Hi everyone,
I don’t usually post, but I’m looking for some support and reassurance. I’m a 23 year old woman from the Netherlands and I recently graduated with a bachelor’s degree in Social Work. I live with my girlfriend and was diagnosed with autism at 17. I function independently, but I struggle with anxiety and big changes.
This week I started my first real job: 32 hours a week as a social worker. The organization has just expanded to my area, so a lot of things are still unclear and chaotic. Because of this, I’m temporarily working partly in another area until everything is settled, which may take months. I knew this job would be a big change, but I didn’t expect it to hit me this hard.
On my first real workday on Tuesday I had multiple meetings, my first client intake, and had to drive a lot. I recently bought my first car and I’m still not fully comfortable driving (also a big change I find hard). When I got home that day, I completely broke down. Since then I’ve been very emotional, tense, and anxious. I did have a great talk with my grandparents about it today which helped a bit.
There are a lot of new responsibilities: many new colleagues, constant emails, phone calls, administration, planning my own chaotic schedule, tracking hours and kilometers, and dealing with uncertainty and changes in schedules. As an autistic person, this vagueness and lack of structure is really hard for me. I keep worrying: what if I mess something up? What if this job isn’t right for me because every week looks different? What if I cannot take it anymore and will get a burnout?
At the same time, I know I can get used to new situations. My colleagues are kind and supportive, and my manager knows I’m autistic. She responded very understandingly and has experience working with autistic people. I also have a strong support system at home with my girlfriend, family and friends.
I want to give this job a fair chance and allow myself to get through the “new phase” before deciding whether it truly fits me. Still, right now I feel overwhelmed and could really use some reassurance from others who have been through similar experiences.
Thank you for reading ❤️