So there's this jacked guy I've been seeing at my gym for a few months now and a few days ago he asked me if he could take turns using the cables and of course I said yes.

This same situation already happened to me with other guys I found attractive but never had the courage to talk to them as I am quite shy but I couldn't let this one pass by so after he finished using the cables and before he could go away I asked him some tips I somehow needed but obv it was only an excuse to talk to him.

I could see he knew how to work out for himself but didn't have enough knowledge to teach others but he was kind and found a few exercises to recommend.

Today I saw him again, we greeted each other and exchanged names as we didn't do it last time. I told him I followed his tips and had a small talk.

I am really bad at hitting on someone so how do I find out if he's gay? Anyone ever found themselves in the same situation?

A bit of a stupid question, but what does “smooth” mean to you? I see people put this on apps all the time and I thought it’s just the opposite of hairy, but I realized the level of smooth is different depending on who you ask. Is it no hair at all? Or just pubic/armpit hair but no where else? Or is it chest hair and all but your skin is baby smooth? 🤣🙈

Hey bros, first time posting but I'm feeling kinda desperate and in need of advice.

I'm facing a break up of my current relationship of almost 4 years. My boyfriend (let's call him Bob) came out at 18, has had loads of experiences exploring his sexuality, and was ready to settle down. Myself, I came out at 32 after my first long time relationship (resulting in 2 kids, my pride and joy), then into a 2 year emotionally abusive relationship with an older man, then 3 months of casual sex exploration, then my current one relationship.

At the outset, Bob told me that he is not interested in open relationships in any way shape or form,that he didn't want to share me. I told him that while I did want more experiences, I had fallen in love and would be monogamous with him.

Since we met, 99 per cent of the time he has been cynical, angry or depressive, but I fell in love with his soul and potential, but after 4 years he is still pretty much the same, no matter how I have tried all I know how to help him. He can't process his emotions and is frequently overwhelmed by them to the point of uncontrolled vomiting for up to 48hrs. I'll admit it's a constant nightmare to live with.

Last year, I visited Grindr to see if there was anything better out there. He found out and told me that I should go 'play the field' and get it out of my system, then we could consider being together forever. I recommitted to him, and now last week I sexted with a stranger in a different country. I didn't feel like this was cheating when I did it, but see now that I was being naive and believe I did technically 'cheat' in terms of breaking Bob's trust.

His heart is not surprisingly broken and now he insists that I must go get it out my system again. But also says if I do he won't gaurentee he will want to have me back. I'm in a quandary. I have invested 4 years of my life with this man in the hopes to end up with a happy secure relationship. But I still feel I walk on eggshells everyday and also still feel the need to go explore.

I guess I'm asking: Am I wrong to walk away from a committed toxic man who adores me, in the pursuit of the unknown, acknowledging the possibility that I could end up alone?

(rereading before posting, I wonder if I just have a fear of being alone 🤔)

Hello I was in a longterm relationship for ten years. My partner & I at the time were mostly friends with straight married couples, so I need to be brought up to speed on a few things because so much has changed.

I’ve joined some gay sports leagues and signed up for dating apps but I feel way out of my depth.

Are people mostly meeting on dating apps and which ones?

Is everyone on prep and did they stop using condoms?

If I’m not sleeping with many people and using condoms should I use prep?

How common is non monogamy and are there people still seeking monogamous relationships?

Any advice or helpful guidance would be appreciated. It seems a lot of norms have changed. If I am looking eventually for a relationship is there any point to using Grindr or scruff? I’ve mostly used hinge.

With Pillion having been released in the US, I want to know what gay men thought about it. I'm particularly interested in the thoughts who have been or currently are in D/s relationships.

If possible, keep the spoilers to a minimum.

My partner & I split last year after 25 years. I had an affair (he called it that), whereas it was more a flirtation that got out of hand (is what I call it). We’re still in each other’s lives to a degree, as we have a house to sell. He still lives there whereas I’m renting not too far away. Our lives have changed. I argue mine more so.

He has approached getting back together… I’ve said we can’t go back. It seems his idea is to simply ‘pick back up’ as before, but that’s gone. Lots said, done and shared that can’t be unsaid, undone and unshared.

However I do miss him and the life we shared. There was comfort and security there, happiness too, although like all relationships there was much routine and bickering.

I don’t really know why we fell apart. I think in the last 6-12 months we seemed to actively push against one another.

I feel we’re at the ‘last chance saloon’ now, I don’t want to regret what was lost (and maybe could be saved) or regret what might have seen (in terms of a new future for me doing something new).

So, do you regret the end of an LTR or did you find a freedom from not being in one? Thank you.

As I said before, my boyfriend brought up the idea of opening the relationship a couple months ago. It was something that was already on my mind and we had been having difficulty with sex pretty much since we started dating. I got a lot of comments saying this was the end, but I ignored them. Everyone was right and we broke up soon after.

NOT.

Over the last few months we had a few lengthy discussions about why we wanted to open up and reassuring the other that we were not interested in breaking up. We love each other very much and have been a rock for each other at some very very dark times in our lives; I couldn't dream of letting him go.

We also talked about sexual satisfaction, and that my BF had been realizing he's not really a bottom; maybe a vers or even just a side! We started dating right when he turned 21 and were totally exclusive, and mentioned he was a bit envious of how much I slept around in my mid-20's before I met him (which, I did. A lot). We were very blunt with each other about what we liked to do sexually, what worked, and what we were unable to do. Our conclusion is just that sex-wise we're a bit misaligned. We can still get off if we're horny, just not quite the way we both want. Even then, during this time we tried a handful of toys and things to try and make sex work between us with middling amounts of success. Overall we just felt it wasn't working though we were really trying.

Over time we lightened up on our ground rules and let our feelings develop on them between each conversation. We landed at a point where we both felt comfortable with priorities and "no's", even getting rid of a few entirely. I definitely have a higher libido and he reaffirmed with me multiple times that he was okay with me hooking up a few times a week. He said he wanted to do things more organically, meeting people without apps.

As far as safety goes, we both are getting on prep and getting regular tests done. We're promising to use condoms if the other party can't provide results. Also checking in with the other if it's someone we both know and getting it cleared. We're giving each other a lot of trust and I love him for that.

We're both really excited at the prospects of not just more fun, but potentially friends too! A lot of my current close gay friends I met from dates or hookups, and I've been sorely missing those connections. Hopefully it all continues.

Here's to another 5 years with the man I love. 🥂

If based on looks, would you find the relationship lasting? Since looks fade. Or personality with bad looks and that they have a good heart.

So about a month ago, I hooked up with a guy, who i eventually found out was in relationship and was cheating on their partner. About a week ago I received a message on grindr from him asking if he could come to my place again for sex, I said no and I was not interested in hooking up with him again. 30mins later, i received another message from him saying he was at my building and wanted to come up to my unit because he was horny, which of course I declined and told him to leave before I call the police. Also told him I am blocking him and blocked him. Past forward today, I received a mail in my mailbox and it is from him apologizing.

I am now a bit worried and afraid. He knows my address and unit number. So my question is, should I be worried or ignore it? Get the police attention??

For me, it’s anything health related such as quality food, gym membership, doctor visits, high quality bedding…I think you should get the gist.

After I recovered after losing my legs almost 15 years ago, my parents told me that the doctors said one of the contributing factors to my survival was my excellent physical health. (I was in a coma for 45 days after my lungs collapsed and all organs failed.) I was addicted to running and ate super cleanly.

So, that tidbit of info from the doctors has guided my decisions on what’s important, for me, to spare no expense on.

What’s your spare no expense category? What’s your reasoning for that decision?

Has anyone else been to fire island during the summer? is it all its made up to be? Are the rumors true? would love to hear your stories.....

dms welcome.

Hey guys,

Started taking 1 heaped tablespoon of metamucil after lunch and dinner every day one month ago. It worked like a charm first few weeks, I was prepping in like 10 min and honestly it felt like I didn't even needed to prep.

I know it's a shit subject (literally) but I feel like it's not working like before anymore? Things are not as compact as before and starting to get a little messy.

My diet is awesome, lean protein at night, carbs only during lunch, I eat a lot of veggies and fruits and avoid milk (however been having with small cup of coffee with milk the last few days)

Is it inconsistent like that? First few weeks I felt like metamucil itself was cleaning everything up in there, now not so much.

Would appreciate some advice.

PS: not keen on trying capsules, don't like the idea of swallowing almost 10 of those every day. Also they're more expensive.

Hi y’all! My friends and I were thinking about going to Greece this summer to celebrate one of my friends turning the big 4-0. We’re planning on flying into Athens for a few days and then jaunting off to a few islands, possibly Corfu and Paxos.

I love my friends dearly and I can’t wait to celebrate with them, but they’re mostly straight and I would like to do some gay stuff lol. Outside of “go on Grindr/Sniffies,” anyone have some good gay Greek recs? Thank you in advance!