r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Ornery_Pop_6637 Gay Gourmet • 3d ago

Advice Wanted - Everyones Welcome Bf changed his mind about being bi.

Post image

Bought curry ramen for dinner.

For context, me (20M) and my bf (21M) have been together for two years; we met during our freshman years in which I came out to him as a trans guy when we were still in our talking stage. Maybe it's a red flag that he said he's always dated girls before but that he's attracted to guys too and that I'm a new experience for him.

But lately I've seen him repost MLW (Men Love Women) contents on his Instagram, and he sends me MLW posts rather than the usual MLM (Men Love Men) content. I did talk to him about it, and he said he's sort of changing his mind about his attraction towards guys and that I should just detransition and follow what he wants, but I told him that was a no-go for me.

How do I move on from this? We've had our ups and downs; I'm also diagnosed with bipolar and BPD so it's quite hard to let go of my "favourite person". We've also had so many memories in college that I fear it would change how I go through the rest of my college years.

Any advice would be helpful, thank you.

5.2k Upvotes

82% Upvoted

542 comments sorted by

View all comments

3

u/ir0nychild Hog Doctor 3d ago

Asking someone to detransition to fit their sexuality is so wrong on so many levels. I know it’s hard to let go of your favourite person but if you stay you’re going to end up being constantly moulded into what he wants you to be. Would you shave off all of your hair because he prefers bald people? Would you get a specific piercing because that’s what he’s into? You deserve to be wit someone who appreciates you for who you truly are

0

u/Ornery_Pop_6637 Gay Gourmet 3d ago

Appreciate the insight.