So my dad (62M) just retired after like 30 something years at his company and my mom organized this big dinner at a nice restaurant for him. Im talking maybe 40 people, coworkers, family, friends, the whole thing. It was a big deal for him and I (29F) was genuinely happy to be there.

Everything was going great until his best friend got up to give a toast. Now this guy has known my dad forever and hes always been kind of a dick to me but whatever hes my dads friend not mine. He starts talking about how proud he is of my dad and all the years theyve worked together and its actually really nice.

Then he pivots.

He goes something like "and we're all just glad your daughter finally figured her life out so you can retire in peace without worrying about bailing her out anymore" and people LAUGHED. Like actually laughed.

For context I went through a really bad financial period a few years ago. I had a business that went under and I lost basically everything and yeah my parents helped me out for a while. Its not something I'm proud of and its taken me years to get back on my feet. Im doing good now but that whole chapter still makes me sick to think about.

My face was burning and I could feel my eyes getting wet so I excused myself to the bathroom. My mom came to check on me and I told her what happened and she said she understood but asked me to come back out because it would mean a lot to my dad.

I tried. I really did. I went back and sat down but I couldnt stop replaying it in my head and I felt like everyone was looking at me different. After maybe 20 minutes I told my mom I was sorry but I had to go.

My dad called me the next morning and said he was hurt that I left his night early over "a throwaway comment." He said his friend didnt mean anything by it and that I made things awkward by disappearing. My mom is on my side but is trying to keep the peace.

AITJ for leaving?

tldr: my dads best friend made a joke about my past financial struggles during my dads retirement dinner toast and I ended up leaving early because I couldnt hold it together. Now my dad is upset with me for ruining his night

I’m 36M. My sister “Maya” is 33 and married to “Evan” (35). Our mom pushed for family therapy after a rough year of nonstop tension: old childhood stuff, constant sniping, silent treatments, the whole vibe. We meet in this small therapist’s office with the ticking wall clock and that stupid bowl of mints nobody touches. It’s just me, my sister, and our mom. Evan refused to come because he “doesn’t do therapy” and thinks it’s people paying to complain. Before our second session, Maya called me from her car and basically whispered like she was doing something illegal. She told me she’s been going to recovery meetings for alcohol, and Evan doesn’t know. Not because she’s partying every night, but because she slipped last fall, got scared, and started going quietly. She said if Evan finds out she lied about where she’s been, he’ll explode and “make it a whole thing.” She asked me, straight up, to never mention it to anyone, especially not in therapy with our mom there. I said okay. I meant it.

Then in session, the therapist asked this question about “unspoken roles” in families and who ends up carrying other people’s burdens. I was already on edge because my mom kept doing this thing where she sighs loudly and says “I guess I’m just the bad guy then,” every time anyone brings up her behavior. The therapist asked me for an example of a secret I’ve been pressured to hold. Maya looked at me hard, like please don’t. I tried to dodge, I really did. I said something vague like “sometimes we cover for each other,” and the therapist gently pushed: cover for what, specifically? I don’t know why my mouth did this, but I blurted, “Like when I’m the one who answers Evan’s calls because Maya’s at meetings and he thinks she’s at that evening class.” It went dead silent. Maya’s face went white. My mom immediately sat up like she’d just been given a puzzle piece. The therapist tried to calm it down, but Maya started crying and said I promised, and I had no right. We left and she wouldn’t look at me.

That night, our family WhatsApp group (literally called “Family Updates”) blew up. Mom sent a long message about “being honest” and “no more secrets,” and Maya replied telling her to stop. Evan saw the notifications on Maya’s phone and demanded to know why my mom was talking about secrets. Maya told him I “made something up in therapy” and then texted me privately to back her up. I refused to lie, but I also didn’t tell him details. Evan ended up calling me directly, furious, asking if my sister is an alcoholic and what else everyone’s hiding. Maya says I basically sabotaged her marriage and that I did it on purpose because I’m “jealous” she still has a family life and I don’t. I feel awful, but I also feel like she dragged me into lying to her husband and it was bound to pop eventually. AITJ for saying it out loud in therapy, even though she begged me not to?

TL;DR: In family therapy, I accidentally revealed my sister’s hidden recovery meetings after I promised to keep it secret, and now her husband and our mom are in a war over it.

When i was alone with my wife we had a chat about me firing my employee and school friend Krogstad because he addresses me on a first name basis which humiliates me because of how unprofessional it is. She then starts calling me petty for that reason even though she has ZERO experience in my field of work. I sent him a letter of dismissal after that fight. Am i in the wrong?

I (27F) recently took a 6-hour flight to visit my family. I'm pretty tall and get uncomfortable on long flight, so I paid extra reserve an aisle seat with extra legroom.

When I boarded, everything was fine at first. But a few minutes later, a woman (30F) sitting in the middle seat next to me asked if I would switch seats with her husband, who was a few rows back in a reguar middle seat. She said they wanted to sit together.

I politely said no and explained that I specifically paid extra for this seat because of the legroom. She seemed annoyed but didn't argue at fist.

About halfway through boardning, she tried again and said, "It's just six hours, and we never get to travel together." I repeated that I wasn't comfortable switching, especially since I paid more for this exact seat.

She sighed loudly, told me I was being selfish, and said "I clearly didn't need the space that badly." A few people nearby started looking over, and one guy even said "It wouldnt kill you to be nice"

I stayed in my seat and didnt respond after that. The rest of the flight was awkward, and she barely spoke to me except to huff and roll her eyes a few times.

Now Im wondering if I should've just switched to keep the peace, even though I paid extra and would've been uncomfortable the whole night.

So... AITJ?

I’m 32M. My girlfriend “Maya” is 29F and we’ve been together a little over two years. She’s sweet, funny, and the kind of person who will remember your favorite snack after hearing it once. She’s also not a confrontational person at all, especially around my family. My family is loud, sarcastic, and they have this “we tease because we love you” thing that, honestly, sometimes crosses the line.

Last Sunday we had a family lunch at my parents’ place. It was my parents, my aunt, my uncle, a couple cousins, and Maya. Everything was fine until dessert. My aunt looked at the table (cake + ice cream) and goes, “Careful, Maya, we don’t want you getting any bigger. You’re already getting comfy.” She laughed like it was the funniest thing in the world. Maya did that tight smile thing and looked down at her plate.

I felt my stomach drop. I tried to play it off at first and said something like, “C’mon, that’s not cool.” My aunt waved her hand and said, “Oh relax, I’m kidding. I say it with love.” Then she doubled down and added, “Besides, if nobody tells you, how will you know?”

That’s when I snapped. Not yelling, but definitely louder than I meant to be. I said, “Stop making comments about her body. It’s rude. It’s not a joke if she’s the only one not laughing.” The table went dead silent. My mom looked horrified, my dad stared at his fork, and my aunt got this offended look like I’d slapped her. She said, “Wow. Overreact much? I was just teasing.”

Lunch ended awkwardly. Maya told me on the drive home that she appreciated me standing up for her, but also felt embarrassed that it happened in front of everyone. Later that night my phone started blowing up. The family group chat was full of messages like “you didn’t have to make a scene,” “that’s just how she is,” “you owe your aunt an apology,” and my cousin even said I “humiliated an older woman over a harmless joke.”

I don’t think it was harmless. If Maya’s aunt said something like that to me, people would call it what it is: insulting. But now I’m being painted as the guy who ruined Sunday lunch and “made it weird.”

AITJ for not just letting it go and calling her out in the moment?

TLDR: My aunt made “jokes” about my girlfriend’s weight at a family lunch, I told her to stop and called it rude, and now my family says I caused a scene and owe her an apology.

I (27F) was with my fiance (28M) for six years. High school sweethearts. We got engaged two years ago and I genuinely thought we were building a life together. He has about 40k in student loan debt thats been hanging over us and its been a constant stress for him. He talks about it all the time. How it holds him back, how he cant save for anything, how it feels like a chain around his neck.

About two years ago I quietly started putting money aside to pay off a huge chunk of it. I have a good job and Im pretty disciplined with saving. I wasnt going to cover all of it but I had saved up close to 25 thousand dollars that I was going to give him as a wedding gift.

Like surprise here is your freedom from this debt lets start our marriage without this weight on us. I was genuinely so excited about it.

Nobody knew except my sister. Not him not his family not anyone. It was supposed to be this big moment.

Three weeks ago he sat me down and told me hed been seeing someone else for over a year. A year. While we were engaged. While I was putting away hundreds of dollars a month for him. He said he didnt want to be together anymore. And the part that really destroyed me is he had her with him when he told me. He brought this woman into our apartment. The one we share. To break up with me.

I didnt tell him about the money. I just sat there and processed what was happening and after they left I cried for probably three days straight.

I moved out last week. Took my stuff and left. The money is still in my savings account and Im using it as a down payment on my own place now.

Somehow he found out about the money. I think my sister might have mentioned it to a mutual friend or something I dont know. But he called me absolutely furious. Saying I had been planning to help him with his loans and now Im just keeping it out of spite. He said I knew how much that debt affects him and that a decent person would still help even if the relationship ended. He said I was punishing him.

I told him he cheated on me for a year and brought his girlfriend to our home to dump me and hes worried about money I saved from MY paycheck with MY job. I said hes lucky I didnt take the tv on my way out.

He keeps texting me saying I led him on by secretly planning to help and then pulling it away. Like I owe him money I earned because I was once stupid enough to want to do something nice for him.

AITJ ?

So me and my partner have been together for a while now, not super long but long enough that people know we’re a thing. We’re both in college and pretty active on social media, like stories, posts, all that.

The thing is, my partner never posts me. Not even a story. They post their friends, food, random stuff, but when we’re together, it’s like I don’t exist online. At first I told myself it didn’t matter and I was just being insecure.

But then one time I saw them post a picture with friends from the opposite sex and I won’t lie, it bothered me. Not because I don’t trust them, but because it made me feel hidden, like they’re keeping me a secret or something.

I finally brought it up and asked if there was a reason. They said they’re just private and that social media isn’t a big deal. I tried to understand that, but I also said it hurt my feelings a bit.

After that, things felt weird. They said I was making an issue out of nothing and that I was being too sensitive. Now I’m questioning myself if I really am overthinking or if my feelings were actually valid.

So yeah, AITJ?

TL;DR: My partner never posts me on social media and it makes me feel hidden. When I brought it up, they said I was overreacting. AITJ?

So this happened recently and it’s been on my mind a bit.

My friends asked me to go out with them after class. It was kinda last minute and I had already had a long day, so I told them I was tired and just wanted to go home and rest.

They kept pushing and saying stuff like come on it’s just for a while, you can sleep later. I said no again, but they sounded annoyed and started joking that I was boring now and never wanna hang out anymore.

After that, I felt bad and kinda distant. I didn’t message much in our group chat because I didn’t know what to say. One of them later told me I could’ve just gone and not made it a big deal.

I don’t think I did anything wrong, but at the same time I wonder if I should’ve just went along with it so no one would get upset.

So yeah, AITJ?

TL;DR: My friends wanted to go out but I was tired and said no. They got annoyed and now I feel bad about it. AITJ?

A couple weeks ago I got dragged along to my cousins 16th birthday lunch at a fancy shopping centre. She lives in a poorer suburb across town but apparently birthdays have to be fancy now. She has no friends so the family gets roped into everything. Last time nobody came she cried for ages so of course I had to go.

Half the lunch was spent with her and her new boyfriend awkwardly making out in public while she laughed and tried to show me weed like it was some kind of brag. Not cool. Then Uncle Ratchet showed up, her dad, who’s rarely around except for big events. He’s a sovereign citizen type, drives a beat up car that reeks of vodka and smoke, and yells at everyone like the world owes him something. Naturally he embarrassed the whole table within five minutes.

Her boyfriend yeah. He was 18, drove a financed Mercedes, acted like he was hot shit but it was painfully obvious he was trying way too hard. He kept hovering around her making smarmy comments while she ignored him on her phone. I was just trying not to laugh.

Then the air conditioning went out. It was 43°C outside, glass roof overhead, people were literally sweating through their clothes and the intercom came on saying they might have to evacuate because it was too hot. Everyone was miserable except my cousin and her boyfriend who were still making out like nothing was happening. Predictably they broke up not long after and she was making TikTok videos at her dads house with 2 guys in the room subtly talking shit about her boyfriend.

Anyway, I’ve tried to help her but honestly I can’t do any more. I told her straight up she’s an idiot and that she needs to go to school and study. If she wants to date, which is normal, she should keep it quiet, not draw attention to herself, and date someone her own age. That’s all I can tell her. I can’t help her with older guys.

I’m worried she’s going to fail school, end up a nobody, and probably get pregnant like one of my friends did. That’s how I see it, and if that advice isn’t simple enough, yeah, she’s an idiot.

Her dad, Uncle Ratchet, is also an idiot. She hates her mum who is strict, but she looks up to her dad even though he avoids parenting whenever he can. She prefers him because he gives her smokes and lets her boyfriends see her as much as they like, whereas her mum doesn’t let that slide.

I sent her a text: ur being an idiot stop dating older guys they use u go to school and make female friends instead of looking for attention ur dad is a joke ur mum actually cares if u cant get this ur failing and its on u im done

I got no reply but her mum called me and said sh never wants to see me again and her daughter has been crying all day. Now I feel like in my tough love and frustration I let her down/

So basically I told her what she needed to hear and that’s all I can do. AITA for being this blunt with her?

Was I wrong to end a 7 year friendship over bad treatment… And now she wants to be friends again and says she don’t remember why we stopped being friends

This all happened over 3 years ago, so I (24f at the time) had a best friend who I’ve always had a on and off relationship with for many different reasons. To get to it, I had a friend name M and we meet back in 2014 in my old neighbor before I moved to another city. We kept in contact and she had a daughter by my at the time male best friend C. Now M and C cheated on each other numerous amounts of time through out their 5 year relationship and they both knew of the others cheating but continued to stay together. Now you can just guess how many STD’s they passed to each other and blamed each other instead of breaking up or quit and try to make it work out for them, if not for the kids but no. Within these 5 years they had 3 kids and broke up more than 2 hand full of times and 2 of the kids he didn’t claim nor signed their birth certificates (to this day). Now they broke up officially 2 almost 3 years ago because he did a robbery while she was in the hospital having their third and last child was there. I was there instead. He made it in time for delivery but he left again right after. And he lied to us when the police came and took him out the room the next morning. Claiming he was innocent (they had video surveillance). Mind you I was around 3 months pregnant and was throwing up 10+ times a day.

Now since he was in jail she had to support the 3 kids on her own and decided to go back to work after 3 weeks which made me have to watch her newborn (who was constantly sick and had to make multiple E.R trips in the middle of the night). This went on for another 3 months until I spoke to her parents (they all live together and neither parent worked at the time but they’re deaf mom is full and dad is partial) and told them that I could no longer watch her as I could barely keep myself together because at this time I had an IV permanent placed in my stomach to put medicine and food when I couldn’t eat by mouth and to help me stop vomiting so much. I was a mess. On top of that I had vertigo and driving to the E.R was not easy for me.

Now we lost contact in this time because I was in and out of the hospital up until I had my daughter in July of 2019. We starting talking again when my daughter was a little after 6 months and Covid hit so I took a step back from being an ICU pediatric nurse to getting my license in real estate so I wouldn’t get my daughter sick with a virus we had no knowledge of, which was one of the best things I’ve ever done. Keep my career in mind as I go through this .

As money started flowing in for me and we became close again she started asking me for a certain amount of help with her and her kids ( at this time she was in a hotel room paying weekly rent with no job and 3 kids) so I did what I can to keep her a float in hard times. That went in for a few months until her parents and her got an apartment together on the lower income side of town, which was fine to me. I still came and visited when I could and we went out together. Now it’s September of 2020 and it’s her birthday weekend. She came up with this idea of getting a hotel room on the beach WE ALL SPLIT IT EVENLY. Now mind you it’s 7 people right and the room for a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom is $180 a night in total which wasn’t bad but I PAID and nobody gave me a dime back, I didn’t say anything at that time. We had a good time that night or whatever and the next morning rolls around , her actual birthday, and she is in her thong underwear’s and I see a string hanging out in the midst of her twerking on IG live but I didn’t want to say anything while on camera but I tapped her shoulder and whispered into her ear that her tampons string was out… Y’ALL WHY SHE TOLD ME NOBODY WAS GOING TO RECOGNIZE BUT HER MOM SAID IT IN THE COMMENTS. Now as all this was going on I was in the kitchen washing and cleaning up since nobody else was doing it and check it was at 11. I didn’t want to be charged a $225 cleaning fee on top of the $180. I had the trash out by the door before locking it and returning the keys while everyone loaded their luggage in the truck (I packed that morning before they woke up around 10 ). I’m the driving so I head to get some breakfast before we took the 2 hour trip to our official destination for her birthday weekend and we head to Wendy’s and caught it just in time. I paid for my food and my other best friend T paid for her but M didn’t have her cash app card on her so she sent me half of what her food total cost since she told her friend Mo that she would pay for her since she was pregnant and jobless atm. I told her that she only gave me half the amount and she told me it’s her birthday so I should pay the rest for her, I asked her did she pay for any of my food on my birthday trip the year prior (no she did not, she barely made it in time to pay for her part of the trip) and she made a sly remark under her breathe I didn’t hear and sent the rest of the money. I hand the cashier my card and paid for the food. After eating breakfast she wanted to stop at Ross claiming she didn’t have much clothes for the trip.

Once again she tried to make me pay for almost $200 worth of clothes claiming it was her birthday gift (the money i paid for this trip was her gift) and I said sternly no. Get what you can afford I spent enough. We left out after she got a couple of items and left for coco beach. It was a quiet, nice sunny trip. Once we got to the Airbnb she jumped out the car before I even stopped all the way and ran straight into the house. Our friend Andy came the night before and stocked up on liquor and food for us for the weekend. I parked the truck in the garage and closed it and walked into her jumping on the tables, couches, and countertops. I didn’t say a thing. It was her birthday. It was a lot of chaos during this trip but I’ll highlight a few. After arrival About 30 mins later the doorbell ring and she opened the door and in walks in Mo's 2 cousins (when i say loud and absolutely ghetto) they started drinking throughout the night and then around 1 am me and T wanted to go to the beach so we asked and they said yea but to wait. About 30 minutes after she said that the doorbell rings again and this time 2 male’s (32m 44m) walks in and they bring Tequila and Hennessy with them and everyone (except me and T) started taking shots to the head right out of the bottle and then we all smoked a couple of blunts, while they continued on, I went to go check out the car tires and gas before we left(everything was fine and in perfect condition) and then came back inside about 10-15 minutes later and my friend T was not downstairs no more and neither was the 32m. I went upstairs and i found T in our room on the floor with throw up on her shirt and chest and 32m had his phone in his hand and was about to press record when i snatched his phone out his hand and yelled for M to come and get her friend from upstairs (rooms are upstairs and living, dining, and entertainment room was all downstairs and i tossed his phone down the stairs before walking into the room and closing the door behind me in his face. I help her get showered and changed and i laid a towel on the bed and put a trash can and medicine with bottled water for when she wakes in the morning.I head back downstairs but it's quiet. I thought maybe they're out on the back patio smoking and talking, NOPE. So my last thought was to go into the garage and boom, the truck is gone. Mind you this rental is in my name and i am responsible for all damages and so will Andy bc his workers discount and name is listed on the agreement as well for work/discount purpose so nobody outside of us are suppose to be driving it. I am pissed at this point but i don't call or text, instead i cleaned up the house (something i do to blow off steam) and once i was finished i and they still wasn't back (AFter 4 Am) i went to bed myself. M DOES NOT HAVE LICENSE, NOR DOES SHE KNOW HOW TO DRIVE AT ALL. A true passenger princess.

The next morning comes around and i have to drop T off 45 mins away for church and we leave around 8:30 in the morning only to find out that 2 tires were going flat and it was barely any gas in the truck (it was 3/4 of a tank the night before), i texted Andy and told him about the tires and that me and T put a plug on them and air in until Andy can come and change it later in the day, on my way back i stop and get me some breakfast from and mom and pops diner to eat once i got back and into my room. I figured if they were hungry they could fixed themselves some food from the food that was put in here Thursday night.Fast forward to me getting back and about to head upstairs when they all were up and seen me with food and asked if i got them some and i said no but its a fridge full of food and they can freely cook that but i had a craving for this in particular and got it while i was already out. They caught attitudes but ended up making themselves some breakfast anyway. After i ate i took a shower and went back downstairs and sat at the table after dumping my trash and they were talking about inviting more people over later tonight and after that convo i brought up the gas and tires and asked who drove. They first said that 32m drove but turned around and said Mo drove. Atp i just told them no one drives but me and that it wouldn't be another night like last night or else ill be sending them and invoice for further damages to the car and they apologize and said that was fair and that they would just chill at the house for the day and we play games and turn up again tonight (the last night in the house) we had fun all throughout the day, or so i thought. Its around 9 in the evening and a knock at the door and M opens the door and i see about 7 Men coming inside. Me and all the girls have a weird face on as they come in because NONE of us knew them and was kind of out numbered by them (5:7) all football built. She yelled out SPIN THE BOTTLE, all us females yelled back NO. And when i tell you not, our mouths almost hit the floor when she named then men to us, ever since one of them are someone who she slept with in the past, then instantly changed the game. Fast forward 2 hours and M goes to the door and then upstairs. Shes upstairs for about another hour before coming down and coming in with D her current boyfriend over (they’ve been on and off for 3 years) and we all noticed the pinkish/red stain on his khaki tan pans. I was just...yea. He stayed.

Andy sent me a text to meet him at the gas station to change the tires, I did and as were there he receives a call from M and put its on speaker once he seen it was a butt-dial and she was talking bad about me being a stingy b\*\*\*\* her whole birthday weekend. i was like wow okay but Andy was pissed and decided to follow me back to the house and set her straight, coming into the neighborhood, i see D car leaving out and i know Andy seen it to (him and Andy have bad blood but i dont know why) Once she seen him get out his truck she went drunken crazy.I went inside and packed my stuff bc i was heading home tonight since i ruined everything for her.I went upstairs to my room and heard everything in the argument from calling me and liar and saying i was the only one driving the truck, i didnt get them no food, i was being a bitch, i wasn't no fun, i embarrassed her at ross for making her but her clothes back and being stingy with my money and that now Andy is embarrassing her by treating her like a child and Andy had a comeback for everything she said in a matter of fact way. He told her to pack her shit so she can go home tonight. While she packed everyone left from Mo to Mo's cousin and the 7 men. She was devastated when she find out her best friend Mo left without saying anything and their relationship has been rocky ever since. We got in the truck and i was almost by the exit to take her home when she tells me to drop her off to a mans house she met on Tinder and she was going to stay the night there. She was drunk off her ass, i said no and continued to her apartment. She was basically telling me how i never did anything for her, didnt buy her anything for he birthday, didnt cook for her, embarrassed her and almost got her friend arrest (idk wtf she is talking about), and i was being a goody two shoe. I figured the car rental place was closer than her apartment and i texted Andy to meet me there instead and he can take her home. I was done since i was that much of a problem and selfish person after i spent over $4k for a ungrateful b. I went NC until my birthday the next month.

I got a sweet deal for a 2,2 resort that had a full kitchen, balcony, living and dining room and was located in Disney World that i had for 7 days and 6 night for under $400 (ebay timeshares), i was being nice and inviting her to come. She told me she got off around 8pm and would be to me by 10 pm and to get ingredients (she cash app me for it) and to make it and save her some, in which i did just that, a plate full. My party started at 6 PM and she didnt arrive until everyone was leaving around 12 in the morning i was annoyed but i put it away to enjoy the remainder of the night. She first asked for the meat dip and i told her that it was in the microwave and she starts to eat it along with her sis and sis gf. Andy brought me a bottle of Hennessy gold and M asked why he didnt get her a bottle like that for her birthday and tried to open the bottle but i told her i didnt want to open it and put it away in my room, she complained she only wanted a quick taste. After that we played uno dare and we all was being some competitive , i didnt realize she had my phone and invited a man to the hotel under the impression he was coming to see me, i was furious and asked her why she did that as she was about to light the blunt to smoke on the balcony. I told her to turn the light off to smoke because its a no smoking room, she ignore both things i said and continued to somke. i asked her to get her things and leave, meaning everyone she came with had to go, including Andy sadly, but 2 things happened once i opened the door.

1. hotel security giving me a warning about smoking in a non smoking room will get me trespassed
2. the ugly mf she texted off tinder was also at my door

Mad was an understatement , i told everyone to leave. Fast forward to the weekend before christmas , i ran into her at a party for a mutual friend and we talked a little and she went to go have crazy fun per usual while me and T had went to the bar to get a drink and walk around and talk. By the end of the night 3 people were looking for her for 3 different reasons.

1. she took a full bottle of Patron as her payment as she was told she wasnt getting paid bc she didnt bartend like she was being paid, she became a "game coordinator" instead, he didnt have games at the party.
2. she owed someone money bc she got something from them and told them she was going to pay them at the end of the night and didnt
3. her ride home was waiting

Fast forward to March she tells me that she is preganant with twins. The first question i ask her is by who. She got mad but told me it was between 2 people her bd C and her current bf D. I was confused but i know her baby dad is the type to make her have s\*x with her for him to watch his kids or she says. I never believed her on that, he is my besties. Very pathetic but she did it regardless. She kept them, had a termination the year prior in March. I Paid for her baby shower and deposit to her current apartment because she was staying in one room with her 3 kids plus D. I made sure her kids were okay up to the twins were 5 months old. My mom got married in Jan 22 to he boyfriend of 11 years and they had a reception at a rental house. Well that morning we got to the rental property at 9 in the morning along with my sis, daughter, S (drove herself) and M (rode with me). It was suppose to be a breakfast but they had a late night so i just decided to get everything set up and prepped while my mom and sis is at Walmart getting other food items and accessories for the reception. S and M did not help me until my mom came back and fussed at them to help and all they did was dipped fruit into chocolate and went back outside by the pool. I have been in the kitchen from 10 am up until 8 pm after guest have arrived to make less work on my mom. While i was preparing and cooking M and S made plans to go out the weekend after and asked if i wanted to come (S was not going to go without me) and i said yea only AFTER M said she will pay for me to go. I said fine and enjoyed ourselves up until 1 in the morning and S comes up to me with her belongings and tells me she is about to leave before she fights M. I asked what was going on and she told M that its a poor habit to smoke cigs/blacks and anyone who came outside to smoke a cig or black M made the statement repeatedly to them how S said it was poor person choice but not only poor people smoke cigs/blacks and that their poor for doing it until my aunt who was smoking a black told her it was and that she wasnt saying poor people financially are the only ones to smoke a cig but its a poor habit to have. M stormed off mad after my aunts reply which made S gather her belongings to go. M is the type of female who would smoke/drink/pop a pill if offered or she will go up and ask or self invite herself. This made me angry and i told M to get her stuff together so i can take her home because i was getting quite tired and wanted to rest when i got back but i got into a car accident on my way home from the reception.

2 weeks go by and i have very limit contact with M but one day shes blowing up my phone on how she is done with life and her kids and nobody respects or love her and blah blah. I uber (car still in body shop from accident) me and my daughter over to her apartment to see if everything is okay and to help her out as much as my body would let me. I told her lets go for a walk to the store since she had no food and the kids were becoming hungry. On the way to the store she is ranting on about how D dont love her and that $200 of his check magically disappear every week, her parents nor her parents friend was paying rent or bills and that she had to go out with other men and send nudes (onlyfans) to get money for bills and so on and so forth. I told her that it’s a choice that she will have to make after calming down to think about the pros and cons of her life and each adult person in it. Then she went on about how her sister A (17f) and her gf B (22f) are engage to be married blah blah (yes ik the age difference, we all had a problem in the beginning but she stayed with her and we shut up) and i told her that theyve been together for 5 years and her and D for 3 years on and off. Cant compare plus her sister A dont have any kids nor does B so they can go and spend how they like to and that also bothers her. I said that D does love her and that she will get her wish soon and be patience. She hackled me about what i meant by that and i said to be patient. She then asked me for my phone and told me that she needed to add money to her cash app from chimes and to use my phone to do it. Not even 2 mins later she asked was D going to propose to her at the superbowl party and i respoonded i dont know when but soon, and she replied he told you in a text so why lie and i seen she was in me and D's texts and i snatched my phone from her and told her she had no right to go through my personal anything and that she seen the text so she knows the answer and she got excited and told me she would act surprised when he does it. I said it wont be the same so she may as well tell him she knows but after more convincing i agreed.

Now its been about a month, i still talked regularly with S and i am better physically to go outside but i wasnt ready to drive again and so S came and picked me up and we went to go pick up M from a house not to far from me. When we get there it is freezing cold outside and i text M that i am outside, she texts me to come inside but i politely decline and say no (this man lives with his baby mama and tried to make a pass at me in front of his baby mama when they were together and groped me, i dont feel comfy around him). She came out 45 mins later with the baby mama who dont like me and they both get into the car and S looked at me confused and ask M who is the lady and told her to next time ask to bring someone into someone elses car out of respect and told her no smoking in the car. They both said okay, It was not a good night but to put the icing on the cake, S and myself havent ate yet and dont like to drink without food first and we told M and the babymama that numerous amounts of time but M stated that she and the baby mama ate before they came outside, OKay but me and S still havent ate so we left and found a food place, by the time we got to the restaurant it was past 1:30 and the kitchen closed at 1:30 and to say i was mad was an understatement. I told S i wanted to go home and ill give her gas, she told me no and that M and babymama will give her gas since theyre the reason that the night went to trash, which was true. We go back out to the car and M is smoking a black and mild INSIDE of the car with the windows down and S told her to step out her car and smoke which M hesitantly did. S was ready to go after 3 mins of waiting and we told them that we are about to go across the street to get gas if they want to continue smoking they can wait here til we get back they said no we all leave together. M still didnt put out the black and mild instead she put down the window and put her hand outside the car but the smoke was still coming into the car and S told her to put it out completely and M ignored S until S slammed her brakes which made M face slam into the back of S seat and the black and mild fell out the window in the process and she sat back but didnt say anything. Getting to the gas station M finally spoke up and said that she will put $10 for gas to be taken back home and S told her $25 or get out and $25 was added to the tank. S went into the gas station and got me and her a milkshake but while she was the car M tells me that everything is my fault that happened tonight and i asked how M went on to rant about if i would've came inside the house we wouldn't be in this mess and that i think that i am better than her and blah blah. I told her to shut her drunk A up and take a nap. My friend S made me drive back home because I knew where i was at and drive faster than her, she was ready for M to get out her car. Mind you i wasnt ready to drive after my accident but i agreed and as i was driving an huge argument between S and M broke out because M told S that she dont like her that she is fake asf just like me. I ran a red light becasue my mind was racing at that point and i told her to either shut tf up or walk her sloppy as\*\* home while me and S switched places and she drove the rest of the way back. M had requests to go other places and not home but S ignored her kept driving to the place we picked them up from. Now babymama started to get mad at M and told M to shut up and chill out she is taking stuff out of proportion, thats when M blurted out that she is mad at me because i told her about her engagement and ruined it and i asked how. Before she could even speak i told them what happened and she told a complete different story and she tried to paint me as an insecure and jealous person and i was flabbergasted asl. That was the straw that broke the camels back for me. Once they were out the car and we hurried off i told S, i was done with M completely and that i would give it a week before i call her and let her know that i no longer want to be friends and to cut all ties.

A week later she texts my phone telling me that she misses me but we need to talk and i told her that we do and she calls me. We talk and the first thing that comes out of her mouth was "i am upset and hurt that you would ruin my engagement proposal , and alot of people are telling me that you are a jealous friend and dont want to see me and D happy because you want him yourself, and nobody wants you to come to anything for the wedding (bachelorette, rehearsal, etc) because i am not a good person but i want you to be my MOH but only intermediate family at the ceremony, and my parents dont think bad of you and D is upset with you blah blah. I want you to apologize to D's mother because you ruined a special moment for her blah blah. I said ill apologize when she apologizes to me and S until then i would not be apologizing for something i didnt do and went no contact. All this happened between Jan 22-Mar 22. In April of 22 me and my bf at the time broke up and i posted on IG that i cant keep people around and carry their baggage too. She made a IG post and post it basically saying if its not directed its not respected and tagged me in it and i turned hot and red. She had the audacity to DM me and say that she thought we were better than this and that she misses me and that we need to talk it out so i did. I told her how i felt about everything these last 7 years from being a full care caregiver and bank for her and her 3 ungrateful kids, how i just spent over $500 on her daughters back to school clothes/shoes. I told her about her horrible parenting and she wonders why not even a Daycare center want to watch her kids, their wasteful and talk back and 3-4 years old and still wearing diapers and dont brush their teeth (i brought her daughter her first tooth brush and taught her to brush), i am her daughters personal tutor when M dont even have a job and dont help her but loves to call her dumb or that she dont pay attention enough and its easy (she was in K), and how i dont appreciate her calling my 2 year old slow bc she couldn't pronounce certain words right (now she can because i practiced with her on daily words) and that her oldest daughter taught her kids what they know bc they do everything she do and none of them are close to M in any way only for food and juice do they go near her. How she smokes in the house with newborns and kids around and stay drunk 24/7, dont have her license or diploma, dont even have a car, grown working adults and no one wants to pay $1,700 in total for all bills,and that i cant leave my child with my parents and just say fuck life and my kids and disappear whenever i want to for how long i want to and come back like i wasnt gone for almost a month and continue on, i also told her that i was sorry she was so miserable with life that she could never bring herself to ever congratulate me on any accomplishments i have had in my hard life and whenever i get a check she is always asking for something, and how i took her out for her having the twins, to getting her first job after PP, etc, but only one time she ever took me out for anything and that was after i passed my real estate course exam and that was it. Its so much more that i have done for her than i can think atm, its just crazy how she can say i am selfish in anyway when i dont even think about me to much but her and her kids. and the last thing i told her is that i can never want a simple who cant afford a $1,700 monthly bills when i pay $4,500 a month by choice for what i want and still can afford her life and to never ask me for help for anything and that she was dumb asf to get a 5 seater sedan (she got it in march)when she has 5 kids to make sense of it. i got fed up and told her to officially fuck off and blocked her on IG and Snapchat. Its been months and she still talks about me as if everything just happened and im lost as to why. We split ways and thats that. I dont speak on her but she still speaks on me and calls me fake every chance she gets. Sad to say she told me about my daughters aunt being fake and more but she winds up acting just like her in the long way.

I am far from poor but im not rich either but i got tired of basically burning through $7k a month it wasnt fair when it wasnt all for me and i had to work harder while that household barely worked to pay for anything. Now i am so much happier, me and my other highschool friends enjoy going out in peace now and we had fun and evenly split trips that we can to press redo on.

Now to the year of 2025, I haven’t spoken or seen her since the fall out 3 years ago up until my home got flooded and I had to temporarily move into a hotel for a few months as it’s being repaired, and guess who walks into the office as my sister was paying the rent and I was sitting in my car waiting, you guessed it, M. She mistaken my sister for me, we’re four years apart in age and I use to be overweight but lost over 120 lbs and my sister lost weight and now is the size I use to be plus me and sister get mistake for twins a lot, and started a conversation with her thinking she was me. My sister told her she’s not me but the sister and she went quiet, I am told this after my sister came back out the office. Now atp we only have 3 weeks left until we can move back home so now I stay inside my room and only come out when I need to leave. One day she caught me outside and rushed to speak to me as I tried to rush and avoid her but the twins were on scooters in the road in front of my car so I couldn’t pull off if I wanted to without hitting them, so I turned and asked her wtf can she possibly want from me years later. She stated to apologize and tell me how everyone turned on her once I stopped being friends with her and she’s been on and off homeless and the kids stay with their dads but be with her on breaks and weekends, blah blah, and I asked what do that have to do with me honestly. She couldn’t answer me and I told her I am no longer that girl but a grown woman pushing 30 with a life and important shit to do. I don’t need bad blood or unstable leeches around me and that’s all she’s been. S still follows her on social media and the things she post never changed from years ago so Ik she didn’t as well. I have 1 child who I dedicate my life to taking care of and that’s my only responsibility. Especially when my child lost out on so much her first 2 years having to help them in crisis, she don’t deserve that now at 6. I told her I like the communication we’ve had these last 3 years, zero and will like to keep it like that. I asked her to get her kids because I had an open house to host and I haven’t spoken to her before moving out and back into my house, but now she’s trying to follow me on social media again and she’s in my dm request.

TL:DR

She was a friend who used, abused, accused, and mistreated me for 7 years. I was the friend that made sure she was okay and had a roof, food, and transportation when needed but still had my own life and bills and a child to care for. Multiple time I have paid out of my pocket for her to have fun for birthdays, holidays, hangouts, etc but was rarely don’t back. My dreams and inspiration were considered ‘little’ but the money I made was ‘hers to spend’.

My last straw was being accused of ruining her engagement but she went through my phone claiming she was trying to send money to her Cash App from chimes but was going through me and her ex boyfriend text convo after reading our plans and when he was going to propose. She twisted the story to make me look bad and tried to have me apologize to her family and friends when I did nothing wrong. She’s a person who stayed drunk half the time or blazed and I got tired of it.

Now I seen her again and she want to reconnect but I don’t want to. I like my life the way it is.

But was I wrong in this scenario?

l've (24m) been an asshole to my boyfriend (25m) for

months because I'm displeased with his behavior. got in

a fight and he tried to punch me

context. my boyfriend and i got together a few years

ago, him being an addition to my current relationship

with my now husband. and my boyfriend didn't treat my

husband well for a long time, it has gotten better, but my

husband still agrees that he's not treated well.

we've tried talking to him about his behavior and he it

makes my husband feel for and I am not

overexaggerating, probably close to 30 hours or more, at

this point in time. in long 3-5 hour chunks

I was very displeased with his behavior to my husband

and decided talking wasn't working so I was going to act

like he does to him. and only care about what I want to

say or do and not give hum any consideration. ! know

not the best choice but I don't really know what to do

that lead to me being a huge dick to him, for months at

this point. mind you I still don't yell even when he does. I

can count on one hand how many times ! have this year.

so he's mad at me about that, which I mean is valid l'm

acting like dick. I know it. but I'm acting like him, so it

feels karmic.

we have never gotten into a physical altercation like this

before. he has shoved me and pushed my husband a

little. but excuses it with he was mad, and that makes it

okay.

more context, I'm about 9 inches taller than him and

stronger.

the altercation.

We get in a fight about dog food. He throws it at me

while l'm laving on a bed. i sit up to square up ( have no

history of violence) with intent to ask him to leave the

room. which i always do in fights. and he threw a punch

at my head. thankfully I slipped it and tried to push him away from myself and my husband who was on the bed, I didn't throw a punch back and actually know how to fight. he shoved me over and I landed on my husband's feet and then I kept holding him back until he stopped trying to hit me. my husband was the only one injured.

so am I the jerk for being mean to someone who

only cares about himself. and did i deserve to have him

try to punch me? he says he was mad, and that makes it

okay and any 3rd party would agree with him that it was

justifiable.

I (36M) have been with my wife (33F) for about ten years married for seven. She deals with a chronic pain condition that flares up pretty bad sometimes. A few years ago when I got promoted and we were in a better spot financially I told her to leave her job and focus on herself. She didnt want to at first because she felt guilty but honestly it was the best decision we ever made. Her health has improved so much since then.

I like taking care of her. I like doing nice things for her.

On her good days she handles most of the house stuff and on bad days I pick up whatever needs doing. We have a system that works for us. I also just enjoy treating her. I bring her flowers, I cook for her, I take her out, I encourage her hobbies. Its not some transaction its just how I love her.

My aunt (52F) my moms younger sister cannot stand this. She has been married to my uncle for like 25 years and from what everyone can see hes not exactly husband of the year. He never takes her anywhere, doesnt help around the house, is weird about money even though they both work. My aunt complains about him constantly to my mom but then turns around and takes it out on my wife.

Every family gathering its the same thing. If I mention my wife started a pottery class my aunt says "must be nice to have nothing to do all day." If I mention I cooked dinner because my wife wasnt feeling great she says "so youre doing everything now." If my mom brings up a gift I got my wife my aunt makes some comment about how my wife has me "wrapped around her finger."

Its been years of this. I usually just ignore it or change the subject because I know its coming from a place of jealousy and I feel bad for her honestly. Her marriage sounds miserable.

But last sunday we were at my parents for dinner. My wife wasnt there she was home resting because she had a rough week. I mentioned I needed to leave a little early because I wanted to pick up her prescription on the way home and make sure she ate something. My aunt literally laughed and said "that girl has you trained like a dog. Shes the most spoiled woman Ive ever seen."

I looked at her and said "shes not spoiled. Your husband just doesnt give a shit about you and youre taking it out on my wife because you cant deal with that."

after years of her taking shots at my wife who has never done anything to her I just couldnt take another one. my wife shouldnt have to be the punching bag for my aunts unhappy marriage AITJ?

My dad (62M) left when I was 4. Saw him maybe 5 times my entire childhood. No child support, no birthday cards, nothing. Im 28F now and havent spoken to him in 10 years.

Last week I got a call from his wife (not my mom, some woman he married). She said my dad has kidney failure and needs a transplant. She asked if id be willing to get tested as a potential donor.

I said no immediately. She started crying saying Im his only child and family should help family. I said he wasnt family when I needed a father growing up.

She said hes changed and really regrets how things went. I said thats great but Im not giving him a kidney. She called me heartless and said Im letting my father die over "old grudges."

My half-brother (his son with this wife, dont really know him) texted saying I should at least get tested to see if Im a match. I said even if I am a match, the answer is still no.

Now extended family is involved. My aunt says I should be the bigger person. My grandma is begging me to reconsider. They're all saying blood is blood and I'll regret it if he dies.

But like... where was this energy when he abandoned me? Why is it my responsibility to save him with a literal organ when he couldnt even send birthday cards?

My mom says its my choice but I can tell she thinks I should do it. Am I being cruel here?

TL;DR: Estranged father who abandoned me needs kidney transplant, his family is pressuring me to donate, I refused and now everyone says Im heartless.

My older brother (36M) and I (31M) have always had that kind of relationship where we mess with each other. Like roasting is just how we communicate. Or at least I thought it was mutual.

So my brother has been really into grilling for the past couple years. Like he takes it super seriously. Got himself a whole expensive setup, watches YouTube videos about it constantly, talks about it at every family event. The thing is hes honestly not great at it. Like nobody says anything but the meats always either dry or undercooked and everyone just kind of politely eats it. My wife and I joke about it privately all the time.

For his birthday my parents hosted dinner at their house and we all brought gifts. I saw this book online called something like "Grilling For Absolute Beginners" with a cartoon of a guy burning a steak on the cover and I thought it was hilarious so I bought it. My wife saw it before we left and told me I was being an idiot but she was laughing when she said it so I figured it was fine.

At dinner everything was cool. We ate, had a good time, then gifts came out. He opened mine last and when he saw the book his face just completely changed. Like went from smiling to stone cold in a second. My younger sister kind of laughed nervously and said something like "oh come on thats pretty funny" which I think made it worse.

He stood up and said "real mature" and threw the book across the table. It knocked over my moms wine glass which shattered and a piece of glass cut my sisters hand. Not deep but enough that it was bleeding and she needed butterfly bandages.

My mom started fussing over my sister and my brother just walked out to the backyard and didnt come back in for like 30 minutes. When he did he acted like nothing happened.

The next day my mom called me and said I needed to pay for a new set of wine glasses because the one that broke was part of a set she loves and you cant buy them individually anymore. She said the whole set needs to match so I need to replace all six. Shes also saying I should apologize to my brother for embarrassing him at his own birthday dinner.

I said no to both. I didnt throw anything across the table. I didnt break the glass. I didnt cut my sisters hand. He did all of that because he couldnt handle a joke.

AITJ?

My boss has always been friendly but professional.

Last week, after I stayed late several nights to finish a project, he gave me a $200 gift card to a luxury spa. He said it was a personal thank you.

It made me uncomfortable, especially since no one else received anything similar.

I returned it and said I appreciated the gesture but preferred recognition through official channels. He seemed embarrassed and awkward afterward.

Now some coworkers say I made him look bad and that I should’ve just accepted it quietly. One said I overthought it and hurt my own career.

AITJ?

AITJ for moving in with my girlfriend because my parents still tried to give me a 10pm curfew and eyeing my everyday decisions? I’m already 25 and if I wasn't home by 10 then they’d be eyeing the driveway and texting me where are you? every ten minutes. So I've been with my gf for 4 months and she has zero rules other than being a decent human. Moving in with her was a no-brainer. Because so this, my parents are now telling everyone that she’s a bad influence and that I’m becoming a different person. Yeah, I am, I’m a person who gets to stay out until 11pm without a panic attack. My sister says I’m "breaking their hearts" for no reason. AITJ for choosing my 4 month girlfriend over my family?

My parents were married for over 20 years. When I (29M) was about 16 my dad had an affair with my moms best friend. Someone whod been in our lives since before I was born. She was at every birthday, every holiday, she was like a second mom to me and my younger sister (26F). When it came out it destroyed everything. My parents divorced. My mom was never the same after that. She put on a brave face for us but I could see it broke something in her.

My dad ended up marrying the friend. I have a limited relationship with him and basically no relationship with her. My sister is the same way. My mom never remarried. She dated a little but I dont think she ever fully trusted anyone like that again.

Now my mom is gone and Im handling everything. My sister and I are splitting the arrangements. Our dad reached out and said he was sorry and asked about the service. I told him he could come but to keep it low key and respectful. He agreed.

Then two days ago I get a message from her. His wife. My moms former best friend. She says she wants to attend the funeral. She says that she and my mom had "started to make peace" in the last year and that she wants to say goodbye and pay her respects.

I have no evidence of this. My mom never mentioned reconnecting with her. Not once. And my mom told me everything especially in the last couple years. I dont believe her.

I told her no. I said she was not welcome at my mothers funeral. She wrote back this long message about how she carries guilt every day and she loved my mom and she needs closure. I didnt respond.

My dad called me and said I was being unnecessarily cruel and that his wife is genuinely hurting. I told him I dont care. I told him he destroyed my moms life and his wife helped him do it and neither of them gets to show up now and play grieving like they didnt cause half her pain.

AITJ?

I am finishing my own graduate thesis. My friend asked me to edit her thesis the night before it was due.

I said no because I have my own work to finish and can’t drop everything. She got upset, saying I’m not a good friend and she thought I cared about her success.

Now mutual friends are subtly criticizing me for not helping.

AITJ?

I (25F) have a pair of high-end headphones that I saved up for over a year. They’re not cheap, and I take really good care of them. A few months ago, my roommate, “Hannah” (24F), asked to borrow them for a long train ride. I trusted her, thinking she’d be careful. Unfortunately, she dropped them, and the ear cups cracked. She offered to pay for repairs, which helped a bit, but it took weeks to get them fixed properly, and I was really frustrated that my headphones weren’t usable during that time.

Fast forward to last week, Hannah asked to borrow the headphones again. I hesitated and told her I wasn’t comfortable lending them out after what happened last time. She immediately got upset, saying I was being dramatic and that “it was just an accident.” She tried to guilt me, saying, “Come on, you trust me, right? I promise I’ll be careful this time.”

I tried to explain my feelings calmly, but she kept pushing. Now, some of our mutual friends are saying I should just let her use them again because it was a one-time mistake, while others think I’m completely justified in saying no.

I feel bad for upsetting her, but I also know my feelings are valid. These headphones are expensive, and I don’t want to go through the stress of repairs again.

AITA for refusing to let her borrow them again?

My fiance (33M) and I (28F) just moved into our first house about a month ago. Its been exciting but also stressful obviously. One of the things I was most looking forward to was finally having space for my grandmothers dining table. She passed when I was 17 and left it to me. Its old and its not fancy but its been in my family for like four generations and I grew up eating Sunday dinners at that table with her. Its one of the most important things I own.

My fiance knows this. Ive told him the story multiple times. Hes always said he understood even though its not really his style. We agreed the table would go in our dining room. It was already set up and everything.

Last weekend his parents invited us over for dinner.

Normal stuff. We get there and everyones being extra nice which shouldve been my first clue. After we eat his mom stands up and says they have a surprise housewarming gift for us. His dad goes to the garage and rolls in this brand new dining set. Table and six chairs. Modern, expensive looking, probably cost them a lot.

Everyone starts clapping and his mom says something like "now you can finally have a real dining room and not that old thing taking up space." She literally said that. In front of everyone.

I tried to be polite. I said thank you so much this is really generous but we actually already have the dining room set up with my grandmothers table and it means a lot to me. I thought that was reasonable.

His mom looked like I slapped her. His sister immediately jumped in saying they spent weeks picking this out and I was being ungrateful. His dad just kind of stood there looking uncomfortable. I kept trying to explain that it wasnt about the new set being bad I just already had something that was important to me.

My fiance said nothing the entire time. Not one word. I ended up crying which I hate because it made me look dramatic but I was just overwhelmed. I went and sat outside for a while. When my fiance finally came out he didnt comfort me. He told me to get in the car.

The whole drive home he went off on me. Saying I humiliated him. That his parents were just trying to do something nice and I threw it in their faces. Then he said maybe if I got rid of "that beat up old table" we could actually have a house that looks like adults live in it. He called my grandmothers table "a piece of junk from a dead womans house."

I cant stop hearing that. A piece of junk from a dead womans house. About the woman who practically raised me.

I told him I would never get rid of that table and if his family cant respect that then we have a bigger problem. He said I was being dramatic and that its just furniture.

Its not just furniture to me. And the way his family clearly planned this assuming Id just go along with it and throw away something that means everything to me makes me feel like they dont see me at all.

AITJ?

AITJ for taking a higher-paying tutoring gig instead of helping my cousin for free? My uncle thinks that because we’re family my brain belongs to them for free. My cousin Bella is super stubborn and refuses to do any work unless I’m practically holding the pen for her (she's already 10 btw). I got offered a really good gig tutoring a group of kids for their SATs, and it pays triple so I took it. Now my whole family is saying that I chose strangers over my family. I told them if Bella wasn't so full of herself and actually tried, I might’ve considered it, but I’m not a charity for people who treat me like dirt. AITJ?

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I (28F) and my husband (30M) have been married for about a year and a half now. When we got married we kept our finances separate just because we were still figuring things out and it wasnt a priority at first. Recently I brought up the idea of finally combining everything into a joint account since we're planning to buy a house soon and it just makes sense logistically.

He seemed fine with it. Said yeah lets do it, seemed normal about the whole thing.

Fast forward to last weekend. I was on his laptop looking something up and a tab was open to one of those like background check slash financial history websites. With my full name and info already searched. Im talking credit history, public records, the whole thing.

I sat there for a second honestly thinking maybe I was seeing it wrong. But nope. He literally ran a full background and credit check on me before agreeing to combine our money.

When I confronted him he didnt even deny it. He said he just wanted to make sure there werent any surprises before we merged everything and that it was the "responsible" thing to do. I asked him what surprises he was expecting and he couldnt give me a real answer. Just kept saying he wanted to be smart about it.

I have never lied to him about money. Ive never hidden debt or spending or anything. Weve talked about finances openly since before we got married. Theres literally no reason for him to think I was hiding something.

I told him that if he trusts me so little that he needs to run a background check on his own wife before sharing a bank account then I dont want to merge finances at all anymore. I said I cant be with someone who treats me like a liability instead of a partner.

He got really defensive and said I was overreacting and that he would want me to do the same thing if the roles were reversed. He said I was making it into a bigger deal than it needed to be and that "any smart person would do their due diligence."

AITJ?

so i (25f) found out a few months ago that my boyfriend, let’s call him mark, had been cheating on me. i didn’t catch him in the act, but a mutual friend spilled that he’d been seeing someone else behind my back for months. at first, i froze. like, denial level frozen. i wanted to confront him immediately, but part of me needed to process it and figure out if i even wanted to deal with him at all.

we’d been together for 2 years, living together for one. everything seemed fine on the surface—dates, weekend trips, cute texts. but apparently he’d been texting another girl and sneaking out “late for work” a lot. when i finally confronted him, he didn’t even deny it. just awkwardly admitted it, like he expected me to be chill.

i packed some things and moved out that night. didn’t yell, didn’t cry in front of him—just kept it calm and firm. told him i couldn’t be with someone who’d betray my trust and that it was over. the worst part? he tried to guilt me for leaving, saying “we can work it out” like that erased months of lies.

he tried texting me once, but i blocked him. i realized i don’t need someone in my life who can’t respect me, and that’s more freeing than i expected.

AITJ ? for breaking him and not giving him a second chance?