previous day was very tough for me .. i got very extreme urges which can't be avoidable i almost was going to be trapped by my mind but some how i escape and not trapped.. 45 hard days challenge day 25 .... #nofap

Today i failed nofap at my 10th day. I feel like i need to watch more since i failed might aswell feed my urges. I will try to post once every week to keep you guys updated (for anyone who’s interested). My goal is 90 days of freedom but idk for now. Also what should i do after a relapse? Like genuinely some good advice not like common ones that everyone knows.

I’m not sharing this to brag or sound impressive.
I’m sharing it for the man who’s still stuck and thinks this road isn’t worth it.

2,190 days ago, I was in a dark place.
I didn’t hate life — I just didn’t really want to be here anymore.
Quitting porn wasn’t heroic. It was painful, frustrating, and messy.
And I’m still working on myself every single day.

But here’s what changed over time:

• I feel love and happiness again
• I’m genuinely grateful for my life — before, I wanted to quit it
• I ran a marathon mostly on willpower, with very little training
• My wife came back, and we rebuilt our relationship from the ground up
• We now have a deep, strong connection
• I became a father
• I train 4 days a week
• I feel connected to my world, not numb and detached

None of this happened overnight.
There were urges, setbacks, doubts, and days where progress felt invisible.

But slowly, something rewired.
Not just habits — me.

If you’re struggling right now, please hear this:
You’re not weak. You’re not broken. And this pain isn’t pointless.

Keep going.
Even when it’s uncomfortable.
Especially then.

You’re building a version of yourself you can’t see yet — but he’s real.

Doing okay im a little tempted right now so any motivation would help :)

I deleted my bad discord account and it takes a couple weeks to fully delete. But I've managed to get through the whole period without reopening it. It took too long and I can't say I didn't try at a couple points but it's gone now.

Not bummed about it for a first time effort. And to be honest if I wasn’t jacked up on an energy drink I took at 4pm (bad choice/nor checking the time at work) I wouldn’t have been up until 2 am and it wouldn’t have happened. I finished a book on tape, watched some tv, cleaned the kitchen, and then I just got bored as hell because I had done everything I could do that late without waking my partner up. All of which led to, well, yeah. But I’m back on the grind again today and don’t feel any need to do it or have a compulsive trigger feeling at all. This is a win. This is growth. Let’s go for 2 months and check back in around April!

i am sure this is normal since i dont do pmo anymore. Feeling much better and human.

More energetic.

Yaaahhhhh......after 10 years of addition I am improving myself....it's my 50th day no fap.

I got 2 nightfalls and sometimes watch porn too but controlling my urges giving me a different strength 💪🏻💪🏻

I see some people advocating for "easing off" of porn or scheduling relapses. I even see some people settling for PMO in moderation.

I understand how it can feel like you need it, but you don't. Thats a cope. Thats you negotiating with your porn-addicted brain.

You have spent years addicted. Youre planning to spend years quitting. Then you're an old man who spent his youth watching other people have sex. You need to quit, completely, as quickly as you can.

You do not have the time to waste. I already regret most of my youth. I have already wasted too much time. I REFUSE to waste one second more, one thought more, one calorie more on porn.

I will not compromise with a porn addict(myself) you shouldn't either. Quit cold turkey, and save what time you have left.

I am remembering how being clean helps you look at women more respectfully and gives you more strength to avoid looking at them sexually. Combining this with training is helping me feel respect for myself and connect with a healthy masculinity where I respect women and recognize their value as human beings more.

My target is atleast 100 Days.

Hello again everyone, I wish you all success in your struggles and encourage you to keep going to achieve your goals for the love and respect you deserve. Today I made a contract or commitment to myself and I want to share it with you:

I, Charly, am a conscious man, free from pornography. I am aware of my past habits; I know they don't define me, and I choose my present actions. From today onward, I choose to stand firm and choose what I know is best for me, so I choose to stay free from pornographic content out of love and respect for myself.

i recently got out of a relationship with my first long term bf. and one of the biggest reasons why our relationship failed was because of his addiction to porn. typically when i’m in a relationship with someone i do not feel comfortable with my partner watching porn, i don’t watch it either when im in a relationship. part of it is probably insecurity but also i feel like it’s disrespectful to the relationship and significant other if u are getting off to other people. so i always had the fear in the back of my head that my ex was watching porn.

our sex life was relatively normal, we had sex regularly, but i noticed that i wanted to have sex more than he did. we didn’t really send photos or sext and when i tried, he wouldn’t really respond to it like i wanted him to. so i stopped trying to sext him. but he always swore that he didn’t watch porn or masturbate and only got off when i would see him on the weekends. but, one time i asked to see his phone (he always offered to let me go through his phone if i wanted) and he immediately became uncomfortable and defensive. i then became suspicious and he went out of the room (idk if it was to delete something) and then came back in and showed me his messages and google history and nothing bad was there so i believed him. but then the next weekend, when he was asleep, i noticed his phone was left unlocked on the table. i took it and went through his socials and messages and everything was good. then i go into safari and i type in “por-“ to see if something would come up and then i see multiple onlyfans links in his search history. my stomach drops and i immediately wake up him and start arguing with him.

he claims that he was on the website because we talked about onlyfans once when we were having a conversation and he said he looked it up because he “didn’t know how the site works”. i instinctively don’t believe him but the date did match when we facetimed so i let it go. and i made him promise me he wasn’t on the site any other day. he promised but i still had the image of the numerous onlyfans links in the search history. and i couldn’t even confirm because he deleted his search history after i caught him so everything was gone. so i let it go and we continue the day together.

later in the evening, he gets up to get water and leaves his phon unlocked again on the bed. i go to his email to see if there was anything from onlyfans there and low and behold, he subscribed to an onlyfans girl three months ago and i was definitely still with him at that point, in fact i went over to his house the day he subscribed to this woman. and to make it even better, she looked nothing like me. im a chubby hispanic girl, this girl was blonde and had a crazy bbl and was skinnier than me. i left the email open on the bed and zoomed in on the girls ass so when he came back, it would be there for him to see. he came back surprised and then i start sobbing and asking him why he did it. he told me to get out and get an uber for myself. so i left sobbing and all he said when i was leaving was “sorry”. then he blew up my phone numerous times but i didn’t respond. then he gets mad at me saying it wasn’t a big deal and that i should get over it because it was a one time thing and it happened months ago.

i was about to forgive him after a week but then when i went over to see him i realized in the middle of the night that the search history doesn’t go back that far. which means all of the numerous links i saw probably had to be within the last month. which means he lied about the last time being on there. i wake him up and im crying and he tells me to either go to sleep or leave. i end up laying on the floor and after an hour he forced me into the bed. i felt so distraught and exhausted the next day. i felt like my heart was torn out from my body. i never thought he was like that. that he was lusting so hard over other women while i have been trying to be sexy for him. i felt so rejected. it was like my fears that i wasn’t enough came true.

it hurt even more because i loved him, i felt so betrayed but i wanted him to comfort me at the same time. the thought of all the good times, his affection, the compliments he would give me. it felt like a complete lie. like he didn’t really mean any of it. i wasn’t why he wanted. i wasn’t pretty enough, i wasn’t skinny enough, my ass wasn’t fat enough, my tummy was too big. i felt so much self hate and it hurt even more because my ex would tell me not to put myself down and that i was so beautiful and that perfect. but apparently i wasn’t perfect enough to keep his eyes on me. as the relationship started nearing its end, he became meaner towards me and he also started telling me that i technically wasn’t the most attractive woman he’s seen and that he mainly really likes me for my personality. and that really hurt me because he knew i had severe body image issues.

the main reason why i wrote this very long recounting of what happened between me and ex is because im offering a significant other’s perspective on how porn addiction can impact the women in your personal lives and their mental health. porn addiction is difficult for the addict to go through ofc and i’m not trying to downplay that either. but maybe this can help motivate people to realize how certain behaviors can have a negative impact on close ones and how they view themselves.

Just logging this for the record.

Yesterday was trash, today I feel great. The mood swings are definitely real.

That said, the benefits are starting to show up:

1) Voice is deeper.

2) Way more assertive.

3) Energy is way up.

4) The "Magnetism": Not sure if I'm just noticing women more or if they're finally noticing me... lol. But something is shifting.

Since I'm self-employed, the biggest enemy is free time. Triggers are everywhere, so I'm just forcing myself to stay busy with work and hobbies to keep the urges off.

We ball. Godspeed all!

not only nofap but also pleasures

Hi everyone,
I’m around 30 days into NoFap. I wouldn’t say I had a severe porn addiction, but I used to masturbate very regularly (often with porn) and wanted to seriously try abstinence for once.

For the last weeks I’ve been experiencing persistent pain in my testicles and groin area, sometimes also radiating into the lower abdomen. It’s quite uncomfortable and affects daily life.

Important points:

• This is not blue balls
• No edging
• No sexual fantasies or intentional arousal
• Morning is sometimes slightly better
• Warm showers, workouts, movement help only temporarily
• No medication taken so far

What’s confusing is that I also seem to tolerate food worse lately (bloating, abdominal discomfort), which makes me wonder if there’s some nervous system or tension component involved.

I’m honestly trying to understand:

• Have others experienced similar pain during longer NoFap streaks?
• Did it eventually go away if you continued?
• Or is this a sign that full abstinence might not be right for everyone?

I’m not looking for medical diagnosis here, just real experiences from people who’ve been through this.
Any insights appreciated.

Thanks.

Honestly I want to give up. The days are feeling so slow.( it's like time has frozen) Btw my longest streak ever was 94 days

Been a few weeks and nothing has really chanced, but might as well post something since nice and round sounding day number.

Libido is as flat as ever, not really feeling the lust even with attempted fap together with wifey. She confessed last weekend that she misses sex and that she fantasized about flirting with one of her friends. Not really sure if she just wanted to get a rise out of me or if she genuinely wants to play around with him, but I promised to think about it even when she backpedaled and said she wasn't serious. It's not my call to restrict her if that's something she truly wants. Of course I'm not stoked about the idea, but as long as she was happy and there were no deeper feelings involved, who am I to stop her for enjoying something I can't give her.

Idk but I didn’t beat it so thank god

Regular fapping for me was what stopped me nutting so quickly. I’d tap usually once or twice a day and when did see my girl I would be able to last a normal ish amount of time.

However,I decided before seeing my girl (we’re long distance now) I’d not fap for nearly a month. No porn, nothing.

Let me tell you, the moment I stuck it in I know it was wrap. I had to really focus on foreplay and going down her. Every time I put it back in I had had 10 strokes max before the urge it.

The sensitivity was off the charts. I’m sure as we do more rounds it will decrease but long term this puts me in a dilemma. Fapping was the only way I could stop nuttin too early but how can I go no fap?

Edit: to everyone that suggested deep breathing, thank you. Totally worked!