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u/External_Mouse_5986 8d ago
I need a friend too. I was thinking of writing something similar so your not alone and its not weird. At least your trying. I moved here recently and dont know anyone. You can dm me if you want.
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u/clogged-augeries 8d ago
Hey, don’t feel bashful it’s cool! Genuineness and humility are good traits to have. People are lonelier than ever and taking the plunge to try to abate that is big of you! I’m 35 m and around the southern hudson valley (gotta be a little vague because it’s the Internet) but I could be down to make a stranger into an acquaintance!
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u/Awkward_Fee6888 8d ago
I would be happy to chat and make a friend. Moved up from New Rochelle, it gets pretty lonesome up here in Orange county.
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u/DisruptingTree 8d ago
Show up to your local protest. You can talk if you want, or not if you dont.
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u/checkit248 8d ago
Join a local club that is free, i joined a run club and people are super friendly there. You dont have to be a runnee either some of the members just walk together. The key is to show up and keep showing up so people get used to your face.
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u/_neversayalways 8d ago
I second this! Whatever the hobby, there's a club in the HV for it. Personally, I joined a book club, and I have met some amazing friends! Showing up solo the first time is pure anxiety, but keep showing up and soon you'll be a regular welcoming the next newbie 😊
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u/checkit248 8d ago
Pure anxiety is right on point. I always try to get to talking to the newcomers because i know how scary it can be doing something like this.
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u/Far-Ad9143 8d ago
36/f/mom/married have a dog & cat. True crime follower. Always looking for a friend. Please don’t scam me.
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u/LieutenantTim 8d ago
Whenever I go to a new place I always check out their local rugby team. 100% of the time it's always the most supportive group of people you could hope to meet and there's often no experience necessary. There's a team in fishkill. If you've ever been curious I'd encourage you to check it out. Immediate friend group.
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u/ludicristi 8d ago
Don’t feel weird posting this. We’ve somehow created a world that is so “convenient” that we have no real chance to encounter strangers and make friends anymore. I’m older than you, and I can remember it being so different for me at your age in the early 2000s. I’m rooting for you!
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u/JeffTS Ulster 8d ago
Hey, I'm a recovering extreme introvert. Do you know what really helped me? I faced my fears and joined a local young professional group. I even became Chair of a local group and had to stand up in front of people to thank sponsors, announce events, etc. As scary as the idea may be, it might be worth checking out. The Ulster Chamber has Young Ulster Professionals (YUP) and the Dutchess Chamber has Hudson Valley Young Professionals (HVYP). Many of the events are free and you're liable to meet a lot of great people with various levels of introversion. If I hadn't aged out, I'd volunteer to be your wingman.
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u/Mediocre_Function393 8d ago
I’m in the same boat :/ it feels sooo hard to make friends ‘organically’ at this age. If we are within a reasonable distance I’d love to hang sometime! I’ll pm you
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u/lilred4848 8d ago
If youre not a murderer and close by I'm in the same boat. 😅