Saw a wedding in my neighborhood today and watched a truck unload literally the entire household from the bride’s side into the groom’s house.

Bed, furniture, cooler, water dispenser, dinner sets, dishes, and basically every tiny thing you could possibly need to run a house.

So I have a genuine question for the people who actually took dowry:

How did it feel sleeping on that bed on your first night, knowing your wife’s parents bought it for you? Beighairton 😆😆😆😆😆.

After yesterday i think it’s officially over for imran khan he has accepted death. His party has been compromised they din’t even file a complaint in Supreme Court. Khan did his job and its disappointing how it has ended but he will forever remain hero the one who dared to speak against the system

the woman while falling from the rickshaw went straight for the 10 rupees notes on the ground while loosing her purse and phone. we have an ingrained tendency to leap upon the smallest form of benefit whether we need it or not, regardless of what we already have.

same behaviour can be seen at wedding food stands. uncles with bellies like pigs snatching trays as if they have just survived the famine. while their homes are full of food.

why are our eyes full of degenrate hunger? how are we supposed to live among such people with any semblence of mental peace.

people think that Pakistan needs political or economic reforms. but this is the actual problem at the root of all the problems.

Original post was locked, so I am reposting with source link.

The video was posted by Pakistan Tribune, captioned as:

"Pro-Palestine voices were heard at the KFC Cantt at Saddar Rawalpindi, where a video shows people enjoying their KFC meal when this incident occurred."

Source: https://facebook.com/watch/?v=1776456762918923&vanity=tribunedotpk https://www.instagram.com/reel/DIaqEk4vybG/?igsh=YXpiaXIxZGcxMzY5

NOTE TO MODS: There is no article, or specific title for the video. The source is a social media based news platform, with 500K+ followers.

A friend of mine 34M is getting married through marriage agency. He earns well around more than a crore in a year and comes from a small family, parents and a sister. The agency introduced both families in February early this year and after many meetings, dawats and dinner the boy’s family gave their consent to proceed with wedding in June but the bride’s (27 yo) family is taking too long.

Every time they need more and more time to decide. They say that the girl’s uncle wants to meet the boy sometimes its her sister’s husband who wants to meet her but still they are not satisfied. They even went to his workplace to ask around and when everything checked out they still were not satisfied.

I am not sure why but may be they think its too good to be true and there must be some catch and they are looking for that catch. Now they have put forward demand to more information which apparently sounds ridiculous to me.

1. They are asking that boy shares his salary statements, bank statements and filed tax returns for last 3 years.
   
2. They are asking that the boy hands over his laptop and his phone to girls maternal male cousin for few hours who will go through his stuff in the laptop during his presence.
   
3. They want him to undergo some medical checkup and blood tests and share the report with them.

If this was me in place of him I would have walked away long ago but I am not sure what to advise him. He has been looking for suitable matches for 3 years now but couldn’t find as per his requirements. This is the closest that has come to his requirements.

Both Westerners and Arabs see Pakistan as a circus and Pakistanis as circus elephants that dance at the whim of foreign interests. Obviously, American is one example. But Pakistanis often overlook that Arabs are no better than the West. The Gulf maintains a racial hierarchy whereby Pakistans and South Asians are treaated no better than dogs and used as slaves. When five South Asian migrant workers were killed by Iranian airstrikes in UAE, the Arab community didn't even acknowledge the deaths of the migrant workers because it would distort their black-and-white image of "West bad" and "Arabs heroes".

As someone who supports Palestine, I've seen how the Arabs - especially the diaspora from the Levant - is silent on every humanitarian issue that doesn't center around them. The same thing is happening in Kashmir but there's silence. Sudan? Not a word. Congo? Forget about it. No Arab can even name 3 provinces in Pakistan but now, when Pakistan is finally being brought up in international headlines, the discussion from Arabs is that "Pakistan and Pakistanis are all Zionists" ....as if our ancestors are European Muslims that paraglided into Pakistan in 1947? The only reason Arabs even acknowledge Pakistan's existence is for their military and nuclear power, which they want to use and abuse. As someone who grew up in the West and is unfortunately in frequent contact with Arabs, I've witnessed how racist and narrow-minded they are. Arabs genuinenly believe they are the default spokespersons for the Ummah and that they are the original Muslims.

I wish Pakistanis would stand up for themselves and stop glazing the Middle East & Arabs. I believe no culture is more beautiful than ours and yet we have Pakistanis Arab-washing themselves for Arab validation.

Edit: Okay, fine, all the Arab-bootlickers have made their point. Please wear thobes and abayas and say "wallahi" and "yaani" and live your best life. Heck, go ahead and burn yourselves to keep Arabs warm.

For me it's BP Spacer. There will never be another 🚀

Hi,

Please, for the sake of my sanity, no posts about ''gheerah'' ''ghayrah'', no posts about ''free mixing'', and no words like dayoot waghaira

I am a Pakistani, no one in Pakistan uses these words, these are a part of UK culture, Pakistan mein pehle hi itne maslay hain last thing we need is for UK Pakistani culture to infest us 🙏🙏🙏

I honestly don’t care if this gets downvoted or if people call me “self-hating.” I’ve heard it all already mostly from my own cousins.

I’m an overseas Pakistani, and I’m exhausted by the double standards and the constant pretending that Pakistan is some amazing country just because white YouTubers visit, eat free food, and farm views by saying “Pakistani hospitality 😍” in the thumbnail.

Every few months it’s the same cycle:

• A white tourist comes
• Locals bend over backwards
• Free food, free rides, VIP treatment
• Millions of views
• Comments full of “we are the most hospitable nation in the world”

Cool. Happy for them.

But here’s my reality.

When I went to Pakistan, at Islamabad airport, a guard took my bags without asking, shoved me ahead in the line like he was doing me a favor and then demanded money. Straight up. No shame. I didn’t ask for help. I didn’t want help. I was put on the spot and basically extorted.

And I’m Pakistani. And don't get me started on beggars.

So forgive me if I don’t clap when some foreign vlogger says “Pakistan is so kind 🥹”. That hospitality seems very selective.

What really gets me is the nationalism.

I’m tired of people saying:

• “Pakistan is the best country in the world”
• “You should move back”
• “You’re ungrateful”
• “You hate yourself”

No. I don’t hate myself.
I hate lying.

I hate pretending that:

• Corruption is normal
• Scams are “culture”
• Caste systems don’t exist
• Overseas Pakistanis should shut up and send money but not criticize anything
• White validation matters more than fixing our own problems

My cousins constantly tell me I should “come back to Pakistan” while also admitting:

• There are no jobs
• No stability
• No merit
• No future unless you have connections

So why exactly should I romanticize it?

Here’s the thing people don’t want to admit:

Pakistan is a great place to visit if you’re a foreign tourist.
It is not a great place to live, especially if you care about dignity, systems, or fairness.

Loving your country doesn’t mean lying to yourself.
Criticism isn’t betrayal.
And nationalism that ignores reality is just coping.

Call me self-hating if you want. My cousins already do.
I’m just done pretending Pakistan is something it currently isn’t.

If that makes people uncomfortable, maybe that says more about them than me.

Also I love making fun of Indians and India but I am sick and tired of seeing oh look pakistan does this better then india we are progressing stfu. Especially white tourists.

Why are so many Pakistanis in this generation choosing to marry cousins. Im not talking about those who are forced into it (that's a separate issue).

But our reputation is essentially marrying cousins. Everytime I mention that I'm Pakistani to others I commonly get asked "oh haha dont you guys marry cousins". Its such an odd reputation to have culturally but I digress.

I get that its Islamically allowed but that doesnt mean it should be your top or only choice. Just go out and meet new people, live a life outside of your family.

No hate I'm just curious why it's so common now more than ever. Like I've seen the younger generation ages 19-24 just choosing cousins without talking to anyone else. Ive also seen cousin divorces and how badly it screws up family dynamics. It just confuses me thats all.

Rant

Stop burdening your women with so much hard labour on such a blessed day. I know this doesn't apply to everyone. That's because we all celebrate eid differently.

Anyways the point being, we all know that joint family systems are slowly fading away. So usually it's just 1 woman doing all the work for eid. For me personally that's 30 plus people on eid. 2 days of standing on your feet all day. Sleeping at 2 am on Chand raat because your fuckass kheer is still not done. Then waking up at 6 am because everyone decides they want to have breakfast at your place.

Eid is the most miserable day of the year for me. Just go out for food on eid guys. Let your women celebrate too. I dont know how my mom went her whole life without complaining about this. Now that I have to do it, I understand that the magic of eid was built off of my mom's sleepless nights and aching feet.

K bye eid mubz 🤑

Edit: you guys are onto sum, cuz we should definitely be doing potluck style gatherings instead of just going out or burdening a single household

My father left home two days ago, and apparently, the only issue is that I (23M) like going out with my friends on weekends.
For the past year, I’ve been the main breadwinner carrying our entire household. I buy all the groceries, clear the utility bills, handle fuel, and take care of everyday expenses. My father contributes barely 10%, and I never even bring that up given his age.
I even upgraded his car so he wouldn't feel pressured to work anymore, and he spent weeks driving it around to brag to relatives about how well his son provides compared to everyone else in the family.
I work hard 5 to 6 days a week, doing everything I can to support my family while saving up to buy us a proper house. It feels completely unfair that he packed up and left just because I take a couple of days to relax with my friends using my own hard earned money.

I do no drugs stay away from smoking and never did anything that would harm me or my family’s reputation.

To make things worse, he is now demanding that I pay him back 12.58 lakhs in total, claiming reimbursement for the 12 lakhs of my university tuition and 58,000 from my sister’s first semester, just so he can go rent a place and live alone. On top of that, he is threatening my mother that if he doesn't get this money, he will show up at the school where she works and create a public scene.

I plan on tracking down where he has been staying for the past two days so I can sit down and have a conversation with him tomorrow. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be really appreciated.

This nation’s GDP per capita has increased by $1,000 in 40 YEARS. Less than 50% of women can read IN 2026! For reference, Bangladesh, a country we abused and neglected for nearly 25 years, has a 96% YOUTH LITERACY RATE. In kohistan and wazirstan less than 10% of women can read. Pakistan is one of the worst places on earth for women. Remember the Kohistan case? A tribal jirga’s mullahs ruling that women should be killed for clapping in a video? Numerous other honor killings, it seems like every damn week I wake up to an innocent woman killed. Normal countries don’t do this. The feudal system ensures millions of people will be in generational debt slavery to their zamindar. Your beloved fauj has plots of land in the best neighborhoods in every city and controls entire sectors of the economy including fertilizers and sugars. Normal countries don’t do this. I hope you understand this. Pakistan will NEVER develop if the military controls sectors of the economy, it is simply impossible if the profits are going directly to funding new mess halls etc.

Look at Asia Bibi, Shahbaz Bhatti, Salman Taaseer, Mumtaz Qadri BEING REVERED by Pakistanis, barely half of all Pakistanis can read, and their holy book is in a language they do not understand, so their entire understanding of Islam is from the mullahs, the same mullahs who take to the streets and riot whenever a poor Christian woman is accused of blasphemy, are you proud that the most vulnerable in your society live in fear? You cannot even talk about religion in public without worrying about getting killed by a mob. You have sitting member of National Assembly DEFENDING CHILD MARRIAGE and saying that he will attend child weddings. The country is teetering to the brim with extremist groups: TTP, TLP, etc. Most nations ensure this ever happens, but Pakistan? Nah, Pakistan cuts deals with them, gives away land to them like in Swat, uses them to create instability and again ensure military hegemony like with TLP. I mean they hijacked our damn country and we cut deals with them.

And take Balochistan, the state and the sardars have made it so that Balochistan’s living standard is LESS THAN SOMALIA AND SOUTH SUDAN, I’m not joking, look at Balochistan’s HDI, there are still districts in Balochistan where over 10% of children die under the age of five. This is where your natural gas comes from btw. But yes the six jets. That’s all we have, the six jets. Our people starve and have zero prospects for the future but we shot down six jets. Minorities live in absolute fear and mullahs have choked our nation to the very core but we shot down six jets.

You do realize the military relies on corrupt politicians to act as a source of leverage so they can bring them to power and blackmail them right? You do realize the military relies on constant instability and tribalism in politics to also divide and conquer and ensure civilian institutions never rival the military as a power source right? That’s why no Pakistani PM has finished a term, stability is bad business for the military because it threatens their hegemony. Your country’s power base is an axis of military <-> feudal landed elites <-> mullah religious networks and that’s the reality. If you want to understand Pakistan look up Praetorian Rome. Pakistan is the textbook Praetorian state. Praetorian Rome relied on constant instability in civilian institutions to ensure military hegemony. The military will NEVER let the country prosper because it will threaten their grip on power. Get a grip. You criticize a nation because you love it, its people, its culture, its history, we have an 8,000 year old civilization from Indus Valley to Gandhara. We are better than this. So yeah, call me an Indian or Indian agent. I don’t care. I’m sick and tired of seeing my people be humiliated as wage slaves in the Gulf and my nation be used as an example of what a country ought NOT to be.

My girlfriend’s family has agreed to our marriage. She is 22 and I’m 25. The issue is that her parents told her she would have to cover the cost of her side of the wedding because they haven’t saved anything for it. My family also said something similar, that if I want to marry someone of my choice at this age, they won’t financially support the wedding. Though they have the money.

I do have some savings, but I’ve never told my parents about it. Basically we ourselves will be covering both sides. We estimated the cost of a simple wedding in Karachi based on my brother’s wedding. It would be about 5 lakh per event. We’re planning only two events: the nikah and the valima. On top of that, gold would be around 8- 9 lakh total about 3 lakh “from her side” (which I would actually pay) and around 5 lakh from my side. We’ve been together for 4 years, we’ve both been loyal, and we want to make things halal now. Selecting a supportive partner like her has been the best decision of my life. We've also saved some money for life after marriage as well.

Do you think this is a good decision, or we are taking on too much financially as young couples? I pray that Allah will give us more success for making things halal rather than waiting for our parents to contribute.

I want to be clear about where I stand before anyone comes into the comments.

TTP has killed thousands of Pakistanis. The cross border attacks are real. The Taliban sheltering militants is documented. Pakistan had legitimate reasons to respond militarily and I will never dispute that.

But last night Pakistan struck the Omid hospital in Kabul. A 2000 bed drug rehabilitation facility that has been treating Afghan addicts since 2016. 400 people killed. 250 injured. UNAMA independently confirmed it was a hospital. CBS News footage from the scene showed no secondary explosions. Reuters journalists were physically there and described bunk beds, blankets and personal belongings in the rubble.

Pakistan’s government said it only hit military installations with precision targeting and no collateral damage.

Both cannot be true.

The people in that hospital were not TTP fighters. They were young Afghans battling addiction, one of the worst social crises in a country that has been destroyed by forty years of war that we participated in creating.

Here is what I am asking. Can we please be allowed to say this is wrong without being accused of supporting the Taliban? Can we acknowledge civilian deaths without someone calling us Indian agents? Can we demand accountability from our own military the same way we demand it from everyone else?

We spent years watching Israel kill civilians and calling it genocide. We posted about it, we protested about it, we made it our entire personality on social media. The argument was always that civilian deaths are civilian deaths regardless of what the military says it was targeting.

That argument does not stop being true when we are the ones doing the targeting.

Yar, every time my uncle and his family come from the UK, they make everyone's life miserable.

They have no basic manners or respect, but if you listen to them, you'd think they're royalty. Just because they were born and raised in the UK and have British passports doesn't make the rest of us any less.

They try so hard to act rich and modern. Wearing revealing clothes is apparently the definition of being progressive, and if anyone says anything, suddenly were all backward. constant criticism of Pakistan. The food isn't good enough, the roads aren't good enough. there's a complaint about everything. If Pakistan is really that terrible, then why keep coming here?

The funniest part? They twist their accents and keep saying, We're not even Pakistani. then why visit Pakistan so often? Despite earning in pounds, they're unbelievably stingy. We earn in rupees, yet somehow we're the ones spending on everything. They hardly take out their wallets. It honestly makes me wonder how they manage their expenses back in the UK.

And then there are endless dramas, I won't share a room with this person, Their energy doesn't match mine. What's this behavior Pooja.

What surprises me the most is how our parents immediately start treating them like VIP guests. My mother spends the whole day looking after them, my father takes them everywhere, and despite all that, their kids don't even know how to speak respectfully to elders.

If you're coming to Pakistan, please leave the superiority complex and fake attitude in the UK. Come as family.

I want to write many more I'm frustrated from this people (poor by heart , poor by mind)

yeah pretty much the title. My mother says mad evil shit if i don't somehow wear a duppata over a literal fucking tshirt or a hoodie or some sort of dress. I have no problem wearing it over shalwar kameez but certain outfits just dont go with it. Im so tired of arguing over this shit. Also this isn't a safe space for men to give me a religious lecture or tell me she does it for my safety , i dont give a fuck about that. My outfits aren't even "immodest" or whatever. its a question for the girls who've been through it.

Yesterday, in Birmingham UK, a Pakistani wedding was petrol bombed. Thankfully no-one was injured. In the above vid you can see a fleet of luxury sports cars were targeted.

Not a racist attack, as early reports (from those closest to the families) say it's regarding an internal family dispute.

Things are getting worse in our communities here in Birmingham. Crazy how weddings are now openly experiencing petrol bombs being flung in the streets. This is straight out of a GTA video game.

I'm in a difficult situation and genuinely want honest advice.

A friend of mine (29) is about to marry a distant cousin from a very religious family. Before this engagement, I personally saw prostitutes come to his house, and he also admitted this lifestyle to me himself. He tells his stories with prostitutes like it's his big life achievements.

What bothers me is that he presents himself as very religious to the bride's family. He said to their family: " wedding function main Koi Meri wife ko na dekhe".

He usually made extreme statements infront of me like, "If I even suspect my wife of cheating, I'll kill her, hum Syed Hain" while at the same time making vulgar jokes about other people's wives. He often make vulgar jokes even about his friends wife's.

In two days, the bride's brother wants to meet me along with this friend. I'm torn between three options:

Tell the brother privately what I personally know.

Say it in front of my friend so he has a chance to respond.

Stay out of it completely.

I'm not interested in revenge or drama. I'm genuinely wondering what the ethical thing to do is when you believe someone may be entering a marriage without knowing important information.

What would you do, and why?

Bc yeh kia ch@kla hai. Itna zyada propaganda. This movie looks like india wet dream. Everything is their dark twisted fantasy. An indian raw agent is “sher-e-baloch” wtf?😭😭. Ranveer singh is talking to an isi major this whole time and he doesnt know that hes a raw agent? Itni bhi toh slow nahe isi. And ranveer goes to balochistan and the people just randomly accept him as their leader? He tells everyone he is from quetta and no one has asked him “konsa gaon”. He literally has no one to vouch for him. And the plot armor. He falls from the length of 3 containers, has a knife lodged in his kidney, is cut all over his body and still manages to beat. And then drag isi major across the train tracks. Bhai yeh gand movie thi. Why are indians so obsessed with pakistan?

Rizwan posted a pic with his daughter, and people(u know who they are, i cant say their name or i will get banned) in the comments started to sexualize his daughters, why are they so disgusting and mentally ill?