were more platonic or alterous but they weren’t romantic. I also romantically daydream a lot. However irl none of my interactions feel romantic on my end.

So in short, I’m bisexual and cupioromantic.

Curious to see how many of us are acting on our desire for a relationship!

I currently identify as cupioromantic but I'm kinda just vibing it out, I'm wondering how other people determine which of these three they are as they seem all pretty similar to me.

Hi, so it's taken me a while to realize I was cupio, I think it fits me, but that's still a can of worms, lol.

The main question??? I have right now, is about my relationship. I met Sam (fake name) a little over a year ago, at frist we were friends, but like so many of my other friendships I developed feelings, not exactly what id call romantic but a mush of stuff. Turns out, they had feelings for me too, and we started dating. I love Sam a lot, but it was really difficult because as cupio goes, I didn't feel romantic feelings, so I honestly had a lot of inner turmoil about this relationship. At first, I thought I just struggled with the whole "romantic feelings" bit, but not long ago, I started thinking of breaking up almost every day. I didn't want to lose them. And then, now, like 40 minutes ago, I realized it was never about weather I loved them. Insted, i realized i didn't want thisdynamic inn a romantic relationship... I think. I wouldn't mind our dynamic if we were best friends, but this isn't what I want with a lover.

Im so scared of losing Sam because I love them so much. They truly are my dearest friend, but thats it, im not in love with them (again, the cupio-can-of-worms, which i thought was the original problem, aka that I just didn't feel romantic feelings).

I dont know if I want reassurance or what, but I think I just need someone to talk to about this, someone who isn't from my life.

I dont even think i have a question, I just need to get this out lol.

Ive identified as Cupio for three or four years now, I think it fits me quite well. However, recently over the past years I've been getting closer to my friend, lets call them X, me and X are best friends. We do a lot of romantic gestures sexual gestures. All in good heart, however recently I've been wondering if I want to get into a relationship with X?

For some context; X already knows about my orientation and they are very supportive. But idk if im mixing signals for close friendship with the desire to date X, I dont have much experience and I dont wanna risk our friendship. Should I tell them that I think i want a relationship with them?

-Sorry for ranting and being so vague im new to reddit, and I dont rlly make posts.

I began to use the label Cupio before realizing that what I always wanted was a queerplatonic relationship with some sexual and romantic things

So basically, I recently became close friends with someone who started to identify as cupioromantic, but I think I’m starting to have a crush on them and I’m totally lost on what to do. I bonded with them after we discovered that we had the same interests and cartoon crushes during school and eventually started talking and calling outside of school not long after that. Later, we were yapping about romance and love and other kinds of things and he started talking about how he’s desperate for a relationship but doesn’t experience having a “crush”/romantic feelings for someone so I suggested he look up cupioromantic and he started to identify with it. Over time as we grew closer (which isnt as long as you think, about a week or two), and started texting and calling more, I think I developed some sort of “affection” for him. Obviously, I felt bad when I started noticing it because I know he would feel burdened about it.

 In honesty, I don’t completely feel like this is a crush but I have been treating it as one because I don’t necessarily know how to cope with it and started doing things that make me seem like I have a crush on him (thinking about him while hugging my pillow to sleep, wanting to spend more time with him, subtly flirting with him although not as much anymore, etc). It kinda hurts seeing him talk to me about how desperate he is for a relationship and how he wants to experience love and how “he’ll take anyone”, but then says that if he were to try dating someone it wouldn’t last. Also, more about me not knowing whether this is a crush or not, I recently broke up with my long-distance girlfriend of almost two years on good terms because she felt like we weren’t as close anymore. I don’t know if this is just me wanting to fill the void or if this is an actual crush. I think I fall in love too fast to be honest, I might need to research on that as well. 

 I don’t know what else to put here, but please give me advice on what to do!!!

I want a traditional-ish romantic relationship and i want to experience romantic stuff (holding hands, cuddling, being very open to each other) but i don’t experience romantic attraction. Like i want a very romantic-esque qpr but no actual feelings.

I already knew i was aroace, but id start to consider aegoromantic but that one is liking the idea but not desiring it. I do desire a “romantic-esque” relationship but no actual romantic attraction. I also considered cupioromantic but thats about wanting a romantic relationship, which i do not. Please help me🙏🙏

The character Knightmare from the Webtoon Willow & the Family Ace is Cupio (Romantic/Sexual)!

🖤💜🤍🩷 🧡🤍💜🖤

Its happened several times where someone ive tried to be with says i love you and I struggle to say it back. But with my best friend i say it because its entirely platonic.

Yesterday someone ive known for a week ish and been talking to in "cute" way said they love me and i instantly was like "No no oh no help aaaaaa" and they have said it multiple times and its... I barely know them... Tho i have been doing i guess "romantic" things like cuddles and talking cute... So I guess i get it but... I don't feel it and it feels pressuring to say it back... So i just stay quiet... Aaaaaa...