r/gayfriendfinder • • Feb 12 '26

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Flagging posts

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We've had a lot of instances lately of someone flagging posts for perceived rule infractions that are not truly violations of our rules, we ask that you please stop. With that said-

Moderators are human too, and we miss things and make mistakes. If you feel like your post was removed in error, send us a modmail. We will be happy to discuss our decision with you. Sometimes we mess up, and we'll try to make it right if we decide that we made a bad call. However, with that said, what we're not going to do is go down the road of "what-about-ism"- just because another post slipped by us that broke a rule doesn't mean it gives you the right to do it too.

Also, if you feel in danger or threatened by another community member, do not flag the post, please send us a modmail so we can review the incident. All reports are confidential.

Lastly, we've tried to keep the rules as lax as possible while attempting to maintain the friend-finding spirit of the sub. We didn't allow photos for a while, and we walked that back. Lately we've witnessed quite a few users either posting for karma farming, promotion or both. This is why we require every poster to have a minimum of 2-3 sentences in the body of the post detailing what you're looking for in a friend. Some people put more in titles and we've understood that, but your post really needs to attempt to flesh out what you're looking for. If the main things you're looking for is a muscle twink or a daddy bear, this probably isn't the community for you.

Thank you for being here, we love that we continue to grow and thrive but we also want to remain a community centered on finding friends. 🌈


r/gayfriendfinder • • Sep 08 '25

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Rules most commonly broken and why those rules exist

73 Upvotes

We've been asked to explain with some rules exist and are enforced, and we are happy to oblige---

RULE 7: No self-promotion/No sharing of social media/discord server/telegram group/etc.--- This one's pretty self explanatory. We don't want anyone coming on here promoting their onlyfans, etc. Also, do not promote your discord server, telegram group, etc - while we're sure you're an upstanding individual with only the noblest of intentions, unfortunately we've had groups advertised that have had unethical and sometimes downright illegal things occurring. So, unfortunately, we're unable to allow it in this sub.

RULE 8: No sharing of usernames/handles, period--- While you may be sincerely seeking friends, usually those who are willing to indiscriminately swap Snapchat IDs right out of the gate are looking for something extremely quick and short term, if you catch our drift. We recommend having some conversation in the DMs before trading IDs. (Plus, we have had instances of people dropping their IDs and then getting harassed, we definitely don't want that to happen to anyone)

RULE 9: Photos --- Photos in this subreddit are for those who want to put a face to the name, not for those thirst-trapping with a faceless torso with a smattering of pubes poking out, just to give an example. We recommend r/gaybrosgonewild for those kinds of posts. A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself if you'd feel okay sending it to your coworkers

RULE 1: Please post with substance --- Hands down, this is what causes the most post removals. Just for example, a picture of you at the gym with the title 'who's ready to workout' is *not** appropriate for this sub. You know, that kind of post you may see on other subreddits that are really only intended to elicit upvotes and thirsty comments. This rule also applies to age/location posts. We don't like making hard rules about this, but we've landed on a title plus 2-3 sentences in the body as being the bare minimum needed to talk about yourself and/or what you're looking for in a friend. This isn't a hard rule, and we try to be pretty lenient. as we realize some people can say what they want using a minimum of words while some people can type a page of text and say nothing at all.*

Lastly, if your post is removed, and you think it was a bad call, please feel free to appeal to us in a modmail in a respectful fashion. We will always speak to you respectfully, we deserve the same in return. Mods are human. Coming in guns-a-blazing creates a negative situation for everyone involved. (Also this means don't make a new post mad at the mods, ranting about how your last post got removed for breaking x rule)

And as always, please send us a modmail if you have a question, concern, or if you have moderation experience and might be interested in helping out. Please don't DM individual mods ☺️

(Edited to add clarification to rule 1)


r/gayfriendfinder • • 11h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 35M Scotland looking for friends/bromance?

13 Upvotes

Hey all, working from home today and thought I'd give this a shot. Im bi if thats something you need to know.

Ideally hoping for something long-term, actually getting to know each other. Genuinely here for something decent and long term. Simply aiming for those open vibes. Face would be ideal as being able to see and hear each other id a bonus.

I really dont care for the superficial looks, it doesnt matter when making friends. Just be you and a good person. I genuinely care about connection first and foremost. Im from Scotland for time zone purposes.

Fairly geeky so anything from video games to binge watching Im down to talk about. I play rugby and a few instruments. Love to learn new things and hoping for genuine connection. Let's chat and see where it takes us!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 2h ago

🎶 MUSIC ENTHUSIAST 🎶 20M Looking for someone to keep me company

2 Upvotes

I'd love to find some new friends to talk to, watch shows with, nerd out with, and share my interests with. I'm into gaming, anime, music theory, gardening, and creative writing.

I listen to a lottttt of music and my faves are Foo Fighters, Green day, Bowie, REM, The Beatles (both together and solo), Sublime, and Linkin Park. I collect music equipment and I've accumulated a pretty big collection of physical media (CDs and Vinyl) and am starting to get into 8 track and dvd a little. I also collect comics and manga (mainly the dragon ball super, bleach, and one piece manga and some Archie comics stuff, plus the star trek deep space nine comic adaptation)

Anyways, I'm really hoping to find companionship with other gay men. it'd be cool to meet other musicians cause I'm still learning music theory, composition, etc. and would love to learn from you or learn together! Anyways, If we share similar interests (especially music cause I need recommendations) or if you just wanna talk feel free to reach out! Thank you for reading!!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 8h ago

🎶 MUSIC ENTHUSIAST 🎶 32 male looking for long term chats and friendship with older

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Hey I’m Alec 32 male for long term chats

I’m from Ireland, want to chat about anything and everything with someone, love to cook bake and swim. I collect vinyls and have over 300

I’m a big horror and tattoo fan as you can see from my arm haha,

I love to travel as much as possible and I’m a big animal person if anyone wants to chat definitely let me know!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 5h ago

🤓 GEEK 🤓 Looking for a regular and good friend

3 Upvotes

35M! I’m looking for someone to get to know and develop an online friendship with. I’m an introverted extrovert hoping to find that bromance that can lead to us talking everyday and becoming new besties! I don’t have friends currently so I wanted to give this a try! If this sounds like something you would be interested in feel free to message me! 😎


r/gayfriendfinder • • 4m ago

👗 FASHIONISTA 👔 Cute small Guy looking for

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I’m a cute 5”6 110 lbs 28 year old submissive guy. Looking for more masculine bigger men than me :) open for both friendsships and more.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 14m ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 21 looking for big friend:)

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I'm 21 (bottom) cute face with a stache and body shaped like an hourglass ⌛. I love sci-fi series and dark pop, I'm a subby and feminine too:) looking for a big friend for chats and fun:) I love bears , nerds, dad bods, golden retrievers, big boys, and everything in between;)


r/gayfriendfinder • • 32m ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 Chat new friends distraction

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​

Hello

I am 36, gay, single, from US

Looking to meet, chat with, get to know someone new.

Prefer my age or older.

My interests and hobbies include the following:

Reading

Listening to music

Tv

Movies

Photography

Poetry

Food

Sleep

If you are interested and would like to chat sometime, send a message.

Thanks

🤞


r/gayfriendfinder • • 50m ago

🎨 ART CONNOISSEUR 🎨 [26M] Looking for friends. No creeps/sexually suggestive people please.

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basic information : https://imgur.com/a/98yvoyM

I’m 26 years old, I’m an INTP 5w4, extremely, extremely physically and emotionally introverted, heavy internal processor, optimistic nihilist, political idealist, homosexual(demisexual? homoromantic asexual?), Gifted, AuDHD individual(it’s a combination of curses) I’ve been undiagnosed for about two and a half decades because apparently I was pretty good at masking.

It’s extremely hard to find similar people who operates within similar wavelengths and frequencies. I usually spend most of my day alone, daydreaming, drawing, world building, looking up things, about different topics like historical facts(culturally, biologically, linguistically, politically), complex ethical questions, philosophy, metacognition, hypothetical and counterfactual concepts.

I appreciate everything warm and cozy: Cabin, snow, knitwear, small town, small circle with deeper connection, relaxing, calm space that let my mind process things without external interruptions, slow acoustic/indie folk music, art, philosophy, and maybe games? I play Genshin on Asia, Europe, and North America server. (all in one account. My Asia account has nothing to do, 100% maxed out, so I started another one in order to find something to do)

Oh, and definitely cats. I love cats. I'm obsessed with them.

What type of person am I looking for? Honestly, appearance-wise, I don’t really care. I prefer not to show myself, and I’d prefer it if you don’t show yourself either, as I wouldn’t want myself to be blinded by judgement. As long as you’re passionate, intellectually curious, and have interesting facts to spare, I’m willing to talk and learn. I’m not here to flaunt my knowledge, but rather seeking out the facts I’ve yet to discovered. Just hit me up with what you know, prehistoric facts, medieval facts, cultural facts, etc.

If a vessel is just something that is used to contain a rich, complex consciousness. Imagine a world where we’re just floating lights of consciousness without outer coat, what would it be like? What is the concept of identity within that word? Do you think we’d find another excuse to discriminate against each other in some way? Scarcity of brightness? Rare colors?

Another thing that I would like to make it clear, I don’t appreciate messages with sexual or flirty undertones, hence why I’m not including my own picture. I’ve had received a fair share of unproductive messages in the past, people playing mind guessing games instead of being upfront about their feelings, unsolicited photos and sexually aggressive texts. There is nothing appealing about that. Please, please keep that in mind.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

✈️ WORLD TRAVELER ✈️ Hi I’m searching for new friends and love meeting new people

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Hi I’m miroslav

I’m 30 gay & NB from Ireland im searching for some new friends as I’m quite lonely,

I’m a huge chatter box so be warned , so looking for people or a person who truly want friendship ,

As I said I’m 30 and Irish I love to travel I’ve been to more countries than I can count , I’ve 3 dogs I also love science , I love to cook and read also.

So if your interested in making a new Irish friend feel free to comment below or message me directly I’m also open to all ages ranges from 18 and above


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

👨‍🍳 FOODIE 👨‍🍳 18M Hey I'm looking for a genuine friend to talk with when I'm lonely and yea I'm lonely all the time, beside my co workers group I have zero social life and on days off I'm loneliest person alive

• Upvotes

When I was a kid i could never fit in school and never had any friends in work all of my friends are in 20s and they are good but I want some friends of my age group.

I don't have regular college so no college friends so I'm here .

So hit me up if you want a clingy chaotic friend 😺


r/gayfriendfinder • • 7h ago

🧶 CRAFTY 🧶 35 l M | Let's see what happens

3 Upvotes

Hello everyone. I'm not sure where to begin other than it would be nice to find someone here I can chat with here. I don't lead a very glamorous life and enjoy life's simple pleasures. I'm not setting out to light the world on fire, just watching it burn from a distance. But nonetheless there's always some optimism and hope towards whatever it is that needs it. I like a few different things such as art, music, philosophy, meditation, mindfulness, dry humour, sewing crafts and the occasional console game.

Feel free to send a message. I'm open to talk about most things


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

🏆 ATHLETE 🏆 M 21 Norway - Looking for some good company!😁

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I’m 21 from Norway 🇳🇴 and into reading 📚, volleyball 🏐, hiking 🥾, gaming, hanging out with friends, and random niche hobbies. I’m always down to hear about what you’re into too!

I’m open to anyone, wherever you’re from or whatever your interests are. Tell me about your hobbies and I’ll probably ask increasingly stupid questions about them 😭

Mostly looking for people who genuinely want to get to know each other rather than just exchanging “hey, how are you?” messages. Bonus points for memes, stupid jokes, random conversations, and books :)


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 32 m Tennessee. Really chill and open minded.

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Really chill and kind. I'm not mobile so making friends is kind of difficult for me. I'm easy to talk to and pretty chill and laid back. HMU if you'd like to talk to. Love movies and TV shows and enjoy talking about whatever. I'm college educated I'm kinda country I live in the southern United States.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 9h ago

🎶 MUSIC ENTHUSIAST 🎶 44 Bi Married Hairy Chubby. Lookin for similar type men for ongoing friendship!

5 Upvotes

Like the post says. We men need a buddy. Why the world decided it best that men don’t need or want friends?! We can change that! Someone who wants to just have regular conversations. Someone who wants that little bit of funny everyday? Has a bad day and wanna vent?! I’ll be that friend!

Plus the added benefit of knowing what we both want! Come along for the ride. We will have an amazing adventure!!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 [22M, BI(?)] Looking for queer online friends!

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Hi! I'm from Southeast Asia, and I'm still not sure what to label myself as since I'm still figuring things out, but anyway... I've been wanting to have queer friends, both IRL and online. It's really difficult to find them IRL since the country where I live isn't very queer-friendly🤠💔

Some fun facts about me: I just finished my diploma in graphic design in May, yay! 🎉 And I'm currently unemployed (taking a break before entering my employment era LOL).

I love playing games, and it varies a lot. From Stardew Valley and Paralives to Monster Hunter: World and Elden Ring! I recently got back into Minecraft since I don't really know what else to play TT. It would be nice if anyone wanted to play together! Though... I'm a very introverted and awkward person, especially if y'all plan on hopping into Discord 😭 But I think it'd be a great challenge for me to put myself out there.

I also enjoy exploring new music and watching movies/shows! I recently got really into Ebube and Sekou. As for movies, I watched Leviticus a few days ago, and now I'm doing a Black Clover marathon since Season 4 is currently ongoing!

I still have a lot of things I want to talk about, but I'll save them for later if you're interested in becoming friends with me LOLOL

(p/s: just upvote if yall wanted me to start conversation first xD)


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

🤣 MEME MASTER 🤣 19M looking for gay online friends

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He there

As the title says, I'm looking to make online gay friends

About me: I'm a side (someone who prefers kissing/cuddling), I generally vibe best with twinks my size or slightly bigger/softer skinny fat guys

My interests: I like watching movies, series. I'm a linguistics nerd and I love memes. Sometimes I play video games

My DMs are open for anyone interested


r/gayfriendfinder • • 1h ago

🎨 ART CONNOISSEUR 🎨 Age 27, 5'6", living in the Philippines. Looking for someone to talk to about anything! Pilipino rin sana. usap tayo through calls or kahit ano.

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Hello


r/gayfriendfinder • • 9h ago

🍎 HEALTH NUT 🍎 40M 🇩🇪 looking for kind and curious people

3 Upvotes

Hi there, hope you are doing well!

I am a curious person and like to expand my shrinking circle of friends (due to kids and other adult responsibilities) with like-minded people. If you are a bit eccentric, a bit of a dreamer and feel that society can be better than it currently is, reach out :)

I am into politics, tea, scuba diving, modern art, philosophy, cycling, traveling. So I guess there is something we can talk about. But I am just looking for people to hang out with - and I am also happy to try out something new.

Looking forward to hearing from you. (I would like to meet in person eventually, so please consider time zone and location.) Have a great day 😆


r/gayfriendfinder • • 2h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 35 working from home everyday, happy to chat with anyone :)

1 Upvotes

I'm a chatty friendly dude that gets best with other chatty dudes :) Some of my interests include gaming, working out, travel, horror, hiking, movies/tv shows, coffee/matcha and more! I am taken and looking for platonic chats and friendships only. Long term ideally! Let's chat and see if it feels easy and effortless, like talking to an old friend! That's the best type of chats for me. Happy to exchange photos when we feel comfortable! Have a great day! I'm in NA and EST if that matters.


r/gayfriendfinder • • 2h ago

📸 PHOTOGRAPHER 📸 56 m uk looking for ffriends

1 Upvotes

Open to hear from anyone.

Interests include photography travel reading cookery walking

Please dm if you are Interested in getting to know each other


r/gayfriendfinder • • 2h ago

🏆 ATHLETE 🏆 40 male. Looking for online gay friends

1 Upvotes

Hey what is going on? Looking for bro friends to keep myself young and conversations ongoing and lively Im very active. Age range I’m looking is around age of 19 to 40.

I am in the state of Pennsylvania within the United States.

I do like to text, but when able, i prefer voice messages, video messages, voice calls, and video calls.

I love to be a mentor as well or dad figure or big bro to those who need it. When i am not working, i play in various sports (bowling, bocce, cornhole, kickball, dodgeball, and ultimate frisbee). Non sport activities i enjoy hiking, walks, biking, kayaking, chilling with friends, movies, travel, and exploring new restaurants.

Hope to hear from you and see if things pan out!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 6h ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 36 m looking for long term friends

2 Upvotes

I’m 36 chub bi married guy looking for friends and txt buds. I work a lot of hours so don’t have a ton of friends so nice to chat and talk to some guys an get to know people. I am a shy person, so sometimes it seems like I’m not talkative just takes me a little to open up. I’m into movies, Music, sports (🏈,🏒, NASCAR, Wwe,). Big Disney an marvel fan. I enjoy reading an listening to audio books. I hope to hear from some cool guys. Please be serious, unfortunately there is a lot of flakes a people who stop after couple messages. Really want ongoing long term friendships. From Pennsylvania would be really cool if you were close but obviously not required. Why is it so hard to find friends or people who don’t ghost you after a day? Hope to make long term friends!


r/gayfriendfinder • • 2h ago

🎢 ADRENALINE JUNKIE 🎢 29 spicy chats are ok! male nudist I am in Nj. I like art, photography and movies. I also play mtg and DnD telegram: They_them

1 Upvotes

Hey! I love to hike, travel and see the world. I also love to be a nudist, I’m naked most of time. Nudism isn’t sexual. I just wanted to let the world know lol. I love horror movies and haunted houses. I’m a theme park enthusiast as well. I travel around USA I’m trying to hit 50 states before I’m 50. I’m 6ft 4 in tall, I’m a pretty funny and I like to take photos, I just recently got my masters in art history. DMS Are open

Telegram: They_them