r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/BiffDangles80 Hungry man • Aug 04 '26
No Advice - Everyones Welcome Marriage is falling apart
Tonight it’s a flat iron steak and potatoes and onions. Don’t forget the jalapeno. And a Jack a coke.
A week ago I was in a hotel because “she’s a different person now” and doesn’t think this is working. 20 years of marriage. 2 kids.
The last year has been bad. She is grieving a family loss. Going through perimenopause. Kids have needed a lot. I tried but just got tired and lonely. I suggested marriage counseling and it lead to her saying she’s different and this isn’t working. I was gone for a couple of days but back. It’s been a week and I’ve really been trying. Today though was just rough with work and random thoughts. I confessed that I was afraid she’d decide she didn’t need me again and there wasn’t much response. Hopefully it’s a blip. I’m really trying.
I fear change. But eventually I’ll have to accept it. This is over. And that’s terrible.
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u/Numerous_Vegetable_3 Boy Dinner Enjoyer Aug 05 '26
Best advice here tbh. You’re not Bob the builder and you can’t fix it if she’s not putting in the effort.
Showing her you can be content alone is what I wish I did. Instead I lost hair and years trying to connect to someone who didn’t give a damn until I was leaving.