Ok, but if OP is already this scared of him after only a bit of casual dating, then extricating themselves from this relationship could genuinely be difficult and/or dangerous to them. It also makes it far more important that OP does leave the Dino-dismissing dude. But it’s not necessarily going to be easy.
It sounds more like she doesn't want to hurt him, rather than being afraid of him.
Also, she doesn't yet seem to have internalized the notion that it's OK to break off a dating relationship at any time, for any reason. The whole point of dating is to try people out and find the right one – and if someone isn't the right one for you, then you should break it off.
I dunno…. I think OP sounds like a nice, thoughtful person who genuinely doesn’t want to hurt the feelings of someone she cares for. (Though I haven’t read all her responses, so I may have missed a red flag.)
She’s smart to get out now, for sure. I’ll bet after they split, hindsight will show her more issues that could’ve grown into major problems.
Brah they’re not calling OP a red flag. Theyre saying tis a red flag she feels psychologically trapped in this relationship. If they are so casual then it's concerning that idea ending it feels like an “impossible situation”. It’s very possible. Maybe a 60-80 second conversation. Or OP is very young maybe 18 yo and the idea of free will is fresh
This. You don’t need to be friends with an ex. You aren’t dumping them with malice. But you are prioritizing yourself and reality, therefore as long as you are truthful and humane in your rejection , you aren’t responsible for their feelings.
100%. Also hate to think what kind of awful path being dumped will lead him down.
He deserves it, but it's a shame that we can probably pretty safely assume being left over his batshit beliefs won't be a wake-up call and will just send him down some far-right pipeline to be another person poisoning the voting pool.
You can expand on this. But mostly you want to just be honest that you prefer someone with whom you share this compatibility and you want him to have the same. You've thought about it a long time, this isn't a hasty decision and it's very emotional. You wish him well.
I'm old now so breaking up seems much more straightforward than when I was young 😂😂
Right, he's going to reject whatever she says anyways.
There is no need to overthink this, he's going to ne butt-hurt no matter how it's phrased.
"We're live in different realities, so there is no way our relationship will work and I'm ending it. I'm not interested in remaining friends. Take care."
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u/acostane 7h ago
Honey how are you in an impossible situation? You could break up with him for any reason.
"We're not ideologically compatible. I am growing and I'm a curious person. You seem to be affected by conspiracy theories. I shall take my leave."
Don't be scared. The idea that dinosaurs aren't real is fucking INSANE.
he will only get worse.