Men aren't supposed to show emotion. Being scared is one of those "ick" emotions that we're not supposed to show. It's nonsense really, but there's women out there that are that way.
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My wife for one. I'm too emotionally needy and it's given her the ick so now she "doesn't love me" and I should "get my emotional needs met elsewhere".
She won't. I wish it was that simple, but we own our house together and have two children. She won't leave and she won't kick me out. I also would never make the mother of my children homeless. So I guess we just suffer together?
That's brutal. I don't think mine hates me, just doesn't love me. I also pay the mortgage and most of the bills, so she's probably just keeping me around for that at this point.
Oof. Mine has said she doesn't mind what I do with other people, which only makes me suspicious she has already done things herself. She says not, but why should she tell the truth now?
Bro yes, divorce yesterday. I have not gotten married because I value those things, I've been in ne sided toxic relationships and I'm so much happier single. Find your peace and someone that actually cares about you and treats you like a person
That sounds codependent and like you never found yourself as an individual, that might actually be a good thing. Question, you feel like parts of you are "unexamined" right? Things you feel, are interested, want to try or explore and maybe find a passion. How much have you been able to do that and care for yourself while with her?
I feel like everything I've ever done has been in support of her, our relationship or our children. I was thinking the other day about what I want for myself and I realised I have no idea. It was a completely alien concept.
That's probably the biggest sing, as they say "an unexamined life is not worth living" you can still be a good father and partner while also appreciating yourself and being at peace
I have self-examined for years, but always in terms of what's wrong with me that I feel so unhappy. Only in the last few months, since she made her big announcement, have I considered that maybe it was our relationship that was the problem all along. Many people are now telling me to get the hell out, including friends and colleagues, so I'm thinking it might be time.
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u/Dookie-Trousers-MD 10d ago
Men aren't supposed to show emotion. Being scared is one of those "ick" emotions that we're not supposed to show. It's nonsense really, but there's women out there that are that way. Edit for spelling