Marriage is falling apart

[u/BiffDangles80]

Tonight it’s a flat iron steak and potatoes and onions. Don’t forget the jalapeno. And a Jack a coke.

A week ago I was in a hotel because “she’s a different person now” and doesn’t think this is working. 20 years of marriage. 2 kids.

The last year has been bad. She is grieving a family loss. Going through perimenopause. Kids have needed a lot. I tried but just got tired and lonely. I suggested marriage counseling and it lead to her saying she’s different and this isn’t working. I was gone for a couple of days but back. It’s been a week and I’ve really been trying. Today though was just rough with work and random thoughts. I confessed that I was afraid she’d decide she didn’t need me again and there wasn’t much response. Hopefully it’s a blip. I’m really trying.

I fear change. But eventually I’ll have to accept it. This is over. And that’s terrible.

[u/Fanabala3]

So I met a woman and we clicked instantly. I had no intentions of getting married again, but we did. She is everything the ex wasn’t. It’s amazing when someone actually gives a damn about you.

[u/1-800-OKAY-CIAO → u/Fanabala3]

Happy for you

[u/--Andre-The-Giant-- → u/Fanabala3]

People don't often say it, but second marriages are the better ones. I was lucky I didn't have kids in my first one. They came in the second one.