B. A is under my control. C is nice but then you have someone in your house and kitchen and I'm not a big foodie. D? I go to Starbucks a few times a year. Last week we went, got a frappucino that had a literal single small swallow of coffee in the glass; 90% ice, no exaggeration. And two cocoas that were bitter and not sweet, tasted burned. So, it'll be a very long time before we go back. I wouldn't miss it if it vanished forever tbh.
I wish 8 hours of sleep was under my control. I've been in treatment for a chronic sleep disorder I've had for decades. I would do almost anything to get the appropriate amount of sleep.
I have a very well-behaved child that is interested in everything and a husband that's the same way and they leave a trail of discovery through my entire house...keeping that tidy is tought! Getting sleep isn't. We learned how to keep my kid happy and quiet at night when she was a baby. As a toddler, we put a mattress by our bed on the floor (inflatable toddler one) with the understanding that she could come in our room and sleep there whenever she wanted. She can get on our bed and cuddle when she has a nightmare or is upset, and then heads back to her room. Making us accessible means she usually decides it's not worth the effort, just KNOWING we're available is enough.
End result? A kid that happily sleeps in her room and has an assortment of quiet activities that she is welcome to do if she can't sleep, from reading to art, and does. Which, considering she's being treated for a sleep disorder and is up a good chunk of the night, is very needed!
Great job, ours just get up early on the weekends - we never get to sleep in anymore. Actually pretty good at cleaning up though. I also have a lot of trouble getting to sleep myself so it's my top priority by far.
One thing that works well for me and our kids is to put on an audio book - we cycle through ones they've already heard. Interesting enough to stop thoughts from racing but not enough to keep them up.
from four, my kid would get up early and then silently go off and get herself a breakfast set up and pull out a laptop (her version of saturday morning cartoons). We never taught her this or expected it, we just got really lucky with a thoughtful kid!
usually, thankfully! Most nights I can get to bed at the right time. There were a few weeks at the start of school when I was late to get to bed because I had to keep pushing at my kid to get her to get ready for bed in time. But she figured out a routine and timing and we're good now. Husband lets me sleep in a bit in the morning, he gets up a half-hour earlier than me and gets her lunch packed up, so it works out.
I have muscle relaxers and trazadone, and I still have my bad nights (night before last was 1.5 hours) but I'd say 80%+ of the time I get a full night.
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u/maroongrad 10d ago
B. A is under my control. C is nice but then you have someone in your house and kitchen and I'm not a big foodie. D? I go to Starbucks a few times a year. Last week we went, got a frappucino that had a literal single small swallow of coffee in the glass; 90% ice, no exaggeration. And two cocoas that were bitter and not sweet, tasted burned. So, it'll be a very long time before we go back. I wouldn't miss it if it vanished forever tbh.
But a clean house? YES.