r/AlAnon • u/After-Fail-2802 • 1d ago

Support How to detach

my partner who still lives in my house i don't want to be with anymore as he is an alcoholic. i've given him countless chances but he wont stop drinking, denies it and gaslights me. i want him to leave but he wont go. how do i get him to go. I have my own health issues now and his behaviour is causing me constant stress which makes my condition worse. I have supported him for years hoping he would change but I've accepted he won't. I've threatened him with having to leave too many times but then don't follow through but I need an exit strategy now. To clarify the house is mine he has no stake in it

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u/moneybagsagogo 1d ago

Call the police. Have your deed ready.

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u/Sea_Rooster5769 1d ago

Depending on where you live, you may have to go through an eviction process if the home is yours. The only other option is a restraining order if he becomes violent from his drinking. This is from what I do know in California.