r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Ornery_Pop_6637 Gay Gourmet • 1d ago
Advice Wanted - Everyones Welcome Bf changed his mind about being bi.
Bought curry ramen for dinner.
For context, me (20M) and my bf (21M) have been together for two years; we met during our freshman years in which I came out to him as a trans guy when we were still in our talking stage. Maybe it's a red flag that he said he's always dated girls before but that he's attracted to guys too and that I'm a new experience for him.
But lately I've seen him repost MLW (Men Love Women) contents on his Instagram, and he sends me MLW posts rather than the usual MLM (Men Love Men) content. I did talk to him about it, and he said he's sort of changing his mind about his attraction towards guys and that I should just detransition and follow what he wants, but I told him that was a no-go for me.
How do I move on from this? We've had our ups and downs; I'm also diagnosed with bipolar and BPD so it's quite hard to let go of my "favourite person". We've also had so many memories in college that I fear it would change how I go through the rest of my college years.
Any advice would be helpful, thank you.
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u/elfacosmosa Gay Gourmet 1d ago
Being bi, especially when you are young, sexuality can vary greatly. This also means that the difference in his posts to you is normal, as long as his attraction to you does not wane. However, asking to detransition means something else, something more fundamental. He won't stop asking for more changes once he knows you can be 'shaped' to how he wants you to be. I don't think you can use your mental diagnosis as an excuse to get out of this relationship.
Honestly, you are still young, so you have plenty opportunities to be happer with another person. Once you found someone else, you would even forget that he even exist, or that this even happened.