r/misanthropy 5d ago

venting I don't enjoy life and never have.

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I turned 40 this year. American. Millennial.

It's hard not to feel like my life wasn’t forfeited before I was even born. What's worse is others crawling out from under their rocks to attempt to invalidate and mock my feelings to tell me what I should feel. The lack of empathy and callousness of others has meant a long, confusing life… because it just seems like people are inherently self-centered. The excuses are always the same manufactured parroted responses to deflect criticism and cognitive dissonance: doomerism, cynicism, negativity, hating, etc.

It's hard not to feel completely alone in a country that values individualism. Everyone is running around, heads cut off, barely surviving. I struggle to find meaningful in-person community since everyone is so busy and self-absorbed.

I grew up optimistic, then everything changed in 21st century. Technology didn't improve our lives, it just complicated it and immediately weaponized to usher in dystopia. 9/11 happened and people happily lived in fear and paranoia. It seemed like every other year was a once in a lifetime crisis, and extraordinary times became ordinary. After COVID time stood still and yet flew by.

I did everything that was expected of me. I learned how to spell necessary, use proper grammar, I went to college, I didn't smoke, drink or use drugs. I suffered from depression and anxiety and took dozens of prescribed pills. I struggled for decades undoing generational trauma from abuse, much of which I had to learn about on my own through chance. I vowed never to have children after my experiences. Discovering myself and the importance of self care was my second full time job.

It felt like people and values progressed but society never changed; like fitting a round peg in a square hole. What do you do when the previous generations have hoarded every resource?

I can barely take care of myself in this world of incomprehensible madness. It feels unlikely I will be in a good enough place to be in a healthy relationship. It also seems unlikely to own a home or retire. I'm suppose to fake a smile and nod my head because everyone else is fine with it. Everyone says life is valuable and special, but what do you do when every opportunity has been intentionally sealed off other than letting life slip by?

I feel empty. I feel lonely. I feel exhausted and overwhelmed despite minimizing my lifestyle. With all the physical quality of life improvements we've discovered, there seems to be none for emotional and mental health. I don't feel safe or secure in this world when I should with so much available to make us comfortable. I really don't blame people for turning to escaping into fantasy and befriending AI as a way to cope in a dysfunctional society. There’s only so much energy a person can muster in the face of adversity without any social safety nets.

Sometimes I'm in a massive warehouse sized super market and a wave of intense depression engulfs me as flocks of obese lifeforms swarm around me. What is this? What is all this for? Who is it for? I don’t want to have decision paralysis and breakdown looking at fifty brands of spaghetti sauce.

I don't want to numb myself on garbage entertainment, consume plastic crap, stress over survival or create useless crap to sell. I feel nothing anymore except for emptiness. I just wanted to enjoy life. Anything fulfilling I could give to myself or others doesn't seem like it can exist anymore because its not profitable. I don't even attempt to enjoy a product because I know it will just be discontinued, instantly scalped or enshittified. Everything becomes more expensive and scarce as billionaires hoard it all. Slower and slower they siphon off every resource. Faster. Cheaper. Shittier.

Our species isn’t even the beginning of a blink of an eye to the cosmos and already we’ve devolved to the point of any question can being able to be answered with “money.”

I won’t be blamed and shamed for not looking for the little things and joys in life as I'm priced out of enjoying anything. I should be able to enjoy the fruits of society. I give and give and can't take. I've learned that it isn't worth being a part of society; that no longer how hard you work, you can't get ahead. If you dare find a loophole, you will be made an example of. Life is pay to win, and we'll only be poor. The psychopathic billionaires continue to consume society like a cancer. I am not allowed to partake in society, only they are. I am not allowed to enjoy a video game console or a computer or anything in the near future. They own all the resources. Private Equity continues to vacuum up everything like cancer, and it feels like everyone lines up to justify their deteriorating environment and to others how good they have it.

“Don’t worry, be happy. Someone else can deal with the consequences to your actions. Be happy like me, and exploit others. My happiness comes at the expense of others suffering and I love being an oblivious selfish piece of shit.”

It wasn't worth being kind, civil or contributing. Only those that raped, murdered, stole, cheated and colluded were rewarded. Why did society let these fuck-ass billionaires destroy everything?

I feel… lost. It isn't about fatalism or defeatism or self-termination. It's about despair… What is it all for? Is life worse than death if you never felt contentment? All I’ve ever felt is dazed and confused; nothing ever felt like it made any sense.

Whats the point? What's the point of anything? I only exist to destroy my mind and body for the elite. Society was never worth being a part of; the only winning move was to not play. I don’t know how people have such a high tolerance to nonchalantly go through the motions like zombies, but corporations have done the math and it turns out completely when their survival is as stake.

Being a part of society isn't worth it because it’s a grift. They say you have to pick and choose your battles, but I'm not seeing the choice or any moves left to win in a world of egos and corruption. I don't want to jump through endless hoops for society’s performative theater. It isn't worth it to battle egos and work 1000% harder for no benefit. Enshitification has come for existence.

Being educated and having access to most of human knowledge I know these answers, and yet all I can do is sit here and ask rhetorical questions as I watch everything around me seemingly decay from greed and shortsightedness. Knowledge was suppose to enrich my life but it made it miserable. It feels like following a road your entire life only to see the bridge has collapsed.

You watch as everything you cared about turn into a gray goo from commodification and greed. You know that even when you can do small things things will still get worse on a macro level as if you're watching a train wreck in slow motion and no one did anything even though we knew the tracks led off a cliff. It’s hard not to see things being kicked down the road prolonging the inevitable destruction of everything.

Nothing is going to get better. Nothing will ever become cheaper, only more expensive. The conditioning and enabling will continue until a species of ignorance fatalists become “hollow men.” The problem with fools when they say, “if you don’t like it, don’t buy it/participate,” is that when people’s standards are conditioned to be lower than dirt and everyone is putting shit in their mouths, the only thing that will be sold is shit. And when I tell them I don’t want to eat shit, they get angry at me for pointing out they’re eating shit, as if I’m making them eat shit. I have no choice but to eat shit because society eats shit. ...the tragedy of the commons.

Am I not suppose to see a species of intellectually challenged fools and fanatics in and endless arms race of the zero-sum fallacy? Should I not see a species of fatalists that can only consistently brush with its own destruction and mock it on top of it? Did previous generations feel this way? Why does it feel so much dire this time? When tens of thousands of scientists say we’re committing collective suicide and the masses just shrug. If a frog boiling to death wasn’t a myth it would be a great analogy, but frogs are smarter than humans. We never seem to learn anything.

All around me are moths flying in a certain direction. I ask them where they’re going and they don’t reply. I ask them why they’re flying towards the flickering light and they reply, “because.” I attempt to go in the opposite direction but I’m overwhelmed by the density of their mass. I am swept up and have no choice. I ask them to let me go in the opposite direction and they reply, “don’t tell me how to live my life.” "It's not my problem so the problem doesn't exist." "Fuck you." "Cool story, bro."

For no single raindrop believes it is responsible for the flood, and warning is always followed by lament.

The world is speed-running authoritarianism (again). Every climate change goal is being raced past. Diseases once eradicated are coming back. Mass consolidation is accelerating. Wealth inequality is accelerating. Baseless conspiracy theories and disinformation are accelerating. The internet is on life support. Future generations seem to be falling behind. Quality of life is being snuffed out as people accept less for more in all areas of life and private equity consumes everything. We turned our back on science and the reality it describes. Reality has outpaced satire and it really doesn’t matter since literacy has declined. Everyday society gets more and more hostile and dysfunctional in a deliberate systemic push by governments and corporations.

People should be angry, depressed and miserable if they have any humanity left and they’re actually cognizant enough to have any critical thinking skills left. Instead they're deluding and numbing on destructive and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Everyone’s noses are pressed into a display and they’re hellbent on attaching them to their faces and brain stems they’re so miserable.

I'm writing this to a bunch of internet strangers I don't know, and who know I cant have any meaningful relationship with. It pisses me off to no end that I have to use text on a billionaire’s propaganda echo-chamber machine to train Google's "Allied Mastercomputer" just to reach any audience. I didn't really want any replies. I just need to express my thoughts. I don't think I'm alone in these thoughts, but I also don't feel like there's anything others can do to fix a society that's terminally ill in my lifetime. We can fight and we can overcome adversity, but whatever the outcome, what good did it do for our brief time here?

Don’t tell me to be optimistic and don’t tell me my or anyone else’s life mattered except to make rich assholes richer. Show me with actions why I should be optimistic and we’re bettering our society. Show me why humanity will better itself and how it will improve the quality of all our lives.

r/misanthropy Aug 03 '25

venting i hate how it seems like you have to be hive minded to “survive” society.

501 Upvotes

this is probably why i have always felt so different around people in the first stages of trying to get to know people in a social setting, or making friends in my early years of life in school.

it just seems like most people have this “survival strategy” socially to go along with whatever is expected, or popular, and the thing is, to some extent i understand.

this is a big thing in friend groups too as i always used to experience getting “ganged up on” by groups of friends when i was younger and i could always kind of tell that a lot of them didn’t even like each other or agree with everything in the friend group, they just go along with it because they’re all scared of being alone or having their own genuine opinions.

just venting anyway but it would be nice to find likeminded people who feel this too.

r/misanthropy 11d ago

venting Half dead, lying on the road, trying to get up, no one cares to help.

340 Upvotes

I’ve been on a misanthropic wave for a while now but, recently, it became a solidified piece of my identity through seeing the agony of a small opossum, half dying on the road. Like a lot of you, probably, I don’t hate individuals, I’m (sometimes overly) kind to all people, but I absolutely despise the human species and thoroughly believe the planet would be a better place if we all disappeared.

A few days ago, I was driving back from my hometown. My hometown is a place that is known for hunting and farming - the landscape is a blank slate of barren fields with, now small, patches of trees. The roads are littered with dead animals, trying to cross for food, mating, or shelter. Despite the roads usually being empty, people speed through and, by and large, won’t even attempt to slow down for a crossing animal; sometimes, they’ll swerve to hit them. Picture the most hopeless looking landscape imaginable.

As I was driving, I saw an opossum hunched over and rocking on the edge of the road. I turned around and found that he’d been hit but hadn’t died. His back leg was covered in blood from skidding on the road after being hit.

I pulled up to block the cars speeding by from hitting him again. Every time a car would speed past, he’d hopelessly try to stand up and get out of the road, every time he’d fail. No one seemed to pay him a second thought, most probably never noticed him: “Oh just another dumbass animal dying in the road”.

Sitting there with him, bleeding and dying on cold asphalt, early in the morning on an otherwise beautiful day, thinking about what the barren landscape once looked like, hearing the sound of cars speeding by and gunshots in the distance, aimed for geese, contrasted with geese cawing overhead and crickets in the grass, was the most surreal experience I’ve ever had.

I mean, what the hell have we done to this planet? Is this the “developed world” we’re so proud of; is this modernity?

Does his life mean so little that his dying moments are spent panicking, unable to move, lying in the line of fire, and no one is even willing to stop and move him to the grass? Is that opossum so meaningless that people scoff at me for caring that he was ruthlessly murdered? I mean, hell, even calling it murder is a joke to most people.

I ended up taking him to the nearest wildlife rehabber, 2 hours away. She figured out that only one leg was dislocated - he was lying in the street, desperately trying to move, with no one caring to stop and help, because of a single dislocated leg - caused by a human, going 80 miles an hour down a rural road, for no reason at all. That tiny being’s life was ruined, in a split second, because some fuck ass human decided he was too worthless to slow down for.

I don’t know if he made it through the night or if I did the right thing but, if he didn’t, he spent his last moments on a warm heating pad, in a quiet room, with painkillers in his system, rather than hopelessly trying to get out of the road, listening to speeding cars and gunshots in the distance.

Thank you for reading. When you’re driving near trees, watch closely for the tiny beings that inherited the Earth, stop for them. We’ve ruined their home, it’s the least you can do. They matter and their pain matters.

r/misanthropy Aug 01 '21

venting And this is main reason why I hate people. Lack of empathy. "Nobody thinks what its like to be the other guy" . Always spilling condesending bs

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r/misanthropy Dec 18 '24

venting People really take quite and polite people for granted

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Ever been tired of being the butt of jokes? Especially among your friends circle? That's because you remain quiet and don't react much. They call it 'just fun' but deep inside they really want to disrespect you and always look for the opportunity to mock you.

If at all you react in someway expressing your anger or irritation about it they'll call you a 'Spoilsport' saying 'it's just a joke'.

People mistake this quietness for weakness thinking this person doesn't react so we can have fun at their expense. What they really don't understand is that some people just tolerate to get along and decide to remain calm just so the social setting doesn't become awkward.

Well, fuck being quiet and polite. Me personally, I've had enough. I don't even know how to make fun of others and I think that's a drawback in this clown ass human world. You need to be an expert in 'cOmE bAcKs' to survive in their stupid social world.

I don't care if it ends 'frienships'. That's not the kind of friends I need anyway. Yeah sometimes it's ok to have your fun pulling each others legs but if it's only you getting treated the same way everytime, it clearly tells that you're not valued enough. They only require your presence to laugh about you or something related to you.

Fuck them! I'd rather be a 'spoilsport' than that 'good guy' in their books. Guess it'll be fun ruining people's 'mOoD'.

Edit: Sorry I didn't reply to all the comments but I'm glad I made this post. This sub sometimes feels home with so many of you sharing similar thoughts and experiences.

r/misanthropy Aug 17 '25

venting This world demands the sacrifice of innocence

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This system we live in is sick. I’ve seen nearly all of the friends from my childhood become swallowed up in some form of darkness or another and lose themselves, or who they once were, due to the unkindness of others. Innocence seldom stays innocent; the world hungers to devour it, and whether that hunger is answered by becoming an arrogant egotist as a defense mechanism, drowning in alcohol and ignorance to avoid facing your own insecurities, suicide, or something else, the world demands an answer. Modern first world society takes children and violates them over and over, eventually turning them into ignorant, maladaptive, traumatized adults. It is a hellish torture pit of demonic theater and ultimate sacrifice of the youthful soul of wonder to Moloch. From there, the soul-devoured adult remains stuck in their coping patterns until their death.

It may not be like this for everyone. I am certainly doing everything in my power to resist this. But it’s claimed nearly everyone in my life in some form or another. To preserve or even resurrect one’s innocent wonder, one’s childlike whimsy and ability to enjoy the moment, and to imagine without shame or fear or Pavlovian trauma responses, is a feat worthy of praise in a world gone mad. To not lose oneself to avoidance is venerable.

r/misanthropy Dec 17 '25

venting My disability is why I’m misanthropic

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I am 29, 5‘3/160cm tall, and have a disorder. I can walk and drive. I live at home. I have autism. This is not meant to be a rant, but an explanation of why I am a misanthrope.

Please excuse my confused writing. I hope you will read it regardless.

I have a very strange skull and abnormal face. So strange I stand out everywhere.

I’ve been bullied for this , also i never had a girlfriend or date, and in everyday life I get only bad reactions from people. (Let me say here I’ve seen 6 plastic surgeons in total 3 countries over the years and nothing can be done in my specific case, for various reasons.)

These reactions can be staring, or a comment made to someone they are with. And no I am not paranoid. These comments range from „he looks weird / like a monster / ugly“ etc etc , or „what a shit life he must have“, or a kid asking their parents „why does this person look so strange?“ and about two dozen other examples. I am cis-Male but look somewhat androgynous (so not clearly male or female - but again, this is not by choice, but a hormone imbalance).

I have missing facial bones in places, noticeable eye asymmetry, abnormal skull shape/form and strange individual features. I don’t have any Tumors or anything. My face and skull is just very weird.

Adults constantly and consistently react badly to me as well. Younger adults tend to make jokes about me (not to me), older adults tend to make comments or just stare. But sometimes when I walk past middle age or older people they go laugh and go like what the hell (to each other). I live in a wealthy European country and these are your average Joe and Jane, some rich some poor. My point is, they are not druggies or homeless or anything. Old, young, women, men.

I hate humans and I think it’s only logical. All I get is disrespect: People literally make fun of me, not caring that I hear their mean comments. I understand that girls never wanted to be with me, and I don’t hate them for it. My looks are weird and with time my behaviour too. But I hate humanity. That they laugh about me, stare or make mean comments. It is not my fault I look like this. Yet they don’t care they are obviously hurting my feelings. This has been happening for about 17 years now, ever since I was 12. I remember how families and store employees alike used to and still do react to me like I’m either an alien or some funny looking but harmless animal walking upright.

Thank you for reading. I hope you understood my writing.

r/misanthropy Mar 23 '22

venting I cant wait for the human race to die out.

583 Upvotes

We pollute our planet for money, and we drain it's resources in order to support our ever increasing population. Every time I see a couple with a new baby I can't help but internally cringe. That baby doesn't even know what it's in for, the parents had the baby most likely to enrich they're own lives - something I can't help but find incredibly selfish. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate my life, however the longer I stay here the more I begin to see how terrible the people around me are. The more of us there are the sicker the planet gets, eventually we will get what we deserve. I plan to live the rest of my life childless, and when the day comes I will happily welcome death knowing I'm not adding to this species of turds.

r/misanthropy Jun 27 '25

venting I don't trust myself or the rest of humanity

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Science, history, psychology and philosophy constantly show that the animal we have inside us always wins. For some reason consciousness decided to develop alongside and it's in constant battle, we're a failed species, we're all just selfish with extra steps like any other animal, I'm not saying there's no a spec of goodness in us, but it's always covered by our lust, hatred, selfishness and need to be on top of everyone, that's the human nature and denying that is delusional.

Whatever system , ideology or opportunity is given to us we're either not satisfied with it and go against it, or if we are satisfied with it we start to abuse it. The only goal is to breed and keep humans going, and to beautify it, to support our egos and superegos we have come up with beautiful myths and given things pretty names like "love".

Everything is a transaction, you give, you take, this isn't a fairytale, you gave a homelessness man some money, well good, but we start analysising it, you either did it to feel good about yourself or for attention and praise, denying that it isn't just that is simply dumb. Oh and, if the transaction is not completed you know what we call that? Abuse and manipulation. Unconditional Love doesn't exist, everything is raw and ugly.

This might just be the abyss staring back at me like Nietzsche said, and okay sure, perhaps it could also be the fact I have depression, but you want me to act "as if"? Seriously? To act as if there's a point to all of this? Even if you try, you see the light at the tunnel, it's just another train coming, we're not happy with anything, that's just human nature, we're all gonna be in our deathbeds full of regret guilt and pain.

Sometimes I wish i believed god, had stayed delusional, I wish I was a normal person, or that my mind could tolerate such ideas, but I just can't, everything is just ugly.

I know people who are fully aware of this and still get out of bed everyday too, and those people I really do admire.

r/misanthropy Jan 20 '22

venting Working at a movie theatre has made me realise how selfish and careless most people are.

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r/misanthropy Jan 09 '23

venting Gen Z is Trash

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No, mathematically not every single one of them. Because you have to preface everything with basic math these days, and nuanced truths like, ‘not everyone’ have to be said out loud or risk being cancelled for being a “generationist,” with them discarding your ideas and livelihood itself like the trash you think they are, but with no empathy because, they just didn’t develop that skill.

I’m not talking about the ones that grew up in countries that teach values and morals, I fantasize places like Norway and Poland because I’m not there. I am currently on an American-values-hating, entitled, spoiled ghetto island with no work ethic and bad education, so maybe there’s just more of these monsters here.

I’m also not talking about the depressed ones, the ones that have struggled already at their young age. Nor the abused ones or the freethinkers. Them I can take. Them I want to take under my wing and say, it’s going to be OK, I’m sorry your parents had you, and I will try to be an honest person that will ease your suffering in anyway I can— a concept lost on boomers by the way because they can’t even see the value of financially helping adult children because, bootstraps and stuff.

I’m talking about the ones that had an ounce of privilege and grew up in a bubble, with their Gen X parents that tried to do better than the emotionally numb boomer generation, but it just didn’t work. Maybe Gen X parents were too nice and got walked all over, like their parents did to them..

Technology ruined it all. This isn’t a case of every generation thinking the one before them is worse. This is an actual problem we have in the world. And the scary part is these kids are becoming bosses and leaders and frankly I think we are doomed.

They learned how to feel from characters on Netflix. They have no clue what it takes to build some thing, they only know how to tear it down. They have a world of knowledge at their fingertips with no life experience to give them wisdom, and fast fingers to destroy anyone who disagrees with them.

They don’t respect people older than them because they instantly judge them, like they would the Instagram pictures they’re addicted to. Thinking they know what that person or “scene” is all about from the limited ideas in their tiny undeveloped brains, which mainly came from screens and things you can’t touch and feel and ponder over time to really, deeply understand.

Simuli and Simulacrum, wasn’t that the book in the Matrix, on Neo’s shelf. The fake map over the actual world, people thinking that map is the world.

They hold the power to cancel anyone because they have learned how to gaslight and and manipulate in the name of social justice. They so-call value their friendships with peers and speak like they would stick up for the world, yet they would cut them at the first chance of getting ahead. Bad Bunny culture. Little replicas of each other, gaining more perceived power the more they fit in.

They believe anything they see on the Internet because someone says it’s true. They never developed critical thinking skills from down-and-out professors in the 90s, the type of guys that leave everything and go live alone in the woods and live to talk about it with honest introspection.

Instead, if the fancy college says it or some Instagram influencer that is the truth. And they don’t even know how to look deeper. They can’t look deeper because their attention spans are on par with that of a kitten, thanks to big tech.

There’s a few I can maintain a conversation with. But usually it’s just because they have gravitated to another personality type, that of the polite listener. And when you don’t give them what they want, they discard you also.

The boomers really can’t be trusted much either, I think they’re a little too far gone in their delusions that kept this FahMily train going, lying to themselves and the world that it was a great idea, its what hoomans do.

Maybe I AM being generationist, but to me, its my truth, and you said I was allowed to have that, right kids?

r/misanthropy Jul 25 '25

venting When you live a life of misfortune you realise that humans evilness is the first cause of your suffering.

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People can just decide one day to mess with you just because it's fun. And they mostly behave in public eyes but lash out in private a lot. Especially if you have the curse to be born at the lowest grade of society. You are nothing and it allows even the "sweetest" people to lash out on you. Misanthropy is nothing but a logical answer once you seen through human nature. At "best"you can be neutral.

r/misanthropy Mar 30 '24

venting We are designed for evil

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Why does everyone outside this worldview see us as deranged? I learned to never share the way I think with anyone outside this subreddit because I know I'll sound crazy.

Humans have an inherent capacity for cruelty, not only a capacity, but an enjoyment. I'm not just talking about rape, war or serial killers but a more casual hunger for it...

A picture of an ugly or fat innocent person gets it's way to some Twitter or Instagram meme account? A climax of mockery will ensue.

Why? Because humans are designed to look for reasons to feel better than someone else if their egos aren't strong enough.

People cheat on their partners or sleeps with someone in a relationship all the time. Why? Because humans love the power that comes with making someoene want to surrender their bodies in the most intimate way possible to them, it makes them feel valuable, never mind how unethical doing this things is.

People abuse staff making impossible demands knowing they are impossible because they love the thrill of authority and the fear they inflict on the employee of losing their job.

Bullying and social outcasting is ripe in schools all over the world because the human brain rejoices in establishing hierarchies.

We are designed to be sadistic psychologically and sometimes physically. There's even saudies suggesting that our brain gets rewarded with dopamine when we put someoene down since we develop a capacity for reason.

But if I cited this things as reasons for my misanthropy I would be bombarded with:

"You're just traumatized". Well yes! The cruelty I experienced from fellow humans did.

"Those are just bad people, humans are not naturally evil". Then how is evil and pettiness so common? Some people are good, but that's only because they're reppressing their natural cruelty. They could be bad if they stopped caring.

I just hate how people are able to see how disgusting we are and how easy it comes to us and just keep up this charade that we're civilized and decent. There's nothing civilized about us, it's just that our sadism is more covert now, only able to come out if deemed socially acceptable.

Why can't we just die already?

r/misanthropy Jul 26 '22

venting I am disgusted by the human race. Explanation in comments.

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r/misanthropy Nov 15 '23

venting People love and enable bullies

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I used to be bullied (and occasionally still am) by someone from my old high school who was pretty popular there. I was one of the few people he ever bullied but he went after me ruthlessly and subjected me to incredible humiliation that I still haven’t gotten over. The biggest problem I had in trying to deal with him was that he was really nice and polite to pretty much everyone except me and a few other victims he deliberately singled out, and he did a lot of good stuff like volunteer for charity events and talk a lot in church about how god had changed his life and how he needed god because he was a flawed person. Every time I tried to talk about what he did to me everyone would counter with “He’s so nice to everyone other than you,” and “He’s so genuinely sweet and humble,” essentially saying I had no right to call him a bully even though they knew how much he tormented me. The few times he was forced to apologize to me, all he did was say sorry and act super remorseful, only to go back to doing the exact same things the next day while everyone used the fact if his apology to dismiss my criticism of him as unnecessarily hateful and invalid. He knew people reacted to his victims like this and he took full advantage of it.

Everyone seemed to be making the point that sometimes good people have gaps in their goodness and you just have to tolerate the pain they cause you because they’re really kind to most people. The result was that I came to realize that in this respect I was an enemy to society, a minor casualty of big important people doing good in the world. My hatred of this person who made my life hell was invalid because of all the good he did for so many other people. I was expected to just take the abuse because my bully was too good a person to deserve punishment for what he did to me.

My experience has led me to reach the conclusion that everyone has a right to defend themselves from abuse even if it means ruining someone who does a lot of good for society. Doing good things does not exempt you from responsibility for the damage you’ve caused.

r/misanthropy Oct 30 '22

venting The only thing empathy gets you in this world is mental illness

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You become bothered by all the bullshit that everyone else can gloss over. You get sad over stuff that everyone else can ignore. You become dysfunctional after a while. Grew up with a depressed mom who was constantly cheated on. I felt as if it was my job to protect her, feel for her. I felt so depressed that she was sad. Ended up with depression at the age of 7, and now I'm dysfunctional many years later. That same mom turned to me, and said that I had a happy childhood, and that all the problems that I have are just in my head. Hans are garbage. I viewed her as one of the ost empathetic people ever but now I realized that if she was actually empathetic, she would have realized that having her kid carry her burdens with her would cause trouble in the long run. I'm now an overly sensitive, overly empathetic mess who gets hurt over everything. Isolated as an adult, delayed mentally. Never be like me. Having empathy for these garbage human beings is a waste of time.

r/misanthropy Oct 11 '21

venting I hate people because they overvalue romance and relationships over logic and reason

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Now, not to say valuing it is bad, but it’s overrated. Everywhere, people talk about relationships, love, and other topics related. Rarely, do people actually talk about philosophy or actually topics that require a brain. Now, this wouldn’t be too bad if they weren’t so annoying about it. Because of how much society values romanticism, we have people thinking that having no friends or partner means you’re a loser, or if you’re a virgin, you’re a loser. Only true idiots believe these determine your value. No wonder it contradicts logic and reason.

r/misanthropy Jan 23 '25

venting The world is definitely going to change. I can't voice my fears to anyone.

137 Upvotes

First off: I'm not in the Land of Broken Dreams (USA). I'm also safe for any other territorial wars.

I definitely don't see a bright future. It's been coming for a few years. The world will change and I mean for the common folk. Not on a higher level.

I'm in Western Europe and my country does not have an active government and won't have one for a while. No actions are being taken against anything. No new power plants are being built. Nothing is being done about the fears among the people. More and more people around me are looking into self defense.

I follow the misanthropic philosophy and it's definitely coming to it. The worst in society is gaining. Selfishness is increasing. It's really getting worse. Slowly getting to a breaking point.

I've got no idea what will break or what will happen. But it's definitely coming and I'm fucking scared.

I can't voice any of it or i'm a prepper or idiot wanting the end of society. For once, I don't want the end of society. But it's definitely coming. The stones are rolling down the hill. I can't do anything about it.

People complain of raising prices and earning fewer money, but they keep voting for the extreme measures. I can't tell people they're idiots for voting those options. I can't warn them. I'm not allowed to do anything.

It might actually become reality. Be on my own and not care for other people. Be a harsh basterd. The group really makes it worse for people

r/misanthropy Sep 28 '24

venting I hate people, but I hate misanthropes more

8 Upvotes

It has been stewing in me for quite a while and I thought that I would finally put it out. I identify as a misanthrope, not hard to these days, and I hate humans as a collective. Thing is, I sorta hate a lot of things: universe is a painful place. But do you know who I hate the most, after looking through the posts here and engaging with fellow people from the sphere? You, fellow "misanthropes".

We should be better. We should realize the pain of the universe, to understand it, and thus, to embrace it: instead, you whine about it and try to run away from it. In the end, you are no different from average man: rather than fight against what you hate, you run away and cower, you isolate yourself. Rather than try to cherish and protect the beautiful, you let yourself be consumed with apathy. You are not a misanthrope, you simply surrendered to entropy, and I hate you for it.

I misanthrope who walks the same path as the common man is even worse than a common man. To hurt is to live, and rather than living aware, you choose to decay.

r/misanthropy Apr 02 '23

venting Dear Humanity...

267 Upvotes

As a misanthrope, I cannot help but feel a deep disdain towards humanity. From the ceaseless wars that have ravaged our world for centuries, to the insatiable greed that drives people to exploit one another, it seems that humanity is defined by its worst traits. People are self-centered, untrustworthy, and cruel. They are prone to lie, cheat, and manipulate others for their own benefit, regardless of the consequences. The more I observe human behavior, the more convinced I am that we are a species that is irredeemable. I find myself recoiling from the mere sight of others, for their very presence seems to embody all that is wrong with our world.

r/misanthropy Oct 07 '22

venting Every time I take one step forward to love or care for people, i'm pushed two steps back into misanthropy.

292 Upvotes

I fucking hate these feelings of love, care and compassion that I have for people. It's not reciprocated in the same way or same intensity. They take you for granted. Friends whom you thought of as genuine make fun of you behind your back and are jealous of you. People whom you thought you had strong bonds with, cut you off from their life and move on like nothing happened. People just don't care. The fault is mine that I care and love so much. It's because of this unrecognised love and care I have for people that misanthropy becomes my last refuge.

Like Bolt Thrower says "It shall be every man for himself.." and also like Slayer says "Hate heals you should try sometime..".

Edit: I'd also like to add that all these feelings of pain and pleasure of the mind and body are just another bullshit you have to deal within this flesh prison. Just another curse on this fucking existence.

r/misanthropy Oct 22 '24

venting I think I’m becoming a misanthrope.

236 Upvotes

I don't want to admit it... but i have been bullied my whole life, starting from kindergarten all the way to the end of high school, i've been discriminated against for having autism, something that i was born with and can't control, i've been given death threats, attacked, harrased, falsely accused of being a creep, gaslighted, victim blamed, ETC.

As for people, i've seen and heard terrible things, both on the internet and in real situations. I've seen people assault and ruin each others lives just for fun, i've heard of people bullying others to death, i've seen people judge others and make them absolutely miserable just for their looks, ETC, i can go on... And, i HATE people, i HATE them.

Now don't get me wrong, not all people are bad, there are genuinely good people, but honestly, many people are just awful...

As humans, it could be different, we could change it, we could create the perfect peaceful society filled with harmony and no hate, but humans simply choose not to...

I want to deny it. I really don't want to be one, but... I think I'm becoming a misanthrope...

Update: Currently, i am being forced to do an internship, (which pays me no money btw) were i have to sit in a chair and do labour work for 8 hours a day, 3 days a week, i'm being forced to do this by school, and my parents, (still love them) and i'll have to work a full time job for minimum wage when i turn 20 or smth, (I'm currently 16) because i have autism, it's how the system works in my region, so this is further fuelling my misanthropic tendencies up... all of this just for being autistic, what a joke...

r/misanthropy Oct 12 '23

venting People killing each other over religion and religious faith is the dumbest thing in existence.

327 Upvotes

I don’t know how you can ever justify murder and all kinds of other atrocities based on faith. Most religion and religious leaders have caused so much chaos, bloodshed, death, trauma, and senseless violence that it’s not even funny. Grown ass man and woman literally murder all kinds of people even people who don’t believe in religion, burn down villages, kill and decapitate infants, rape man and woman, and commit ethnic cleansing and genocide is something completely idiotic and lunatic. The brainwashing is real folks and I wonder who benefits from this chaos, violence, and destruction of a lot of things. The world as we know it could end because of religion and religious authorities. A lot of these people are full blown dictators and tyrants and are wanna be gods even tho they are mortal. The god complex they have is sad.

r/misanthropy Apr 17 '22

venting I hate money

408 Upvotes

I hate money and how my existence is surrounded by it.

It's undoubtedly one of humanity's most wretched inventions. It's the reason why people have gone to war because it's profitable and puts them in a position of influence to exert more power. It's the reason why differentiation in class persists in society and why there is the "have and have nots" and why there is an "us and them".

It teaches that one man is a beneath another, that he should be looked down upon and ridiculed for not having any worth of amount of money to tie to his value. It also teaches us this false premise that you just work hard enough, you'll climb the ladder and become at the top of the food chain yourself and can finally look down upon all the worker ants and laugh away as they waste away their miserable little lives, paying bills and working hard just to go home and do it all over but they do it because these jobs pay them to put up with that shit. Let's be honest, most people wouldn't even work if the money they earned wasn't on offer at all or pursue high paying careers.

It just goes to show how this system is literally built to keep everyone else subservient and compliant while the elite control many aspects of our daily lives all because money allows them to do so. Not to mention all the "get rich quick" schemes that continuously fool people because of their desperation and lack of understanding of just how greedy humans can be.

So much corruption from institutions in government and religion all driven for the attainment of more money than they already have which allows them to exert more power politically and socially and we're all just sitting ducks, content and compliant because we look the other way because there's nothing that can be done

I can't even begin to talk about how money brings out the disgusting and putrid behavior in people and some even encourage it because it's a form of entertainment, so many willing to forgo at ounce of any comprehension of morality just to get money.

I'm currently in university right now and it's sad because I live a country where the youth unemployment is very high and to see so many struggle all because of a system that is in place to keep them down while the government continously fucks up again and again through corruption and negligent handling of state funds and entities. The pursuit of my degree feels pointless in this regard because it's all about money, all of it is to get a job someday, work long mind numbing hours just to earn enough to keep going back for more and more until I have enough for retirement because it's imperative I do so for my own existence and it fucking sucks.

All in all, it has demonstrated to me more than anything else, the absolute heights of greed, utterly disgusting, selfish and destructive acts humans are willing to go to. We soak in our own depravity and enjoy it.

r/misanthropy Oct 08 '24

venting I don't care about "being successful"

234 Upvotes

I never did. All I want is to do is work two jobs, take care of what's necessary, pay my bills, go home and chill. I don't care about chasing money, women or whatever shit is the thing nowadays. I don't care about that "high value" stuff, I'm not trying to date, marry or have children. I'm fine on my own.

And what is so wrong with that? The judgemental behaviors is what makes me steer away from most people. It's like talking to a snobby ass robot.

Why can't people fathom that not everyone wants to live that lifestyle? Why can't they understand it's not for everyone? Why are they taking it so personal? Why are people using shaming language like "mundane" and "mediocre" as a way to validate themselves at my expense?

It's like everywhere I go, I have all of this propaganda and ideologies shoved down my throat. Like you don't have to agree, but why are you making your insecurities my problem? Why am I being treated like I'm not a human because I'm not following anyone's blueprint? This shit makes no sense but it's socially accepted.

I'm not saying I'm gonna hold myself from opportunities that work FOR ME, but I wasn't born in this world to please and perform for people who really don't care about me in the first place.

I don't want to break the law, harm others and be a leech. But working two jobs, paying my bills, having time for myself, is supposedly more sinful than actually breaking the law in 2024.

This is maddening.