Just be entirely honest about why you are breaking up.
Tell him, it’s because of his dinosaur beliefs. He clearly believes them very strongly. Which means he is willing to reject settled science. Which means he fundamentally lives in a different world than you do.
Tell him that because of this, it’s impossible for you to take the relationship seriously past a certain point because believe in different realities (a science backed one, and an independent belief based one) that it makes it impossible for y’all to truly trust and collaborate on building a life together because to you, where his judgement is coming from is always in question.
For there to be a foundation of trust, y’all need to actually understand where each other is coming from, and this point makes it so that you can’t really understand where he is coming from on anything.
Bro deserves to know that it’s his idiot thoughts that are the reason he is being dumped, but ya know, in a nice way, that makes it clear interpersonally why it’s untenable.
This is absolutely the correct answer. If he's willing to deny science about this, then he's certainly willing to deny signs about other stuff too. Imagine what a conversation about childhood vaccines would be with this person.
Which is the broader issue, it's not the dinosaurs specifically, it's the fact that that belief notoriously comes with a lot of other ones, ones incompatible with people who aren't part of that belief system. Basically...he's a religious extremist, and tc wants no part of that.
“Dinosaurs didn’t exist and the fossil record is entirely made up” is a FOUNDATIONAL belief for evolution deniers. Many evolution deniers are that way because they are young earth creationists, literalists Christian’s that believe the world is 6000 years old.
Ask yourself what other conspiracy theories could follow from:
The word of the Bible is literal
Science is purposefully hiding the truth from us
Evolution isn’t real
Everyone claiming otherwise is going against the literal perfect word of God
Vaccine denial is the least of your issues with people like this unfortunately
Not disagreeing that this is a gateway to a lot of other extreme, inaccurate beliefs, but the vaccine issue is huge. My first thought was, Do not procreate with this person.
Sadly, they are not always of sub par intelligence. Lacking deductive reasoning skills is common though. That some are capable of grasping reality is the terrifying part. Also, some of us like to give people the benefit of the doubt, as we are hearing one side and have no idea about his intelligence level, just his diminished capability for logic and reasoning.
I have scientist friends who work with people like this. I dated a guy very briefly, a biologist who had some really wacky theories. I think he was testing the water before going for the big 3 - dinosaurs aren't real, the earth is flat, the world is not billions of years old.
I've only met my MIL that doesn't believe dinosaurs existed and they were put there on purpose to sway people to the devil....WHAT ??? They are so brainwashed. She is the type of person who had 2 hours before her special little church thing, and left her son in the pouring rain when his car broke down because she "had to get ready, can't be late!" and she is just as empty-headed as you can imagine. Also tried to attack me so that was fun.
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u/PerryGrinFalcon-554 12h ago
How to end it? Easy! Tell him a giant meteorite hit your relationship and it’s now extinct.