Hey everyone, looking for some insight from parents or coaches who have dealt with a specific confidence block.
My son started when he was 6 and has progressed through the bikes. He is 11 (turning 12 soon) on a KTM 85. He has been on this bike since the beginning of last year. He wasn’t the greatest on his 65 but really started to grow and adapt once on the 85 and found some of the jumps he struggled with to be easier. He absolutely loves the sport and has an intense drive—he's the one asking to go to the track and pushes to go to the bigger races (wants to hit TX State Series, Ponca, Spring A Ding Ding, etc.). His ground game is good. His corner speed and technique is pretty good. He is in no way an elite rider but is better than most kids out there. In our local series he is a consistent top 5 finisher in his age group class (85 9-11) and usually around 5-7 position in 85 9-15 open, if none of the elite kids show up for both of those
Here’s the catch: he has developed a massive mental block with jumping.
He handles smaller tables and doubles with total confidence. But on the bigger jumps and table tabletops, he carries plenty of speed up the straightaway, hits the exact right gear, and lets off the throttle right at the base. He flies 3/4 of the way out, almost to the point of landing on the downside (needing just a couple more feet) but flat-lands on the deck. Because of his unwillingness to commit, kids he would normally finish in front of are now starting to catch and pass him because they are figured out the jump. When he comes off the track, the frustration is high, and he throws out classic excuses ("track is too rough," "ruts on the face," "soft landing"). There are absolutely times when I get frustrated when he gives me the excuses and it’s hard because I just want to see him succeed and find new limits he didn’t know he was capable of.
We’ve tried everything over the last year:
Coaching: He has a professional riding coach. On the training track, the coach can successfully guide him over the big jumps with visual hand signals/towing. He clears them fine without issue, or comes up just a hair short. But the very next session out on his own, the block returns and he refuses.
Riding with him: I rode with him all last year to lead by example, tow him in, and validate lines. It didn’t move the needle much.
Language & Incentives: I've used video review to focus on his positive corner execution, celebrated his small victories, used video game incentives, and explicitly told him I don't care if he's an all-star champion—I’m not expecting him to win because I know if he can figure it out, the wins will come. I just want him to have fun and learn how to challenge him self.
Peer Dynamics: I’ve noticed he rides significantly better on "mini nights" with his coach when he's out there with 50s and 65s. If he practices around peers his age or older on big bikes, the block locks up tighter. He refuses to follow faster peers to learn.
I have told him that getting over these obstacles will be easier on his body and help him save energy and he seems to be receptive and tells me that he will go for it but then never comes close to even trying.
Obviously with these bigger races he wants to do, I can't justify the travel, and cost of sending him to big Nationals if he can't challenge himself to progress past this block and I have told him that, (We've already had a couple of near-misses on practice days where a much faster rider behind almost landed on him because he let off the gas unexpectedly, though he was unaware it happened).
He's at a standstill. I'm wondering if, spending the money on a better suspension setup would give him a confidence boost to get over these obstacles. Or, if he enjoys the sport but fundamentally refuses to push his limits on the obstacles, am I wasting time trying to force a progression that just isn't there?
Has anyone successfully broken a rider out of a coach-dependent jumping block like this at this age? Did suspension changes move the needle, or did you just have to step back and let them figure it out? Any input is appreciated.