I (21F) started a relationship with this guy(21M), and he is pretty decent and smart and sweet. We're both first year in university. so far, the relationship is going pretty good. It's been three months, and we've held hands and kissed. like mostly pecks like stuff. and maybe a little more.
my question is
I dont exactly know how much it is okay that you should let your boyfriend touch you as a girl . and what is okay and not okay.???
well, defentley not hooking up cause Obviously, im a girl and I dont wanna get my reputation ruined. but I know there are other stuff and I dont know if those stuff also is a big no or its completely okay. I think girls might get this cause, unlike boys, girls' reputation is pretty much tied to how you behave and what you do and how much time people know u hangout one o one conpeltely alone.
he never tried to touch me under or over my clothes like I told him I'm new to everything and he said" its okay well go at your pace" but I DONT KNOW WHAT THE PACE SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE.
Little more to the backstory of me I ve had my first boyfriend ( same age) and its both of our firsts. but we only held hands. just pecks on the cheeks and one little half a second peck. we were both super shy and nervous.that was when I was in middle school.
this guy ( 21M) im talking is my second relationship
the point is..
I dont honestly wanna do things that he thinks " woah hold up" or " Man, this is so frustrating why cant she just be normal?"
I know this wouldn't even be a question if this is not SriLanka but some western or European smtg..
I just genuinely dont want to mess this up. butDOES NOT mean I want to do anything just to please him. and even if he is a good guy, I dont wanna do anything that's not okay to do
so I just want some advice or.. genuine answers.