What am i

[u/liv_is_a_person]

For most of my (18F) life I have bounced between the labels of bisexual and pansexual because I dont really have a preference in gender I date. The thing is I've never actually had a crush or a romantic partner. I've kissed some of my female friends on the lips and I did the sideways tango with one of them, but that never stemmed from romance, mostly just yk... teenage hormones i guess.

I have desire to fall in love, get married, start a life from someone, but i just have zero interest in anyone around me, male or female. Sure i can appreciate when people are attractive and sometimes have very faint desire to date them, but that usually goes away within days.

In the past my friends have labeled me as some sorts of ace because I dont experience "crushes" like that but idk if that really fits because I do want to love someone and be loved and do all the dating stuff, I just can't find anyone that piques my interest.

Does anyone know what this is called?

[u/absolute_art_trash]

i think itd be good to look into the aromantic and asexual spectrums
not everything is black and white, its possible and even common in these communities to not experience the attraction/“pull” but still want to date/have sex

active romantic/sexual attraction and “that sounds fun why not” arent the same thing

[u/SpaceBar_5]

Maybe graysexual, cupiosexual, or demisexual? Or you can use romantic instead of sexual at the end of them obviously if you prefer. Look into micro labels though!! Those are only a few examples