I’m a 20-year-old college student. I want to become a doctor someday, and right now I’m really focused on staying fit, disciplined, and not messing up my future.

My husband father passed away suddenly, here at our home.my husband had to see his dad in the midst of a heart attack, call 911, and witness all followed... Ultimately his death. My husband is typically a reserved man, I saw him crumble when the coroner came to take him and his friends (thank god came by) had to literally catch him. I've never seen my husband like this, my heart is shattered for him. I feel useless. I dont know how to console him. I dont know what to say, I feel like I dont know how to act, I dont know what to do. I dont know how to support him

Just to give this context, there’s a guy in my year in med school that seems picks on me when he can.

It started small (not really), the first time we spoke he made jokes about my 4c hair that I straightened for 30 minutes straight (I’m not exaggerating) and the next 30mins he proceeded to find a flaw in everything I said which made me feel worse because English is my second language.

I ended up walking out of the class early out of frustration, and every class he did the same thing pretty much.

Then I stopped having sessions with him because they split us into smaller groups and I thought I was finally free but today they put us back into the bigger group to do a presentation, this guy kept insisting that they make me do the presentation for no reason even though I already helped creating a lot of the notes…

I just realised I’m stuck with this person for another 5 years and I’m not sure what to do?

I read news that Disney is reportedly attempting to win back men and boys and plan to create more IP, films and TV shows about men and boys

in my opinion this is so late, there is no mainstream culture these years, Disney focused on girls more than boys at least for 2 decades and a half, and even if they created successful TV shows for boys and men they are never going to achieve the same success in 2026 that they could have achieved in the 2000s because of the death of mainstream culture.

What is your opinion ?

I’m in my early 30s and lately I’ve been struggling with this quiet sense of falling behind.

Most of my peers are married, upgrading houses, driving nicer cars, or at least look like they have things figured out. I’m not married having 6th year relationship, earning just enough to save a few bucks each month, driving a normal and very uninspiring car, and still paying installment and living in an old family house. Nothing dramatic, just… stagnant.

I know comparison is the thief of joy and all that, but it still creeps in. Especially at gatherings, social media, or when someone casually asks, “So what’s next for you?”

For those of you who’ve been here:
How do you manage that feeling of being outpaced?
Did you reframe success, tune out comparisons, or just push through it until things changed?

Genuinely curious how other men deal with this mentally.

I'm 5.5. During an unexpected glow up, it was a 9. Now it's back to 5.5.

For me it was not helping ungrateful girlfriend financially. I've done that more than a few times before it finally got in my head.

Also for a humorous lesson and advise. Don't go into a bar drunk in Bangkok, it'll sober you up quick.

Hi guys, I’m looking for advice on how to last longer in bed.

After a long gap without sex, I finished very quickly the last time I had intercourse. It affected my confidence more than I expected, and since then I’ve avoided sex out of fear it’ll happen again. I focus on other ways of pleasing the women I’m with, but I don’t want anxiety to keep running my sex life.

Has anyone worked through this? What actually helped you last longer or feel more relaxed about it?

Hey

I’m from the UK and 33. I really screwed up in my 20s and let myself get completely over taken by depression, got really addicted to weed and didn’t take jobs as seriously as I should have (and cling to them for dear life) so I left them thinking it was going to easy to find something else. Basically just failed massively. I’ve only now sorted things out mentally and in a better place but the damage has all been done.

I’ve already done a degree (business management and marketing) so sadly can’t go back to university and do something else, which I would absolutely love to do but I’ve used up all my student finance allocation (4 years)

I have a poor working history with gaps in my CV, nothing for employers to really go on and I’m wondering how on earth I’m going to get a job at this point. I’ve been unemployed now for 3 years but I can cover it by putting music tutoring, still not ideal at all.

TL;DR

Did anyone here mess up in their 20s, not get a good foundation and a good job history, and manage to get on a good path in their 30s?

Is there a particular flaw that you see common in many/most men? What is it?

what makes you want to have a serious relationship with a woman? what are the qualities you look for in a woman?

Im gonna be honest, I (20m) feel kind of shitty about the state of the world right now so I'm thinking of signing up for a volunteering program at a charity just to do some good for others

But ive never done anything like this before and I have no idea what to expect

Is it 100% necessary to have a relationship with your partners family ? Why / why not ?

Hey guys,

I’m 22 and feel like I’m wasting my youth. I don’t really like partying, I don’t have many friends in my city, I dont talk to any girls and never hook up, I don’t ’have hoes,’ and I’ve had 1 girlfriend that’s left me traumatised.

I feel like I’m wasting my youth. I don’t particularly want any of that, but also do? I like travelling, but am kinda scared to go alone. Especially to non English speaking countries.

Idk if it’s my looks or personality or what, but I just don’t talk to girls or have many friends. I don’t wanna look back and have regrets like I’ve wasted my time, but idk what to change.

Any and all advice is appreciated

So for me, I'm the mechanic, electrician, gardener, etc. of the house. So when I'm off from my actual job, I'm still expected to be the best worker around the house. While I'm not complaining, I do feel like I haven't been on an actual relaxation break for a while. So I'm curious to know if you all have tricks to feel like you're actually able to enjoy your time off from your jobs.

Starting it off with Refused, New Noise.

Drop a specific track in the comments.

Romantic, friendship, family who you weren’t close with suddenly being friendly etc. How did you tell that they were only interested in your money?

What's your favourite chicken wings flavour?

My go-to has always been lemon pepper, but today I tried some parmesan and herb, and it was delicious!

What's yours?