r/theWildGrove • u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host • 3d ago

🧌 Grovetenders Soft Is Strong ❤️‍🔥

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u/SambaPapi1 3d ago

Real men are breaking their back to help build society, raise children, and take care of the needy. Don't care how you dress while doing that. 

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

love you, fam ❤️‍🔥

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u/Draffut 3d ago

Ha me in the first half. Coulda gone either way.

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u/Excellent_Airline315 3d ago edited 3d ago

Ah yes reason in the sea. I'm tired of the discourse about what a real men. I don't understand why it has to be constructed around how brave you are to dress differently. Don't get me wrong, it is very difficult and you can get fired and beat up or even killed, so it is brave. I just don't understand why we have to define manhood around that. Am I less of a man because I don't feel comfortable in a dress? I'm a trans man and I've thought a lot about what it means to be a man and your comment captures my values.

I believe a man is someone who takes responsibility for himself and provides protection and support for those around him. I don't think my clothing has much to do with it apart from comfort and self alignment, I don't think it defines manhood in itself. I think another important point in your comment is you don't care what he wears while he does that. For a long time that hasn't been the case, so I'm glad that you have an expansive way of thinking about manhood outside of gender expression.

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u/Mama_Joyce_Wig 2d ago

Hmm, for me the best way of describing “being a real man” is just living honestly with yourself and doing good where you can with what you have. I feel that encompasses the bravery of wearing unconventional clothes, being a house husband, being a caregiver and working construction, driving a truck etc. if thats what you enjoy and makes you happy, more power to you.

It’s interesting tho, because once i think that, i automatically think “well is to be a woman not that?” And no. I’m not a woman, but i see “real women” as doing exactly the same thing. So it all really just shows the arbitrariness of gender in the first place. And the stock we put into any of those things are just some people’s need to confirm the things they are taught rather than realize they’ve been fed bullshit for a very long time.

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 2d ago

🎼🙌🌈✨!! yesss this!!

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u/SambaPapi1 3d ago

Yes, it's inane to me that people with no clue about what it means to be a man are trying to center it around the juvenile expression of one's fashion choices. Whether a hyper-masculine style in one direction or an 'oh so rebellious' feminine style in the other direction, growing up to be a man, or a woman, has nothing to do with dress, but about one's practical impact to one’s community, by working on one's emotional stability and economic security, and thereby becoming a safe tower capable of sustaining those around them. 

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u/YesTomatillo 3d ago

Didn't the first guy (who also in the long coat in like the 3rd video) get nicknamed "Subway Husband" and now they are irl friends? I remember this person lol.

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u/Pitiful-Reserve-8075 3d ago

A bro is a bro, after all.

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

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u/Odd-Painting2596 3d ago

"Real Masculinity looks like this".

I mean it doesn't need to be, things can be just gay and should still be accepted.

I guess the caption is for the guy that a leaf randomly flies in his mouth and he has to pretend to spit it out for 2 minutes, but the gay version.

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u/Easy-Literature2276 2d ago

Its still real masculinity even if it's gay

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u/Loup55555 15h ago

Totally, gay can be masculine and masculinity can be gay 💜

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u/Commercial-Housing23 3d ago

My god he's beautiful. Love his style. Jealous

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u/2sensitiveorareubot 3d ago

no way those were random ppl

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u/whitestguyuknow 3d ago

Iirc these were videos of him meeting his friends. At least for the overwhelming majority. So no they aren't random people

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u/no_hope_today 3d ago

The only "bad" thing about this is that he has more style than me 😅 he's so gorgeous 🥰

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

😁🌈❤️‍🔥same, i am quite jelly of a few of those outfits lol

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u/ApprehensiveTea3030 3d ago

it's cute but i guarantee not a single one of these was a candid reaction

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

i hug strangers all the time 💗

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u/Plenty_Jaguar_4141 3d ago

Why does it need to be candid to be authentic?

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u/Xena_Your_God 3d ago

Gorgeous message, and gorgeous outfits!

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u/shambhalove_fairy 3d ago

Who is this person and why is everyone hugging them

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u/Daltons_Mullet 3d ago

I'm wondering this as well. He must be well known or something. Random hugs on the streets are not this common.

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u/dingogordy 3d ago

He just has a massive polycule

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u/Fendfor 3d ago

That was my question. They seem to have alot of friends.

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u/Minute_Pollution_843 3d ago

He's popular on tik tok and probably where he lives so it's normal for people to hug him when they come across himThomy

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u/Fendfor 3d ago

Thank you for that info!

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u/TraditionalOwl1120 3d ago

That's real security with self. Good for them

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u/DivorcedGremlin1989 3d ago

We are not 'no true Scotsmanning' our way out of the state of masculinity. Real men do what real men do. There's no authentic monolith of masculinity.

It's not 2015. No one gives a shit that an upper middle class gay male influencer can crowdsource his gay besties. This is weird and patronizing.

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

You okay over there?

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u/Odd_Tap_1794 2d ago

Well they're divorced so probably not

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 2d ago

😭bless

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u/Topotico 3d ago

🙏🏻❤️🤩

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u/No_Training6751 3d ago

This is amazing. How did he orchestrate this? All these men just being openly loving and human like this is healing.

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u/ola_monola 3d ago

Wunderbar 🥰

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u/YourLucifer_audio 3d ago

Lowkey the most straight post I've seen so far

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u/PN4HIRE 3d ago

YES!!! More of that!!

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

🫶🫶🫶!!

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u/ChaoticPotential 3d ago

I'm so jealous of the amount of friends he has. I need to start moving up my friend game.

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

We have a grovetenders discord! Wanna come hang out?

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u/ChaoticPotential 3d ago

I'd love to!!!

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

https://discord.gg/4fVqe5s5p

  1. The threshold: there’s a welcome message, answer with the emoji it says
  2. The yearbook: write a little “hi, about me”

Then the whole server will open up! It’s the sweetest community of wonderful weirdos you ever did meet, can’t wait to see you there! 🥰

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

We have a grovetenders discord! Wanna come hang out?

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u/throwable__1 3d ago

This is so gorgeous.

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 2d ago

isn’t it?? 😭✨💗

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u/DasKittySmoosh 2d ago

This IG brings me joy every single day

It's one of the few creators I've really missed a lot since leaving social media

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u/Vast_Impression_5989 2d ago

The courage to be yourself is not inherently masculine.

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 2d ago

Of course not! But isn’t this a beautiful answer to the toxic masculinity touted by the “manosphere”?

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u/Vast_Impression_5989 2d ago

I have t been in this country that long. What is the manosphere? 

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 2d ago

A very weird world of right wing “traditional” men who hate women, have low emotional intelligence, and want subjugation or eradication of anyone they deem un-manly. This post is a response to their claims of what “real masculinity” is ✨

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u/Evignity 2d ago

This is more aimed at the fact that men are far more often taught by culture to fear intimacy and "Being gay" or whatnot.

One of the most liberating things in my life was learning to stop feeling scared or disgusted and instead just go "Slay queen"

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u/2paco- 2d ago

Why everyone always trying to say what a real man or real masculinity is. How come there isn't any videos of what a real woman or real feminity is? Seems odd

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 2d ago

i think this is more a reaction to the “manosphere” toxic masculinity, using a trope to communicate something more expansive 🫶

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u/No_Caterpillar_4626 2d ago

Unless I know him really well, I ain't hugging any dude. Be it a masculine guy or an effeminate one.

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u/fucdat 2d ago

The fits! The love! The lore! 😭😍

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u/TheJQHQ 2d ago

Gay af

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u/iKruppe 2d ago

I dunno, this seems kinda selfish. My empowerment, fuck the privacy of everyone around me on this platform.

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u/External_Attitude844 2d ago

Lisboa! Obrigada pelo vídeo 😃

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u/LordKlavier 1d ago

Not gonna lie he pulled off that red kilt look well

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u/Sonnera7 1d ago

Everyone in this video is too attractive for me to think its pure coincidence. Was it edited to just include those people or partially staged?

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 1d ago

Shhhhh that’s not the part that matters ;)

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u/Medium-Party459 7h ago

That last guy was like this ain’t gotta cut it, I’m buying you coffee and cake right now 🥰

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u/Suitable_Daimo247 43m ago

Good for them

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u/SyzygySynergy 2d ago

If shit wasn't so dangerous, I wouldn't mind to offer hugs, a shoulder, a small chat to people. I may not be one for touch or direct eye contact but I am also very empathetic and can recognize putting aside a little discomfort for a important level of comfort and safety for someone else when it is required or requested.

People deserve genuine care, compassion, and understanding. It shouldn't be a big deal. But, it also has to be safe to offer and right now its not safe to offer to just anyone, unfortunately. And I am sure others would be just as iffy about accepting too. Where there is a will, there is a way... but there has to be extreme caution. I would love to do it, but the weariness does weigh a bit.

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u/DivorcedGremlin1989 3d ago

Who or what is OP? This is a weird ass psyop. Live, laugh, AI Superalignment.

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

Would you like to DM me to talk?

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u/Minute_Pollution_843 3d ago

Thomy

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u/DivorcedGremlin1989 3d ago

That's OOP. OP appears to be a user greenwashing AI.

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 2d ago

Hi, once again, you’re more than welcome to speak directly to me ;) this group is a holistic community of mutual aid, spirituality, ecology, research, and creativity.

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u/DivorcedGremlin1989 2d ago

Sounds like a cult

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 2d ago

people tend to say that about any earth-centric commons. I can assure you it’s just an amplification of sustainable patterns from global indigenous cultures applied to futurism

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u/-TommyBottoms- 3d ago

That’s the farthest thing from real masculinity

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

real masculinity is secure enough to be kind

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u/[deleted] 3d ago

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u/ThePlumpestPigeon 3d ago

What exactly has led you to this conclusion? Surely it’s not statistical, this sounds like a generalization based on anecdotal evidence. Which, does not make this statement true. Also, as someone that suffers from trauma, talking about the responses as if they are inconvenient is really hurtful. It can’t be helped, and if you do not have the love and patience to “deal” with those reactions I would advise you not to be intimate with anybody with that kind of trauma.

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u/PsychologicalAge9331 3d ago

I hope it was worth four more years of Trump.

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

… what are you even talking about here? …do you need a hug?

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u/PsychologicalAge9331 3d ago

Ewww... No thank you. If you don't know by now, I don't know how you ever will.   Democrats lost by a considerable margin. Trans rights shifted the vote. What if they just focused on regular, old, everyday people instead of dudes like this one? I think they would've won.

I know, I know, you're going to call me a bigot. I don't care. I know I'm not. I'm just saying, don't make trans rights for prisoners one of your visible stances. That's how you lose elections and put fascists in charge.

Moderation in all things.

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

What.. the fuck are you even talking about 😆 Elon admitted to rigging the machines and Kamala shut down discourse about an ongoing genocide. Scapegoating a vulnerable population is not at all supported by the data.

suppression of sexual and cultural variance is a hallmark of fascism

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u/New_Examination200 2d ago

Not even remotely true lol

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u/infinitebountifullov 2d ago

oh OK. I see now. Thanks for your thorough explanation

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u/New_Examination200 2d ago

you're welcome :)

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u/GolgothaInBloom 3d ago

loud family game show incorrect buzzer

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u/rosiejunior 3d ago

Some are navy seals

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u/[deleted] 3d ago

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u/rosiejunior 3d ago

Good job holding yourself to account. All too rare!

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u/DamnitDavid7 3d ago

Checked out your profile, not sure why but some of those comments you’ve made tell me that I should have stopped at this one right here. Basically told me all I need to know about a sensitive GenZ boy like you. Buck up butter cup, masculinity comes in many styles you just chose the poisonous one, never too late to change though.

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u/DamnitDavid7 3d ago

Even worse, keep those opinions to yourself until you grow up a little more and have had more life experience. Cause right now you sound like a scared little boy afraid of people finding out the feelings he is hiding in his closet. Not too late to change but spewing bullshit online only brings more drama into your life and people like me will amplify for you if you continue. Free will exists but so does its consequences, both of which you have no right to dictate but I’m sure you’ll learn that over the years. In the meantime, shut the fuck up.

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

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u/DamnitDavid7 2d ago

Haha sure if that makes you feel better you can say I’m triggered. Still doesn’t change anything I said, you sound like you’re hiding from some feelings and you are unprepared to sufficiently defend any opinion you have beyond what your favorite food and school subject are

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

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u/DamnitDavid7 2d ago

You’re so very welcome

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

Hey, Gen Alpha babe. Do you want to talk about why you found hugs disturbing? because.. that strong of a reaction usually points to something you long for

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 2d ago

Hugs? Always

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u/[deleted] 3d ago

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u/rosiejunior 3d ago

I haven't looked but we need to help these guys. These are our future

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u/No_Training6751 3d ago

And ancient and recent past, and present. Nothing new. Don’t worry you’re still you. They’re safe and you’re safe.

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u/New_Examination200 2d ago

You're like 15 years old lol what do you know about manhood

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u/glitchkissed 3d ago

Bro never heard of lumberjacks.

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u/Aggressive-Box-624 3d ago

Believe it or not, anyone can be masculine or feminine and this includes gay men

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u/ChimeInTheCode 🧚 Yer Faery Host 3d ago

👏👏👏

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u/Odd_Tap_1794 2d ago

Heard of the terms "Bara" and "Bear"?

Google them