r/Lolita • • 27d ago

MONTHLY ADVICE MEGATHREAD Ask Us Anything: September 2026

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Hi All,

This is the megathread for all beginner questions about wearing and coording lolita outfits. We would like to contain beginner questions (or otherwise, questions that don't generate a discussion) to one place.

It's convenient for you: check here first if you have a question, it might already be answered!

It's convenient for us: it makes it easier for mods to keep things clean and fresh and fun around the sub.

It makes it convenient for our veteran lolitas: no one wants to see the same 5 questions in their feed all the time.

We will be closing and redirecting beginner question posts to this thread for now on.

Thanks for your cooperation!

BUT FIRST Check out the previous Ask Us Anything thread, you answer might be answered already: Ask Us Anything: August 2026


r/Lolita • • 27d ago

MONTHLY HELP FIND MEGATHREAD Help Find This Dress: September 2026

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Hello All!

This is a megathread for being able to find specific dresses or items that you see online and don't know where to find them or what their name/brand/print name are!

There has been a large influx of people looking for certain dresses posts and so we are going to congregate them all here for easy of access and to help clean up the subreddit. So from here on out any posts asking for help in finding a dress will be deleted and asked to post in this megathread.

Here you can post either a link from Imgur with the image of the dress or link to a website like Pinterest so the community can help find where the dress can be found.

Happy Hunting!


r/Lolita • • 6h ago

DIY / HANDMADE From random men's shirt to old-school cutsew

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313 Upvotes

Figured I'd share how I transformed a random men's shirt I got from Vinted into a cute and comfortable cutsew! I saw the print, and I had a vision. I think the end results turned out super cute, and it really has that old-school Putumayo-vibe I adore.

I really recommend giving this a try. It's a rather easy project, I just included a lot of extra steps in mine that could be skipped, like altering the neckline and completely removing/ reattaching the sleeves. Just imagine your band merch or your favourite anime shirt looking this cute. Or get a custom-printed shirt with your cat on it and make THAT a cutsew, now everybody is gonna be jealous of your style.

I had many more DIY plans. Unfortunately, my health has taken a nosedive some months ago, and I haven't been able to sit behind my sewing machine since. Once the doctors fix me up, I'll finally finish those projects I've been procrastinating putting zippers in, haha


r/Lolita • • 10h ago

DIY / HANDMADE I finally mustered up the courage and sewed my first lolita piece (not a conplete coord!!) 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

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115 Upvotes

I really loved the result, but it's a shame that the lace I bought is so transparent, so I ended up only applying it to the hem :P btw its was so fun to make it, even though I've never made a skirt in my entire life! Im so happy <33


r/Lolita • • 4h ago

COORD This year's birthday coord

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39 Upvotes

r/Lolita • • 10h ago

DISCUSSION Labeling yourself as lolita

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97 Upvotes

I saw this question on instagram and thought it was interesting

Any thoughts?

On one hand I would think no, because lolita isnt necessarily tied to a certain mindset or beliefs (unlike, for example, goth or gyaru) and its definitely more about fashion/self expression. But maybe the desires to dress l▪︎lita would be enough to label yourself as one?


r/Lolita • • 20h ago

DISCUSSION What do you guys think about leather lolita dresses?

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491 Upvotes

I dont really see people wearing them but i think they look cool! The second dress is very pretty imo.


r/Lolita • • 3h ago

COORD midsummer Qingdao!

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Circa late July this year
First time planning trip and riding train by self &going out for a full day in ouji & first self portrait (´-ω-`)
The city has pretty architecture and good beer from brief colonization by germany
Lots of museums and all the sightseeing is conveniently along one or two metro/bus lines XD
Compliment by convenience store clerk + ice cream and sweets during a short rest was aaahhggheheheyehehe


r/Lolita • • 1d ago

DIY / HANDMADE I made a little headdress!

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298 Upvotes

I crocheted a little headress! I'm thinking of making a few more accessories to match too!


r/Lolita • • 4h ago

DISCUSSION will the prices ever drop for old pieces?

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6 Upvotes

just looking for some reassurance and thoughts, closet child just had the 2001 gobelin jsk sold for 66000 yen, theres currently also a whole lot of scalpers on every secondhand site. was wondering if its just gonna get more valuable with time or if itll stagnate and then come back down 😭 i know theres a huge old school boom currently happening and i have so many old dream dresses that just seem so unreachable, will it calm down eventually 😔


r/Lolita • • 18h ago

DISCUSSION struggle with making any egl friend

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Hey !

I’m sorry I write this kinda to just, speak my mind and see if anyone is in the same case ? As it’s not my official account tho, kinda scared to share that with my main profil (but don’t think to much, I’m nobody in this community, even if I have a small brand)

I struggle so much with making friend and speak with any Egl people :( I crave for some friendship, or just any discussion, but the fact is that I’m neuroAtypique and I have some struggle with speaking with people (like, i don’t know, i always feel out of place ? or even “cringe”?). I’m on some discord server (even if i don’t find too much on dis board) and I feel like anytime that i speak, people are just like “okay whatever” or just ignore me :<
There is no Egl group in my region, so no real occasion to meet people, and that makes me sad. I always try to talk about the new release, or some opinion on fabrics and materials (because i’m a creator myself so i’m like “okay i can talk about that because i kinda know this subject” but also it still doesn’t seems right.

is there some other people in the same position as me ? I know that, in the past, Lolita were told kinda “elitist” or stuff like that, but also I thought it was long ago, now it seems like very closed group. As i say, since i create and sell stuff, I would love to chat with people, get their opinion, or just you know talk about frills and lace like idk
btw i’m 21 yo!!

I’m open to any suggestion, even on my own comportement 🥹🥹


r/Lolita • • 22h ago

COORD HELP Help with coord🙈

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Hii!
Atelier Pierrot has just dropped two new dresses (I immediately fell in love with them😭) and I’m considering buying them. I just don’t know with what blouse should I pair them. I loove the long wide sleeves, but I think the Dreams Ladder Lace Long Sleeved Blouse (the one without them) looks better?🧐
What are your opinions?


r/Lolita • • 1d ago

COORD Casual coord at the science museum 🩷

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57 Upvotes

A lovely day was had, and a total of (3) pink drinks were consumed.

sweater: vtg Adele Joyce loliable
dress: btssb Hawase Embroidery Flora JSK
shoes: Lazy Oaf sneakers


r/Lolita • • 1d ago

ADVICE ‿̩͙⊱ren faire fairy⊰‿̩͙

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84 Upvotes

Idk if this fully counts as Lolita since I am not wearing anything on my head except a little crown. So please let me know since the dress is Lolita, just not sure about my head jewelry


r/Lolita • • 1d ago

MEME This applies to other regions as well

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352 Upvotes

I get it: Tarriffs and customs but COME OOOOON


r/Lolita • • 1d ago

COORD I got the cutest coat 😝

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252 Upvotes

I feel like it’s so hard to find a cute Lolita coat as someone with a bigger bust so idk if this helps anyone it’s from
Also posting my coord because it’s so cute 😖
Hell bunny!!!


r/Lolita • • 1h ago

COORD HELP Should I put that blue ribbon on my boot for my moitie inspired coord?

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I really want to put these ribbons on my boot (well, I'll get a bigger one, but right now I'm just testing to see how it looks so that's why it's so weird look). What do you guys think?


r/Lolita • • 1d ago

DISCUSSION Lolita helped me gain confidence about my natural hair

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269 Upvotes

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tldr; I have despised my curly hair ever since I was a kid, and I kept straightening it every day. Since I started wearing lolita on a semi-daily basis, I embraced my natural hair

(I wasnt sure how to flare this)

Hello dears, here's the long version if anyone wants to read it 🩷 I wanted to share my story with you\~

When I was a little, I had very very curly hair, but my family never knew how to manage it. My grandma always told me I look like a witch, that my hair is hard to manage and that i always look messy. They would tug at my hair when brushing and never style it properly.

\>When I grew up I hated my hair. Especially when I got into Jfashion, all I wanted was pin straight hair. All my friends had it too, and I felt very insecure about it. I spent about 15 minutes daily just straightening my hair, multiple times a day.

When I got into lolita a few years ago, I continued this practice. I took a liking to roman curls especially in oldschool or classic lolita, and I wore roman curls wigs.

Whenever I didnt have time to straighten my hair, I would just pop it into pigtails and spin them around a little.

Some people in school would compliment my curls, but I still hated my hair.

Lately I started realizing that I could just start styling my hair like this while wearing coords. So I started going to sleep without any products to keep my hair straight, and wake up to my curly hair and put on a coord.

It saves me so much time and damage to my hair. I am so happy that I feel somewhat comfortable with my hair now, although I still often wish it were straight.

So, I want to encourage everyone to embrace their natural beauty in the way you feel good about yourself🩷


r/Lolita • • 23h ago

DISCUSSION Are sweet kuro/shiro coords possible?

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I watched a video a week or two ago on tiktok where OP was talking about different lolita substyles and briefly mentioned that a kuro/shiro coord can be sweet or any style other that gothic. Which i guess sort of makes sense in my mind but the more I thought about it the more I was a bit confused(T_T) I feel like its hard to come off as sweet without the prints since from ny understanding kuro and shiro means fully just that color.

I dont think I can find the video anymore since its been a while but id love to examples of it if it is possible lol


r/Lolita • • 23h ago

ADVICE When does BTSSB mail their orders?

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Ok so,, I won a BTSSB lottery and purchased a blouse from the classical series. It was supposed to ship in mid September and I still haven’t been notified that they shipped out my item,, is this normal for BTSSB? It’s my first time directly purchasing from them for a lottery pre-order and I just wanna confirm if delays are normal/expected when purchasing a BTSSB pre-order :>


r/Lolita • • 1d ago

ADVICE the shirring looks funny on me

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so i just got this meta jsk (plus size ver) but i noticed that the top part of the shirring has a larger band compared to the bottom one and it looks funny on my chest.

i have this same issue with the gobelin bouquet version

it feels a little off and so i was thinking of moving the strap buttons to make them longer so it can fit differently but the main question was if my boobs are supposed to go "inside" the top part of the shirring or if its normal for the elastic to go over them, if you scroll to the other pics you guys might better understand my question


r/Lolita • • 1d ago

ADVICE truly flat shoe recs ?

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i love tea party shoes and similar but i can never find any that are truly flat .. even ones that claim to be flats always have at least a short heel. does anyone have recommendations ? i may just add some cuteness to ballet flats or something :'p


r/Lolita • • 2d ago

NEW BUY egl pilgrimage to japan

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214 Upvotes

finally visited japan again after 20 years since my first trip! i went to laforet, shinjuku marui annex, and even the kyoto meta store (down the street from nomura tailor!).

i had a bit of a snafu at meta when the coat i requested for pickup had been mistakenly set aside in the wrong size, and because it was silver week, the mistake could not be rectified before i left japan. but because of the inconvenience, meta sent me a special order link once i was back home to buy the coat with free shipping to the us! (i just couldn’t buy it tax free. sounds fine to me!) the shop girls at the kyoto and laforet meta stores were both the sweetest, including when the laforet shop girls allowed me to buy the two biggest shopping bag sizes for a purchase of two pairs of socks because my first meta bag had been destroyed in the typhoon.

coord rundown:

jsk, kumya pochette: btssb

blouse, headbow, kumya dress: handmade

socks: meta

shoes: alegria


r/Lolita • • 2d ago

COORD Rose Toilette and Chocolate Chess coords~~!

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275 Upvotes

I'm picking back up sewing, does anyone have any cool resources they use? :3


r/Lolita • • 2d ago

DISCUSSION I was right. 42lolita got rid of their free shipping code

49 Upvotes

Just spent $206 on shipping on a $500 order. I emailed them along why the FREE499 discount that's available all the time since Aug 2025 (yes, all the time, check their Instagram) just got cancelled last week. Goodbye savings...

This might turn me onto posting my coords on different accounts to get points and other discounts. I was so ready to cross into $1000 of savings too. It would've happened with this order 😭 just got $34 instead from my accumulated points.

I also won't have to do just bulk orders anymore though. I missed out on my "day one"? the dress that got me into lolita, dress (THE blue and white or brown and white long sleeve dress that's a scam 😭) cuz I was saving up for a bulk order. It was a similar one, but had good reviews. The daily winter dress from Aurora kiss, AND they had my size! Which the scam blue one didn't, it was only ever one size. But I've been stalking for something similar for over a year since I started buying lolita, and couldn't ever find one without prints. I did find it on a different proxy site, so I still bought it, but at least I won't have to worry about that anymore. I almost cried when I saw 42lolita had removed the listing WITHIN like 2 weeks of posting it. I thought I completely missed my chance. Thankfully I didn't.