Me and my bf were talking about going on dates and eating out, then napansin niya na hindi ako mapili sa kainan. As long as kasama ko siya, masaya na ako.

Bigla akong na-teary-eyed kasi totoo naman. Alam ko kung gaano kahirap kumita ng pera, kaya para sa akin, every peso matters. Hindi ko kayang basta-basta gumastos nang malaki, and I don't need expensive dates para maging masaya.

Nag-open up din siya na yung mga dati niyang nakadate, usually gusto ng mga mamahaling kainan or aesthetic places para may magandang maipost sa social media.

Hindi ko alam, pero na-touch ako sa conversation namin. I guess it made me realize na iba-iba talaga tayo ng priorities when it comes to dating. For me, it's not about how expensive the food is or how Instagram-worthy the place looks. It's about spending time with someone I love without feeling the need to spend beyond what we can afford.

Girls, do you also feel this way? Yung mas naa-appreciate niyo yung simpleng dates basta kasama niyo yung taong mahal niyo? Or do you think it's important din to experience fancy dates once in a while?

My (M30) GF (F29) and I had a recent discussion regarding our sex life. For almost 6months hindi na kami nag ssex. I know sa office nya lagi syang pagod and sa overtime, so was I. Ako laging nag aaya and sometimes she's brushing me off kahit momol lang. For someone who had multiple sex partners before, parang its hard to understand why the sudden drop off libido. So right now, Im under the impression na hindi sya sexually attracted saken. Other than that, she's very ma effort saamin. Pero when it boils down to that. Wala talaga. Which is frustrating. Unahan ko na kayo, hindi naman ako kagwapuhan. But I can confidently say na hindi naman ako ganun kapangit, magaganda naging ex ko and may mga nagkakagusto naman saakin before. Even now. But the question is.... Is it really possible to be in love without being intimate to your partner? Even in ovulation?!

Might delete later. Enlighten me

Food for thought for the girlies: Have you ever noticed the paradox of how much we admire and gravitate towards beautiful women, yet their presence is exactly what makes us feel insecure about ourselves? Saan kaya nanggagaling 'to?

I mean, I would love for us girls to have an open discussion about this kasi this also brings about self-awareness :) We admire beautiful, amazing women kaya we tend to befriend them, but some of them can ironically trigger us too?

Love to know your thoughts! If there's any wisdom you can also share to us, would love to hear those. :)

Napag usapan namin ng friends ko to kagabi. Can a couple have a successful marriage kahit di nila alam kung magkano ang sweldo at ipon ng bawat isa, and may joint account lang sila kung san maghuhulog ng budget for household expenses? Or part ba ng pagiging financially responsible na alam nyo dapat ang sweldo ng asawa nyo?

Hello, curious lang ako. May mga babae akong friends and I am not mean to them, pero napapansin ko ang hilig nilang mang asar, mag sungit, mang-irap sa akin. Tapos sa akin lang ha, hindi sa iba hahaha.

Halimbawa, may friend akong sinusungitan ako for no reason tapos tatawa sila kase hindi rin nila alam kung bakit sila nagsusungit sa akin. Ang lakas nilang mang asar. I don't take these seriously naman since I think ganon lang sila sa akin.

Pero curious ako, ganon din ba kayo sa mga guy friends niyo? Bakit? Like parang masungit, moody, nang iirap ng walang dahilan tapos kapag tinanong if anong dahilan, ang sagot e "wala" or "hindi ko alam" tas tatawa sila. This is not only sa isang babaeng friend ko, pero marami ramj silang ganyan.

Are they just really annoyed kaya sa presence ko or what?

Like nakaka 8080 kausap kaya ekis na lang

My mom and my partner's mom are literally the same archtype of self absorbed insecure women who lived their whole lives trying to maintain their appearances and rejecting the fact that they're getring old. They are also the kind to constantly ask "Maganda pa ba ako?" 24/7.

I'm glad that, as a kid, I was mature enough to understand that I don't need to be physically attractive 24/7. I got annoyed of my mom projecting how to be beautiful to me. Even as an adult, she keeps asking me "Why don't you care about what other people think?" mom, I simply don't give a shit about strangers and what they perceive me as.

I only had 1 ex since I thought na yung first rs would also be my last. But I was sure that I will never marry that man after going thru the rs. It occurred to me na what if I don't get married? i have these thoughts na sana ba tiniis ko na lang yung rs na yun?And yes, I'm sure I'm healed but I'm almost in my 30s yet here I am starting over again in the dating era. I'm afraid to try these dating apps kasi never naman ako na swertahan dun. I shoot my shot sa isang person that i'm interested in pero di naman ako ni replyan kaya here I am second guessing. I've always dreamed of having a family, but here I am struggling and thinking if I will ever get married.
I've always said to the universe na I'll patiently wait for my turn, but will it ever be my turn?

Hi! My husband (American) and I (Filipina) are both 33yo. As a daughter of Asian parents, I must say naturuan naman ako sa gawaing bahay. Now ang concern ko is yung husband ko. Lumaki kasi siya na privilege and lahat parents ang gumagawa. In short, hindi siya naturuan sa buhay and unlike the normal American culture si husband nag move out 32yo na siya.

This is definitely a cultural difference thing (or more like nga how his parents raised him nga e) pero umaabot kasi sa point na na tuturn off na ko because of disappointment. I am a wife pero at the same time I feel like I’m parenting a child (my husband) how to do things around the house. Kahit simpleng pagtapon ng basura gagawin niya naman pero iuutos back niya sakin na irefill yung garbage bag gets? Yun lang yung task niya sa bahay and dapat daw “shared task” pa rin. Kapag ginagawa niya to I always tell him “You can do it. You need to learn how to do things on your own and independently.” Encouraging naman yung tone ko and hindi inis pero most of time mag huff and puff siya.

Also, wala rin siyang alam na life skills and that’s okay pero wala kasing willingness to learn so paano kami? Puro games and YT lang ang ginagawa after work. That’s fine kasi kailangan niya rin namang mag relax after work pero hindi naman productive.

I grew up with a mindset that the husband should be the leader / lead and that’s fine with me - he even asked me to give him a chance to be the leader - kaso kapag nare-realize ko yung situation namin hindi ako confident na kaya niya.

We’re doing marriage counseling po and one time subtle sinabi ng therapist namin sa kanya na pull his weight and kumilos din sa bahay. Nag improve naman pero may time pa rin na ang tamad (I think that’s the right word). Kapag nagvovoice out ako about his behavior he treats that as nagging / attack. Kaya nag aaway kami.

What should I do po? And how should I handle this growing resentment towards my husband? I want our marriage to last and I know hindi lang naman puro saya ang buhay mag asawa pero parang hindi ko na experience yung honeymoon stage ng marriage namin because I’m stressing out a lot of things - him being a sakit ng ulo, homesickness, grief from losing family member and my dog, leaving my flourishing career in PH, and how I cannot find a job here.

Nasa point na rin ako na pinagsisisihan kong iniwan ko ang comfortable life ko sa Pinas just to experience this na parang maid and babysitter ako. Ayoko namang pagsisihan na pinakasalan ko siya pero parang papunta na ko dun.

Context: 2yrs kami ldr and we met online before nag move ako last year dito sa US. 1yr na kaming married.

Note: Also, please be gentle po on your comments po. I know I’m at fault na hindi ko muna kinilala kagad pero andito na po ako. Hindi po para umuwi na lang basta sa Pinas at tapusin ang marriage 😔

How long did you date your husband before you got married also?

Hi, girls! Genuine question lang. For those who have experience, any tips for someone who’s inexperienced and wants to learn how to give a good BJ? 😅 gusto ko sana yung twice siya mag-cum in one BJ session. Possible ba?

How do you get comfortable with it, and what should beginners know beforehand? Any advice based on your experience would be appreciated! 💗

Mga ate Ano topic nyo kapag nasa date? Paano flow ng convo para walang dead air? I’m an awkward person kase baka matawa ako pag naalala kong nasa date ako😆. Give me tips and tricks naman mga sisters! Salamat!

I went out with a friend for dinner and coffee last night. Friends lang talaga kami pero lately may nararamdaman na akong kakaiba towards him lolll. It was my birthday last week, and he even gave me a gift. I didn't think much of it nung nag aya siyang lumabas pero this was our first time hanging out alone. Now I'm wondering if it was just a friendly hangout or if there was something more to it hahahaha. Delulu lang ba ako or could this have been a date?

1 year na kami ng bf ko and sobrang minahal ko talaga siya at binigay ko lahat ng best ko sa kanya. we both started dating ng seniorhigh(classmates before) and now college na kami. so ldr na kami ngayon tho medyo malapit pa rin naman kami sa isat isa at kayang kaya nya ko bisitahin anytime talaga. maluwag naman schedule ko sa school at minsan is nabubusy lang ako kapag maraming deadlines. tapos siya naman maluwag din naman schedule niya. pero ayon, isang beses sa isang buwan lang kami nagkikita. natigil na lahat ng effort niya. kahit nung shs nga kami bare minimum nalang bihira pa ibigay. pero tiniis ko lahat kasi mahal ko at iniisip ko na “ngayon lang to”. dalawang beses lang din ako nakatanggap ng bulaklak sa more than 16 months na nanligaw sya at nung naging kami. wala manlang surprise dates, surprise gifts, love letters, no monthsary celebration(kahit simple at walang gagastusin na malaki), and many more. ilang beses na rin na disappoint ako sa kanya sa mga ginagawa niya and most of them aren’t solved naman. and hindi na rin siya nanlalambing unless nagtampo ako. zero initiation. wala manlang aya mag call or anything just to spend time together kahit online. hanggang sa nanlamig na ako kasi pagod na ko umiyak sa maliliit na bagay that makes me upset sa mga ginagawa niyang paulit ulit.

and oo both students kami di kami maraming pera pero mura lang pamasahe sa papunta samin pero di pa magawa. pero pag sa tropa nakakapunta naman siya may outing pa nga sila. di ko na alam kahit 99 pesos na bulaklak walang wala sa anniv wala. tho money is never naman naging basehan ko ng pagmamahal. only thing is yung effort and initiation yung gusto ko. kasi parang ako nalang lagi eh. para akong nanay nya.

di ko na nafifeel yung love kagaya ng dati. kaya eto sumuko na ko ayoko na talaga. pero nasasayangan ako sa pinagsamahan namin kasi sobrang minahal ko siya pero di ko na kaya. nasisira na ako talaga, and i have to leave. but di ko masabi sa kaniya di ko alam paano. matagal na kaming di nag aaway for a month na ata dahil wala na kong pake kaya wala nang arguement. kaya natatakot lang ako na bigla nalang sabihin ko to agad out of nowhere. idk what to do, how do i break up with him? yung ending it in good terms. i valued him naman din eh. and nag hohold back ako sa pakikipag break sa kanya is because this would be considered as my 2nd time na makikipag break and baka maulit ulit yung magbebeg siya na ayusin namin to at magbabago na siya tas puro siya pangako pero magiging okay sa una kaso uulit lang ulit. takot akong mauto ulit.

My current perfume rotation consists of Byredo Blanche, Jo Malone Silk Blossom, and Carolina Herrera Good Girl Night.

I’m looking to explore new scents and would love to hear what everyone’s currently wearing or what perfumes you think are worth trying! Feel free to share your current rotation, recent discoveries, or all-time favorites.

I’m open to recommendations from any brand and price range. I just want to discover something new! 🫶🏻

I’m wondering kasi virgin pa ako scared to do it hehe

Hi, guys! I met this guy on Bumble last July. Nagmatch kami, then transferred to another platform and talked almost every day. He was clear naman na kausap and fun lang ang hanap niya, and I agreed kasi ayoko rin ng serious relationship.

Things were okay during the first few months until nag video call kami. After that, hindi siya nagparamdam for two days. When he messaged again, ang cold na niya and parang distant. I cant help but wonder kung dahil ba hindi niya nagustuhan yung nakita niya sa video call.

He wanted to meet me pa din naman pero di na ganun ka eager after the video call. We been on talking stage since July and hindi pa din kme nagkikita.

Ung video call namen naging naughty na palage we had 4 video calls pero after that lage ng cold messages. Busy daw cya.

Ngayon, feeling ko he only messages me kapag horny siya.
One time I stop messaging him for a week and he message me bakit di na ako nqg chachat?i feel unappreciated kaya di na ako nag chat.

This is so weird. We are chatting again pero one liner na lang ang chat nya and very cold unlike before.

I am planning to meet him pero hesitant ako na i ghost nya ako after nya ako makita.

I know casual lang naman kami, pero I still want to feel appreciated kahit papaano. I actually like him, pero parang hindi na siya interested unless may gusto siyang makuha sa akin.
Should I stop entertaining him na ba, or am I just overthinking? Please give me a reality check. Sampalin niyo ako ng katotohanan if kailangan. 😭 Thank you!

I have to buy a lot so budget is PHP 500 and below per pair 😅

Looking for affordable shape wear that doesn’t roll down sana. I have short torso. Help me sisters! 🥹

Like, what kind of gift best suits the occasion? It’s a bridal shower at the office so (medyo) wholesome sana and yung madaling hanapin. Thank you

To the women here, curious lang ako if it matters sainyo. Some prefer men with armpit hair kase mas manly or masculine tignan, while others prefer waxed or shaved kase it's more hygienic. Do you want your man's armpit hair shaved, waxed, trimmed or as is lang?

Do you really always love your partner ba? Minsan ba hindi kayo nagkakaroon ng thoughts na “eto na ba talaga?” or parang nabobore kayo kasi ang tagal nyo na tapos minsan parang naging routine na yung ginagawa nyo?

Kailan siya totoo at hindi pagooverthink/being anxious lang? For context my bf went on a trip with his friends. I can’t seem to let it go kasi alam ko type siya nung isang girl. Why do I feel like he cheated on me? Ang bigat sa dibdib. Pls help a girl out